Social Media Signs A Guy Likes You: Your Modern Day Love Guide

It's completely obvious to everyone else. All your girlfriends are telling you to go for it. All his buddies are giving you MASSIVE hints. But you're still scratching your head in the corner trying to read the signs whether a guy likes you or LIKES you (big L baby).

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Sound like a familiar story?

Every last female on the face of our magnificent planet has scratched her head and asked herself the age-old question of “what are the signs a guy likes you?” at least once (and Googled it at least 500 times). Confidence and having a life have nothing to do with it – we all question ourselves every now and then, especially when it comes to guys.

The beginning of a relationship can be tricky, especially attempting to decipher the signs a guy likes you. As much as they hate to admit it, guys play games too, and I’m not talking about Chess or Fantasy Football. Sometimes, dudes are confusing!

Well ladies, what can I say – thank your lucky little stars for Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. Without them, we’d be in the garden tearing out petals like our grandmas – “He loves me, he loves me not.


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Signs A Guy Likes You In The Digital Age

Learn how to master these modern day tools of romance, and you’ll be reading the 10 sure-fire signals that scream “let’s take it to the next level” in no time! (No petals involved!)

1. He Asks You Questions

When you send him a message, does he respond with a question? If so, this is a tantalizing clue that he’s done his personal development homework and knows that asking questions is a GREAT way to keep the conversation flowing and find out more about you. Whether he is asking you what you’re doing over the weekend, what your thoughts are about an important news story, or what’s on your play list, asking you SOMETHING shows a genuine interest. On a side note, if he asks you how to score a date with your best friend; send him packing. NEXT!

2.  He Replies To Your Messages Promptly

In the era of WhatsApp, that whole ‘waiting three days to respond’ rigmarole is redundant. He knows that you can see that he has read your message, and if he likes you then he isn’t going to keep you waiting because he WANTS to write to you. No girls, he doesn’t have to reply immediately (hey, we’ve all got other stuff going on), but if he is into you, he will make it a habit to respond pretty darn fast. Obviously, everyone has busy lives and little annoying things called “work” or “school”, so don’t freak if once in a while he takes his sweet old time.

3.  He Follows You On Instagram

Now, it’s fine to be friends with everyone you have ever met on Facebook, but Instagram is a different story. Unless you’re a super star photographer and he’s admiring your landscapes, he’s following you on Instagram because he’s scrolling through all of your selfies and giving them a big ol’ heart. If your account is set up under an obscure name and he manages to find you, then it’s a pretty tell tale sign that he’s curious and hot to trot.

4.  He Sends You Unnecessary Texts

Does he text you out of the blue, with a random message saying just thinking of you? One of the key signs a guy likes you is this kind of solid proof he’s got you on his mind when you aren’t around. A text to say a song came on the radio that reminded him of you, that he’s reading a book that he thinks you might like, or that he just remembered something you said and laughed out loud on the bus are all “green means go” signals. You might be thinking, “but I send those messages to people all the time!” Yes, but you’re a girl. Unlike you, guys don’t just “chat” with anyone. They chat with people they LIKE. In this case, you!

5.  He Sends You Nonchalant Snapchats Throughout The Day

If he sends you private Snapchats of what he’s eating for lunch or a new pair of shoes that he just bought, then he is probably most likely, definitely interested in you. In fact, he’s already acting like a boyfriend by making you a part of his everyday life.

But be warned ladies, I’m not referring to vulgar or immature images (yes, we have all received some of those “gems”). Instead I’m talking about when he is motivated to share casual day-to-day elements of his life with you.

6.  He Texts You Just To Say ‘Good Morning’

Do you ever wake up to find a text from simply saying ‘Good Morning’? Hmmmm this means that you are the first thing on his mind when he pulls back the covers. Yep, you guessed it, a great sign that he would prefer having you next to him under the sheets.

7.  He Shares Something That Interests You On Facebook

One of the key signs a guy likes you is if you log onto your Facebook to see that he’s shared something on your wall that actually interests you. It might be something as mundane as the latest music video from your favorite band, but it’s actually a fantastic sign that he is invested in trying to get to know you and your interests – and he wants you to know it.

8.  He Writes You Long Messages

Whether over a text, Facebook messenger, or WhatsApp, he doesn’t hold back when communicating with you. If he sends long and detailed messages, rather than just a simple response, you’re in like Flynn. On a side note, a stream of one-word replies should be an obvious sign that you need to cool it, you’re not getting anywhere baby.

9. He Likes Or Comments On Your Pictures

Go on, go a little psycho, you know you want to. Next time you’ve got a little time to kill, check out his level of activity on other female friends’ profiles (you never know, he might just be REALLY into this summers’ range of seafolly bikinis…) If you’re the only on getting the social loving, then take your little private-eye activity a step further. Analyze which images he likes; if they tend to be photographs of yourself rather than landscapes or group shots, then start smiling. Read his comments for further clarification, and obviously NEVER tell him about your little adventure in the crazy land!

10. He Contacts You During The Day

If a guy only ever contacts you late at night, especially on weekends, chances are that he is only after one thing. Don’t try to rationalize it, it’s seriously NOT the “only time he has free for texting”. If, however, he is regularly taking time out of his busy day-to-day life to send you messages between the hours of 9am and 5pm then, more often than not, you can consider it one of the signs a guy likes you. Of course, you should pay attention to the hours that he works. If he regularly works night shifts, an overnight text might not mean a booty call, but rather that he was thinking of you on his lunch break. (you beat his burger – WIN!)

