What Women Want To Hear Via Text

Texting women is an acquired act, an art that many men have yet to master. Learning how to do it right is essential for dating success. Text too much and it'll look like you're over-eager or have no life. Send dull texts and she'll think you're a boring guy in real life. So what's the answer? Shorter, fewer, wittier and more interesting texts!

Do you know what women want to hear from you when they read one of your texts?

Do they want to hear every last detail about your long commute, or your annoying co-worker? No! They want you to make them smile, feel special, and ache to see you again.

How good is your texting game right now? If you’re texting too much, the chances are that it isn’t good at all.

Here’s the thing: attraction is not solely built via texting. Attraction should already there before you and a girl start texting each other.

Basically, when a girl already likes you, you need to enhance the attraction by employing the “Less is More” rule. What this means is that you don’t send her mundane texts, instead you keep things light, fun and flirty.

Don’t Go There

If, however, you employ the “More is More” rule, you’ll come across as needy, overwhelming, desperate, and you actually might scupper all that attraction she felt for you in the first place.

Here are a few of our top tips to keep things cool in the texting department and use texting for ramping up the attraction.

Showcase Your Witty Personality

Whether you are texting a girl you just met or a long term partner, it is important to keep things fun, which basically means coming across as someone who is a real treat to be around. To do this, showcase your witty personality and put some effort into your messages.

Being funny via text can be tricky; you can’t use your facial expressions, gestures or tone of voice as you would in person. To help you out, you might want to borrow a few one-liners from your favorite comedians and drop them into your texts at the right moment.

But always keep things respectable. Women are not interested in crude humor. It probably won’t be appreciated, and might even come across as distasteful and disrespectful. You need to find the line between light-hearted teasing and vulgarity; don’t cross it!

For example, if you’ve invited a woman over for dinner you might check in earlier in the day with something like, “just slaughtered the pig, picked the veggies in my garden and made my own wine. Should be ready for you around 9.” This not only tells her when to arrive, but also that she can expect a fun night with a witty guy.

Wondering What Women Want to Hear? That You Have a Life

You know those people who always seem to be online? You find yourself wondering whether they actually have a life outside of the online world because they’re just always there.

Don’t play games by going out of your way to ignore her, but live your life. When she texts, don’t feel the need to respond three seconds later. If you are working on an important project, continue. If you are having coffee with your aunt and uncle, enjoy your time with them.

Also, don’t be afraid to let her know you’ve got plenty of other awesome stuff to keep you occupied. Shoot her a quick text while you’re out with your friends, she’ll know you’re thinking of her, but also that you have a fun and sociable life that she could become a part of.

Keep It Short

Good text game means preserving some mystery about yourself. What women want to hear is NOT every detail about your day. Instead, drop a few hints about this and that, but you don’t reveal every single detail about everything that’s going on. This builds anticipation and leaves something to talk about when you give her a call or see her.

The moment you start sending lengthy texts with all the inside scoop on yourself is the moment you lose her interest. You’ve killed the mystery – and maybe your chance at long-lasting romance.

I can’t tell you how good this is for ramping up her interest and her desire.

For instance,

“I have tickets for a killer concert tonight. Next time you should come ;)”

Save The Fluff Until You Meet Up

The problem with sending too many texts is that eventually you will say things you wish you hadn’t. Not bad things, but dull things. Basically just fluff and filler, and that is definitely not what women want to hear. It’s what naturally happens when you say too much. The more you say, the more fluff comes out.

Employing the Less is More rule means you only send her your best chat. The minute you use the More is More technique is the minute you start sending her everything – from your dog’s medicine to what you ate for lunch. Women don’t want to hear it. Yawn. Yawn. Major downer.

Save all the random banter for when you guys meet up. If you’re finding it’s hard to stop yourself from texting too much, the best advice is to meet her as soon as possible. Why wait?

Keep Simple Attraction Principles In Mind

It’s important that you think about all the times you’ve been texting a girl who took ages to respond. You waited and waited, and she finally replied with a sentence or two. You felt anxious when she didn’t reply, and then huge relief when she finally did. It made you want to text her even more.

From now on, it’s time to reverse the script. Keep her interested by refraining from texting too much. Don’t play games, but don’t focus on maintaining constant communication with her.  Remember: what women want to hear is not every detail about your day. Go beyond “Hey, What’s up?” and start making her crave you and your texts!

About Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.

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