11. He Adds Kisses At The End Of Messages

It may seem obvious, but does he add kisses or something cutesy to the end of his messages? The method of messaging is also important here; it’s much more common to add a kiss to the end of a text than it is in a Facebook message, Instagram comment or a WhatsApp conversation – however, if your text includes three kisses… well, that’s not common at all.

12. He Invites You To Events

When you log into your Facebook account, are you bombarded by event invitations all sent to you by the guy in question? If he is regularly inviting you to events, it is likely that he is doing so as he wants to bump into you there. Whether it is an invite to a party, gig, or concert where there will be lots of people, or an intimate dinner at a mutual friend’s house, he is requesting the presence of your company because he enjoys spending time with you.

Not sure I’ve covered it all? Comment below if you can think of any other signs a guy likes you through his social media activity.

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About Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.

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83 Responses to “Social Media Signs A Guy Likes You: Your Modern Day Love Guide”

  1. Hey Claudia

    I like this guy right. We just became friends recently and when we’re alone he talks to me but when we’re with our friends he only says a few words. Also he followed me on instagram and I followed him back but he only likes photo’s that I post where I’m with my friends and never photos of myself.
    I always catch him looking at me and we always have this weird eye connections all the time. He never texts me first bt always replies promptly to my messages.
    I don’t know if he likes me or not but I always feel something when I’m around him.
    Also before we became friends, he would come up to me and ask me random questions or make a comment.
    I really like him but I don’t wana put myself out and get rejected, therefore what do you think I should do??

    • Hey Sonya,
      It sounds like he likes you, but he is shy and scared of being rejected. I would casually bring up activities and places you will be during the weekend, or at night, and see if he shows up. Try and speak with him one on one as much as you can when you see him, look him in the eyes, smile and find a reason to touch his arm or shoulder (subtle flirting 🙂 Then, be patient and wait for him to make his move. I still think it’s up to the guy to make the first move. You give him the signals, and then he needs to take it from there. And if he doesn’t? Find another cute guy who you enjoy chatting with and who is ready to sweep you off your feet 🙂

      • I felt like I was being annoying texting my crush, so I asked him if im being annoyingor if Im fine and he said Im fine❤. Does that mean he likes me?

        • Hi Lexie 🙂
          It’s definitely a good sign…now keep the momentum going by sending positive, fun text messages (don’t ask him again if you are annoying him, or he might start being annoyed).
          Good luck!
          Bisous x

  2. This guy I like has a girl friend, but he seems less interested in her and he randomly starts conversations with me and I catch him staring at me a lot in class. I texted him a question about school once and he responded in the minute, but the convo ran after a few joking texts. I don’t want to text and snapchat him all the time because he has a girlfriend and I’m scared she’ll find out, but just the other day he liked our DM chat on Instagram totally out of the blue! What does that even mean? Help!

    • Hi Emma,
      From what you’ve said, he seems interested in you, BUT don’t forget that he DOES have a girlfriend. So I wouldn’t play with fire. You’re just going to get hurt. If he leaves his girlfriend for you, he might leave you for someone else. And if he just flirts with you, you’re going to get attached to him, and then he might never leave his girlfriend. Either way, you lose and get hurt. Are there any other single guys that you find cute?

  3. hey like 4 months ago i started to talk to this guy and we talked but just on snapchat and instagram. I knew he liked me and he was so sweet and funny. i started liking him even loving well than we talked and talked and i tried to ask him to meet me and he always said yes and than the next day he bailed and he had done 6 times . at this time i always needed to start conversations and then i stopped talking to him i knew he didnt like me anymore and he had changed he wasnt the sweet kind funny guy and started to be a fyqboi.well then his friend sent me hi and started talking to me at his time the other guy didnt like me and i cried and loved him so much,well his friend is so sweet now and cute and actually cares about me i think? well i always need to start conversation or not always just sometimes but owell he says iam sweet and funny and sends hearts. but i always starts conv so iam wondering should i talk to him or not? its also so hard because he is the other guys friend but he hates him just like i do but iam wondering does he really like me beacuse he is a fuqboi idk

    • Hi Bjork,
      First of all, I would totally forget about the first guy. He sounds like he just wants to flirt, but he doesn’t want to take it any further (if he bailed 6 times). I would be super careful of the second guy if he is friends with the first guy. Maybe he is just telling you what you want to hear…but if he is friends with the first guy, then he probably doesn’t hate him. It is definitely not a good sign if you are always starting the conversation. Could it be because you are not giving him a chance to text you first (you are too quick)? I would not text him for awhile and see what happens. I know it’s hard, but I think it’s the right thing to do.

  4. Just started to text with a guy and he wants to meet up for lunch and he is going to pay. He offered me to play a game at his house too? What does this mean?
    He has not asked for any sexy pictures, like all of the guys I have talked to does.. Might he be intrested for once in me and not be a player who asks for nudes?
    We have since we started texting texted all day, and sometimes he start texting first in the morning..
    He also put a hearts at the end of the text, a lot of times.

    • Hi Diana,
      If you enjoy chatting with him, and you think he is safe, have lunch with him. BUT, I would not play any games at his house…it sounds a little fishy. Stay in public places at all times, make sure someone knows where you are, keep your phone with you, and don’t feel like you owe him anything if he pays for lunch, because you don’t.
      As for the hearts…you’ll have to see how he acts…

  5. Hey
    So there’s this guy that I like and he likes me we hug everyday and flirt and one day he even tried to kiss me, but I want to get to know him better and get into a relationship before doing so. We like eachothers posts and he messaged me one day and I didn’t respond and he told me he messaged me and I messaged him back telling him to message me elsewhere but he just read it but we still flirt should I just give up ? Why would he message me then not respond?

    • Hi Pam,
      I wouldn’t give up just because he didn’t respond once. Maybe he was distracted by something else, or maybe he is testing you by acting a little aloof to see how you respond (if you chase after him or stop responding too).
      Keep doing what you are doing – respond to his messages when he texts you, get to know him slowly and take your time. If he is really interested in you he will be patient.

  6. Hey, so I like this guy in my youth group, and I think he might like me. He is always nice and trying to make me laugh, and tossing a vball back and forth.. he also makes eye contact, and used to like all my facebook posts. He did stop, but his attitude stayed the same.. he just messaged me actually, And he started by asking me a question.. And he even helped me with some chairs once.. we were at a youth cabin, and we and a couple others got in a pillow fight, and he always says nice serve and stuff like that when it comes to vball do you think he likes me? Theres a bunch of other nice things he did.. but. I cant quite remeber them all.. thanks

    • Hi Cheyanne,
      It definitely sounds like he is interested in you (otherwise he wouldn’t do all of those things). Have you given him any signs that you are interested in him? For example, are you doing the same thing – eye contact, asking him questions and smiling? Guys are also scared of rejection, so unless he has a few signs from you, he is probably not going to make his move.
      Good luck! Let me know how it goes 🙂

      • hey, thanks, im pretty sure he knows I like him. I always smile around him, and I messaged him at least twice.. im always happy around him.i don’t know I think theres more, I cant really explain the signs that I give him, ut I most definitely sure he does know I think he’s cute.. lol and so far its going good. really good

        • I hope it continues to go well. Keep smiling! 🙂 Sending tons of positive energy your way!
          xo Claudia

          • okay, so Cheyanne isn’t my real. its just in case he were to see or whatever, but I was bored and messaged him, and he was all nice, and joking like, and sent stickers, and emoji’s. do you think he likes me,like on a scale of 1 to 10 ? he also relied right away.

          • Hey there, I’d give it an 8 🙂

        • hey Claudia, quick question, this guy that I like literally hides behind a corner of a building , and tries to like look at me without him noticing, and its not weird or creepy to me, we are both in the teens age, what do you think that means ?

  7. Hey Claudia, I really like this guy. I met him on Tinder , and that then turned to snapchat and I have met him in person ( we get along great) He has not once sent me an inappropriate photo or asked for one either. But most all of our conversations are over snapchat. I’ll try to keep this brief. He used to say good morning everyday and we’d talk all day. We got to know each-other better and it seemed like he got more and more impressed as he found out things about me. He really seems interested. He likes not only my pretty selfies on insta , but my silly ones too and my quotes. He watches all of my snapchat stories as soon as he can but as we started to get closer and more flirtacious he started to pull away, we Still talk almost everyday, sometimes he takes a little while to reply but I know he does have quite a busy schedule. Even when I give him an out for a conversation he still keeps it going. I’m so confused because I feel like he likes me, he is definitely attracted to me but I feel like it’s more than that. he remembers little things and always makes time ( when he doesn’t have enough he apologizes) but he just seems to be held back by something. I feel it’s important to mention he’s slightly younger than me I’m 23 and he’s 20. I just don’t know what to do. I really like this guy and that doesn’t happen to me often.

    • Hi N,
      I definitely think he likes you – but he sounds like he is either shy and scared to make a move, or emotionally unavailable. If you really like him, just be patient. Don’t let your conversations become mundane – keep them flirty and fun, and wait to see what happens…If you need anything, send me an email:
      Sending tons of positive energy your way.
      xx Claudia

  8. Hey,I like this guy from Social Media but we never meet before and I got see him in picture.He do tell me where he go by his own.And even ask me if I eat dinner already.And tell me what did he eat.We did say Goodmorning everyday but not sure he really like me.

    • Hi Amanda,
      If you have been chatting with him for awhile on Social Media and you seem to get along (and you know that he is not a dangerous person -for example he is a friend of a friend), hint that you would like to meet up in person. Tell him where you will be this weekend and see if he jumps at the opportunity to hang out. Otherwise you could spend a longgggg time chatting with him on Social media without it ever going anywhere…
      Good luck! Let me know if you need anything.

  9. Hi Claudia,I like this guy since October last year and our relationship is quite complicated I guess?? He once offered to pay for my amusement ride ticket which i rejected, that caused everyone in my youth group to start shipping us together and all that and I told them to back off. He would send these texts with the 😍😜and😝emojis and would often stare at me also. He once asked me stupid questions such as if I were wearing my school uniform when I was. I usually catch him staring and I would stare back at him in the eye. He actually continued to hold eye contact and I would eventually blush and look away. I was
    pretty sure he liked me by then so I confessed to him really directly and just said ‘um hi i like you’ the first time i sent it he thought it was a dare so I played along and said it was my friend, but then he randomly said my friend called him ( she didnt ) to say i liked him but i brushed it off. However, the next day, I decided go tell him I actually DID like him and he responded with ‘ aww thanks 😝, come to future outings ok ? ‘ and then of course i didnt go for future outings because i felt so scared because I actually wanted my crush on him to disappear and him to say he didnt like me. Btw he always replies me within 1-5 minutes. He also follows me on instagram ( doesnt mean a lot though because he follows other girls ) and liked and commented on one group picture. Fast forward some months later, people are STILL shipping us together, which he always ignores good naturedly. He recently sent me a snapchat saying good night and he watches porn which he claimed was what his friend sent to me and not him. I have no idea whether he even likes me back up til this day. And, oh, in between this period I rejected two other guys because I didnt like them as much as him.Thanks for reading this it’s so long ;;;

    • Hi Zo,
      It’s really nice to hear from you! 🙂 It does sound like a complicated story…would it be possible to spend some time with him in person? I think that if you keep sending snapchats and text messages and phone calls from friends and stuff like that it’s going to stay complicated. If you see him a few times in person then maybe you can see how he acts and if he wants to spend time just with you (or if you should move on and go for the guys that you rejected before…)

  10. Thank you so much for the great advice !! 🙌If Im honestly speaking he became slightly fboi after I confessed and an even bigger flirt with me idk how that was even possible;; In actual fact I see him every week but with other people and parents around so we cant talk a lot. Sometimes though he would strike conversations if we go out together with other friends without parents. I tried not to start a conversation with him before on text and both times he mainly asked how I was and good morning. Should I just pretend nothing happened and try to ignore the people shipping us together although it is really irritaiting ? Or what else do you suggest I do ?

    • Hi Zo,
      If you like him, don’t let other people get in your way (ignore them). Just enjoy getting to know him…and having a cute guy flirt with you 🙂
      Bisous xo

  11. Hi
    I really like him from the last two years but never had the courage to talk to him. We became friends on Facebook recently. He always texts me first.. Sometimes sends me a line with a deep meaning that may be a hint. (Like.. We have a common dream let ‘us’ make it into reality. Or Let us meet today without actually meeting each other) We have more than 10 things in common. He asks me things like what does my dad think about him. He sends me his pictures but he never asks for mine.. He also stares at me a lot in school (of course I do too!) And we make a weird eye contact then we both look the other way. But he is not much involved in girls saying he is better without them. I really want him but I m not sure does he like me or he is confused.. I could have asked him but I m afraid of rejection.. Wht should I do now? 😅

    • Hi Ash,
      It sounds like he likes you (but it also sounds like he is kind of shy). I wouldn’t ask him if he likes you or not. Instead, play it cool. Keep chatting with him (in person and via text). Drop hints about things you will be doing on the weekends (and after school) to see if he shows up. The more time you can spend with him in person, the better. It will give you some great topics to text about, plus you can amp up the flirting with eye contact, smiling and touching his arm/hand/etc. Just be patient, and don’t chase after him even if you really, really like him (I know it’s hard! 🙂

  12. Hey
    So I like this guy! I’m only a teenager, we are the same age we go to school together. I’m not in any of his classes which sucks. I recently just started to like him, we haven’t really talked in person that much at school this year but sometimes he will tease me when he sees me in the halls, I just laugh it off I’m not offended or anything because I know he is just joking. We just started really talking on snapchat, it’s started we were just sending photos of our faces. Also I forgot to mention we are always insulting each other sometimes it’s harsh and sometimes it’s just all In good fun. Recently we had a long coversation maybe 2 hours or so, on Snapchat. It was really good, we talked about girls being really inappropriate at school, we were telling each other stories, it was good, we weren’t insulting each other, instead we were agreeing and laughing. When we broke off the conversation he had to sleep cuz he had basketball on the morning and it was getting late, he said he would talk to me tmr, I said okay goodnight, talk to u tmr. Good chat. He agreed that it was a good chat. After that conversation I have this amazing feeling in my stomach I feel so good. It was different and I think I really like him. Anyways, what do u think?

    • Hi Cecilia,
      I think it sounds very promising! He seems genuinely interested in getting to know you, you both have the same value,s and you have a lot to talk about 🙂 Keep getting to know him – both on snapchat and in person. Let me know if you need anything.

  13. Hi
    So theres this one guy that i am starting to like but im confused by his behaviour. We went out on a date once and afterwards he said he had a good time but he hasn’t asked for a second date or to hang out (its been a week). We only talk on snapchat, which Im not sure if its problematic? The date went really well even though it was short. He still seems interested like he tells me hes been thinking of me and how i looked great on our first date. Ive been receptive towards this and have expressed i had fun, but he still hasn’t said anything… He also loves to flirt and sends sexy photos via snapchat? Will this not go further other than what it has? Do you have any advice?

    • Hi Chloe,
      Hmmm, good question. You could either:
      – tell him where you are going to be on a certain date/time and then see if he shows up. For example: “Lisa and I are going to check out the concert at xyz on Sat night. Heard it’s going to be amazing…”
      – ask him if you are going to hang out (keep it light/teasing). For example “…you know the snapchat is great, but I’m pretty sure I still prefer seeing the real you…”
      Then see what he does 🙂 He should still have to man up and ask you out again.

  14. He just did 2 of these , he tags a girl in his pics all the time , he never texted me , he did request to follow me on Instagram and he did like ALL of my pictures

    • Hey Mira,
      It sounds like he might be interested. Have you liked/commented on any of his pictures? Try it and see what he does (hopefully texts you to see if you want to meet up! 🙂
      Bisous x

  15. Claudia,
    There is a cute guy I’ve had a crush on for a while. In the past couple of months he has liked 99% of my pictures. I tried DMing him and started a casual conversation. I tried doing a tbh post to see if he would liked, one of the few he hasn’t. Although he has continued to like my post and usually one of the first to like it. I have no idea if there is something there. What should I do?

    • Hey CJ,
      If you started the last DM conversation with him, I would wait for him to start the next convo. As far as photos go, do you also like some of his photos? If not, do it (just a few 🙂 Maybe he is shy and isn’t sure if you like him or not – so if he sees that you like a few of his photos, he might get up the courage to message you.
      Bisous x

  16. Hi Claudia , I noticed that my husband has been liking nearly every post on this one girl’s FB page. Then sometimes he makes these deep comments about connections of souls and things like that.

    I hadn’t paid that much attention to it until he posted up some article to robot sex partners in response to one of her comments, which I thought was over the top.

    Then I was reading a funny thread on another friend’s timeline and there he was chatting with the same girl in some sub comments. Talking about where they grew up, favorite music etc.

    I’m not even sure what to do about this if anything? Can you help?

    • Hi Gina 🙂
      Hmmm, if it makes you feel uncomfortable, then I would talk to him about it. I think it’s important for every couple to have a clear understanding of what is considered normal communication, and what is considered flirting. Then I would not check his SM accounts anymore…it will just make you crazy 🙁
      Sending tons of positive energy your way xx

  17. Hi! So I kinda like this guy and he’s pretty cute but I’m not sure if he likes me. He doesn’t have a girlfriend. He’s never been to a school dance before and I brought it up that I haven’t either and was probably not until next year because I don’t really think you should date if you can’t drive yourself ( I’m about to get drivers license in summer) therefore will rely on somebody else. He agreed that it was weird if you can’t drive. However, I always catch him looking at me if we’re in class. He usually will make facial expressions toward my direction usually responding to what our teacher has said (especially in second period where he sometimes moves across the room so he’s across from me) I’m also not sure if he’s looking at me or the girl in front of me. (Whom he also talks to) He’s a super sweet and kind guy so he lets just about any girl wear his jacket if they are cold. He always notices if I get my hair colored or cut and compliments me on it. But since he’s a nice guy I’m not sure if it’s with just me or with anyone. In all the classes I have with him he talks to me but not sure if that’s just cuz he’s sweet.
    I’m super confused and not sure if it’s just a friendship thing or a more than friends thing.
    Please help!

    • Hi there 🙂
      It sounds like he’s a really cool guy 🙂 It’s hard to say if he in interested in you as a girlfriend or as a girl who is his friend. I would just continue being yourself – chat, smile and have fun with him. If he starts asking you to spend time alone with him and is affectionate (hugs, holding your hand, etc.) then you can be pretty sure he is interested in you as his girlfriend. Like I said, for the time being, just have fun getting to know him.

  18. Hey,
    So there’s this guy I like… it all started at our schools skiing trip and I knew him through band but I only liked him after I spent the day with him and his friends. After that we started DM chatting in insta we both follow each other even in his dogs account we used to chat but then it sorta stopped idk why he stopped talking to me and we’re both shy of talking to each other … well at least I’m my part I don’t know what to do there’s a trip in Saskatoon we’re going on and I’m gonna hang out with him I’m going to be so embarrassed 😩


    • hey there,
      I’m so sorry for the delay, for some reason your message was not showing up and I only saw it now. I hope that your ski trip went well and you started talking to him again 🙂 If you ever want to restart a conversation with a guy after a long silence, ask him a question or ask him for his help (the best place to find tickets, help with homework, fixing something, etc.). People in general are programmed to answer questions, and guys are usually happy to help, so either option should get the conversation going.
      Sending tons of positive energy your way.

  19. Hey do it this guy I like at work we hit it off great and flirting and then he ask me to prom but when I ask him to make sure he said he already had a date and I think has a girlfriend and is talking to multiple girls and I know that if he doing that to other girls he will do it to me to but I stop talking to him and now it’s kinda awkward and he keeps asking asking where my boyfriend is and making side comments for me to get his his attention and I’m not a fool or string along so what should i do .

    • Hey Telisha,
      You are so right, if he is doing that to other girls he will definitely do it to you. I would continue to avoid him, and if you do see him, just keep telling him that you already have a boyfriend. Be patient – there are tons of great guys out there! 🙂

  20. Hi Claudia! I am so confused with a guy whom I met online and been talking via whatsapp right immediately after the firat contact. We have been talking for over 4 months nonstop, we both iniciate the conversations and say good night every night. We haven’t met each other because we are from different countries so we are very far away from each other, but we have talked about meeting each other when we have enough money to travel. He is 5 years older than me we both are adults and work. The thing with this guy is that he confuses me! From the very beging I was very clear with him of what I was looking for which is to meet the right guy for me, I’m not interested in casual dating. So he told me that he was also looking for the same, he even told me about a dream he had of a son he will have and even told me that we could be living there were he lives as a couple and even told me about raising our kids there! That for me just sounded so crazy, we had just met a few weeks back when he said that. Then things calmed down a bit and kept texting and knowing each other, but suddenly he changed and started acting a bit weird, when I mentioned about us meeting he wouldn’t follow anymore and would just ignore me or if I shared whit him an idea or an opinion he would ignore my message and talk about something else, that made me think he wasn’t really into me anymore but was so confused because he kept talking to me daily even when he ignored some of the messages I sent him. I confronted him and told him that he knew from the very begining what I was looking for and that sometimes he sounded like he was trying to play with me, so I asked him what he really was looking for or if he just was talking to me because maybe he was feeling alone. I told him that it was so confusing that we were acting like a couple when we were not, and so I asked him what he was really looking for right now to know if we were in the same page. He told me that he liked me a lot and that he wasn’t getting any younger. And he also asked me to keep knowing each other by taking one day as it comes. I agreed on that and thouhgt it was a really reasonable answer. But he keeps ignoring some of my messages, he send me pics of his everyday, tell me about his day at work and about what he is planning for his job, but when I share something about me with him, he wouldn’t comment anything and just ignore even when I send a picture of myself or so, he would only comment unless I ask him to. So I’m confused because if he was really into me he would be interested in me, that way he knows more about me right? What do you think? I think maybe he could be emotionally unaviable and centering in his job right now… thank you for reading me and sorry for the long post hehe

    • Hi Susana,
      I apologize for the delay, I had a technical glitch. There are a few things that concern me about your story:
      1. He talks about having kids with you without ever meeting you (having kids is a big deal…)
      2. He is hot then cold
      3. He is more interested in talking about himself then getting to know you
      Is it possible to meet him in person? If so, I would try to do that right away before spending any more time (and energy) getting to know him (and possibly getting hurt).
      Bon courage!
      Big hugs xo

  21. Hi claudia.
    I most definitely need your advice. Back in November up until now I caught major feelings for my brothers girlfriends brother. When I first met him it seemed to me that he was interested in me. Some examples include: he would ask me questions about me as if he wants to get to know me “do you work out, do you play sports, what do you do for work” things like that. We all did a bonfire with my brother his girlfriend her older brother his wife another couple and me and the guy I like. So it was pretty much all couples except me and him. My brother made smores for him and he asked me to try it. I told him I didn’t like s’mores but he insisted I take a bite from his. He also kept telling me to put the hood of my sweater on because it was cold. We both smoke cigarettes and sometimes he would come back from the store and bring me cigarettes without even asking (this is when me and my brother visit them). Anyways in my eyes the signs were kind of there. So I decided to confront him and tell him how I felt and he replied nicely by saying I was a nice and smart girl but at the moment he was emotional unavailable only because he’s still in college waiting to finish his studies and he isn’t ready to be in a relationship because he wasn’t financially ready and also because he doesn’t like long distance relationships. Two days later we all go to a nightclub and the guys and girls bathroom had a sink where you can see each other washing your hands. So we are both washing outlets hands at the same time and he takes some water and splashes me a little with it as in playing around. In my eyes I kind of felt a little flirting moment. It’s just weird because just the other day he told me he didn’t want a relationship with anyone. We follow each other on Instagram but he only likes photos I post of nature as well as some of my car photos. We also share a Spotify account and I feel like every song he puts in his playlist is about love and stuff like that. We never message each other except when I told him merry Christmas to him and his family. Other than that we don’t talk. I really need your advice as to what you think. Thank you!

    • Hi Christine,
      It’s sounds like he likes you as a person (and maybe a potential girlfriend) but if he says that he is not emotionally available at the moment, and doesn’t want to be in a long distance relationship then I would believe him. Stay in touch with him (but also go out with other guys) and who knows, maybe when he is done with his studies and he feels financially ready you will start dating 🙂

  22. Hey claudia,
    I’ve recently been texting this guy but I’ve known him for quite sometime. He lives far away but I will move over there in college not for him but for my dream school… I’ve always felt like there has been something between us every time him and his family come over but i don’t know weather it’s chemistry between us or him just being nice or shy. And how can I get his attention without being awkward.

    • Hi there,
      I think the best way to get his attention is to ask him a question – or ask for his help. You have the perfect situation – you are going to move to where he is. After you have chatted via text for awhile, try and meet up in person.
      Good luck!

  23. Hi Claudia,

    I’m asian girl and I like a greek man when i visited Greece for holidays. He is my local tour guide for a day. When i’m back home, i have found him in facebook. We have chatted almost 2 weeks now. Daily chats but not every hours. Both of us are single but he did told me dont wait, find someone and get married on the first day of our chat. I always started the chat and he did replied whenever he is online even when he is working but there are some messages he just ignore but its okay for me as i dont hope he have to response me 24 hours. He sent me his selfie pictures total of 6 pictures but 2 pictures are requested from me. He didnt ask my pictures but i do sent him my pictures too. He said he lovely picture and he like it and said thank you for the picture. He like to sent me alots of smiley emoji. But i dont know whether he like me or not.

    • Hi there,
      If he told you not to wait for him, and you are always starting the chats, then I would not invest too much time or energy in trying to build a relationship with him. He probably had a good time with you, and thinks you are a nice person, but it seems to me that he is not interested in taking it any further (probably due to the distance). I would spend my time looking for someone nearby.
      Good luck!

  24. Hi Claudia,

    I have recently met a guy online whilst gaming. He initiated contact, commented on my pic, says lovely things to me when we do chat online, always seems to be in a roleplay form though. Then he randomly sends me pics of his day, his cooking, his loved ones and his past. However, I see him in game in mornings, no hello in my inbox or to me he’s not into me or surely I would be on his mind ? But then I am getting mixed signals with photos he sends! He only seems to roleplay chat to me, the other gamers he has normal chit confused. Seems as though it is me who makes first contact daily. Please help decipher these signals 🙂
    Lucy x

    • Hi Lucy,
      It does sound like he is sending mixed signals, I understand why you would be confused. I would try a simple test – don’t initiate contact for 3-5 days and see if he reaches out to you. If he doesn’t, I wouldn’t spend too much energy pursuing him. If he does, see if you can meet up with him face to face before you take your virtual friendship too far.

  25. Hi claudia,
    Me and this boy have been friends for ages, and recently we set up a private chat on instagram, ten minutes later we also were connected on imessages and snapchat. We have the little yellow heart symbol next to eachthers names and send eachother snaps every day trying to male eachother laugh. But does he like me? Or am i in the friendzone. Please be frank, because i dont want to get to far into this crush with a boy i might not have a chance with.. im also 13. Does these kind of things vary with age?

    • Hi Calliejojo,
      It seems like he is making a lot of effort to communicate with you…so I would say that he might like you 🙂 Have fun chatting with him and see where it goes from there…
      Good luck!

  26. Hi Claudia,
    So I received a Facebook request from a guy that I went to high school with. I accepted him and we private messeged on fb. He told me he didn’t recognize me but my name clicked and that I looked good with a wink face after it. He likes my stuff here and there. When I do send him a private message on fb he responds to it right away and it will be detailed messages. Is he interested or is he just being nice?

    • Hi Sassy,
      It sounds like he is interested in you…if you are also interested in him then I would suggest meeting him face to face before you invest too much time and energy getting to know him (again) via Social Media. Otherwise you might never know if he is just looking for a virtual pen pal or a girlfriend…

  27. Hi!
    So I been chatting with this guy on Facebook for a while. I end up UN friend him because he got me mad. One day I saw that he add 10 girls at the same day and that is when I decided to unfriend him. I wanted to see what he would do once I done that. Unfortuanly he did not message me or add me back😞 what does this means? When we gusto chatt he never likes to talk about him or his feelings. He always wanted to meet in person but we hadn’t a chance to do that. I would also like to know what dos this means when he add all my girl friends at his friend list after I unfriended him on Facebook.

    • Hi Sandra,
      If he isn’t making an effort to communicate with you (or meet up with you) then I wouldn’t spend my time thinking about him adding your friends or not on Facebook…you are just going to waste your time and end up getting hurt. Are there any other guys that interest you? I would just ignore this guy and move on.
      Bisous x

  28. Hi claudia
    There is a guy who tells me he loves me a lot and i like him but the problem is he’s younger than me. I don’t know if he is serious or not. Please help me

    • Hi Anaya,
      The quickest way to find out is to look at his actions. Does he keep his promises? Does he make an effort to communicate with you and see you? Does he introduce you to his friends when you see them together? Trust your gut, and don’t be afraid to date a guy who’s younger just because of his age.
      Good luck! 🙂
      xx Claudia

  29. I met him about 6 months ago.Then i sent him friend request 3 weeks ago beacacuse i have a huge crush on him.
    He accepted instantly and started to chat.We talked about our college,studies,tv series etc.But we didn’t talk
    much about our personal life.He asked me few questions about me.But i didn’t ask much about him coz i was scared if he
    doubts that i like him.I also don’t know if he has a girlfriend or not.Wanted to ask him but couldn’t manage to do it.
    For this reason i didn’t respond to his last message.I wanted to see if he sends me message or not.But 6days have been passed
    but he didn’t send me any message.What should i do? I want to talk with him but i’m scared of losing him.

    • Hi Enchanteur,
      If you would like to restart the conversation, ask him a question (something he can help you with – for example where to find something, which brand of something to buy, etc.) We are all programmed to answer questions, so there is a good chance that he’ll write back…then it’s up to you to see where you would like the relationship to go (meet up again face to face or just keep chatting…)?

  30. Ok we do talk with each other again.But the fact is now i know he has a girlfriend.Don’t know what should i do now ! I can’t just remove him.I don’t want to talk with him but still i do this.I hate it.I want to forget him but how ?

    • Hi Enchanteur,
      If he has a girlfriend then I would RUN. Just imagine how you would feel if you were his girlfriend and he was chatting with other girls…
      Do whatever you need to do to forget him – like being busy, going out and meeting other guys and getting rid of past messages (delete or email them to yourself and then delete).
      Good luck!

  31. Hi claudia,
    There is this guy at my work that I like and I don’t know if he likes me or not. I always catch him staring at me and at some points he tries to talk to me. Whenever I’m around him I get nervous and shake and I feel like he notices it, he recently added me on Instagram when we were snap chatting eachother in class (p.s we go to different schools). He was the first one to text me saying “what are you doing?” And we started having a small conversation. Today I decided to snapchat him asking if he was working on the weekend and he replied saying yes and giving me the days he was working, I replied saying cool I’m working Saturday and Sunday and then he sent me a picture of him with this girl saying cool boi. After that convo I’ve felt like I’ve been annoying him and now I’m too scared to go to work because I feel like it will be awkward. Also one of my friends at work likes him too but she doesn’t know that I like him until recently she texted me asking who I liked and I said that I didn’t want to tell her because the guy is friends with her and she asked me if I liked “him” and I left her on read and I feel like she knows. What should I do?

    • Hi Happy,
      Just act normal when you see him at work. If you pretend like everything is cool, it won’t be awkward. If you feel like your messages are annoying him, then stop writing him and see what he does (maybe he was super busy, or maybe he’s just shy, or maybe he has a girlfriend). As for your friend, I would not go into details with her…instead I would blow it off and respond to her last message by changing the subject completely – like ask her where she bought something, her opinion on something, etc. If she presses for details about your crush, tell her you don’t like anyone at the moment…but if she has some cute friends that she could introduce you to, you would be interested 🙂

  32. Hi Claudia,

    I recently reconnected with someone I used to be friends with a couple of years back after not having spoken for a while. We met up for drinks then had dinner, he dropped hints about how I am more attractive now, messaged me straight away after we went our separate ways, we spoke for ages that night etc. He kept giving me hints and boasting about himself. I’m not great at texting and didn’t really respond to his hints. We have spoken occasionally since then/he said he cares about my feelings/we have tried to organise another meet up but he keeps bailing/he keeps liking my pictures on Instagram/FB and no one elses but never ever texts me first. Should I just give up even trying to be his friend?

    • Hi Confused,
      It might sound trite, but it’s his actions, not his likes that show his true feelings. If he keeps bailing on meeting up, he’s probably not sure about what he wants (a Penpal or a real life relationship). I wouldn’t chase after him via text – let him initiate the conversation, and see where it goes from there.

  33. Hi Claudia!

    I have become good friends with a guy over the last year, and have started to develop more romantic feelings for him recently. I just got out of a long term relationship in May and he and I have been spending time together in small groups. We text or message each other every day, usually multiple times throughout the day. Things are complicated by the fact that he has social anxiety and he has only ever had one girlfriend in college. He has told me before he has no experience with relationships. We are both in our 30s. I really like him, but I honestly can’t tell if he just likes me as a friend or if there is the potential for something more. Any advice would be appreciated!

    • We see each other regularly in person throughout the week as well at our local gym or through our bicycling club. I know he likes me and wants to spend time with me. He has really been pushing outside of his comfort zone to do these group social outings. His birthday is this week and I sent him a message telling him to let me know when I could buy him lunch or dinner for his birthday. He responded immediately with a, “Will do!” followed by saying maybe our Friday cycling group (made up of 2-3 other people) would be interested in dinner after our weekly ride. The fact that he’s doesn’t seem to want to spend time with me one-on-one when given the opportunity makes me think he just likes me as a friend. What do you think in this situation?

      • Hi Jill,
        From everything you have written, it sounds like he just might be shy, and the reason he suggested meeting up as a group is due to his social anxiety, and not you. I would agree to going out to dinner with him and the small group, and then after dinner suggest having a birthday drink just the two of you (maybe you can tell him that you have a birthday surprise for him and you want to give it to him after dinner – you could get him something small related to biking, such as a book with the best bike tours in your area, a new water bottle, etc.). If you like him, give it time and hopefully he will open up and start asking YOU out 🙂

  34. Hi Claudia, Right so there is this guy at school who I have only known for a couple of months (Im a new girl at the school, year 11) and he is in my form and several other of my classes. I really like him but I don’t think he will ever like me as he is popular and I am very quiet and shy. Basically, when we are in form I sometimes find him turning around and looking at me every so often during registration in a morning (i sit at the back and he is at the front). Often say if we walk in the same direction to different classes after form-I find that if were walking side by side- he quickly looks at me and glances away- and this is the same with when were in assembly and he sees me or in lessons i often find that he’s looking at me but only quick glances and looks away when i look back at him. The other day in class- we did an activity where we all had to write something on a piece of paper and throw it across the class room, but his piece of paper landed in front of me even though we were sitting at the same side and close to each other.Finally, when I’m waiting for the bus home from school and he walks past with his friends on the other side of the road-sometimes he looks at me and I’ve even seen him look behind a couple of times. I don’t know if this is anything but i really like him and we’ve never spoken 🙁 i added him on Facebook and he accepted and wished me a happy birthday on Facebook on my wall a couple of weeks ago but that’s the only communication we’ve had-please help, could this be something or nothing-thank you! Lily

    • Hi Lily,
      It sounds like he’s checking you out 🙂 Since you have a class together, try and figure out some way to ask him a question about something in class (just to break the ice and get the conversation going…then let him take over from there).
      Good luck!
      Bisous x

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