How to Get Him To Ask You Out Over Text…NOW

If you’ve been texting for days and days (or maybe even weeks) and there’s still no sign of an actual “staring into each other’s eyes) date on the horizon, you need to act. Some guys are hopeless over text, and have no idea when it’s the opportune time to ask a girl out. He might be super shy, or he might just be a player, stringing you along for the ride. If you want this guy, read on to discover how to get him to ask you out over text in no time flat!

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So, you met a guy at a friends party, or at the bar last week, and you hit it off. You’ve been texting all week – and not polite, “Good morning sunshine” texts either, but full on flirty exchanges that you would only say to his face when you’re three wines down. But he hasn’t asked you out yet!

He’s happy to tell you you’re gorgeous, and what he’s going to do to you when he sees you again – but he’s pretty slow on actually working out that “seeing you again” part, and every time you make the suggestion of a date, he’s evasive.

How To Get Him To Ask You Out Over Text: 6 Examples

We’ve all been there: he is so into you over text, but when it comes to a real rendezvous he just can’t quite commit. This is such a frustrating situation, I feel like I could write at least three books on it (but I won’t, at least not today). Instead, I’ve written this article on how to get him to ask you out over text with 6 texts that will make him pop the question – or show his true colors.

1. “So, what are your plans this weekend ☺ ?”


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It seems simple, but he may not have even been thinking that far ahead, and was just enjoying the moment texting with you – put the thought of weekend plans into his head, and see how quickly he finds himself a spare night to spend with you.

2. “My girlfriends wanted me to hang out with them Friday night, but I said I might be busy…? ☺”

If he is still being elusive about his weekend plans, let him know that you are expecting something to be happening and are waiting for him to make his move. If he replies with, “oh yeah, what are you plans?”, and he clearly isn’t just flirting, ditch him quick smart, he has no intention of making the move.

3. “When you take me out this weekend, please note that I prefer Tulips over Roses ☺ ”

If he hasn’t asked yet, be direct and sassy – in a humorous way. He may be wondering whether you’re into him or not, and be too nervous to ask you out in case you reject him. This says you’re ready and willing, all in a fun way, which will put him totally at ease when he “pops the question”.

4. ‘”You’re all talk and no walk – love the texts, but still waiting to see the real deal. Hint, hint ;)”

Goad him into asking you out by pointing out that you’re onto him. You have his number, and if he doesn’t rise to the challenge of planning the best date ever now, all his texting will be in vain.

5. “Seeing you aren’t going to ask me out this weekend, guess I’ll buy some ice-cream, watch Seinfeld reruns and cry myself to sleep ☺”

Tease him into asking you out, by pretending to be super upset in his lack of commitment in a way that he knows you’re joking. This allows him to play the gallant “knight in shining amour” who saves you from a weekend alone.

6. “Do you want to hang out this weekend ☺ ?”

If all else fails, you’ve either got yourself a super shy guy, or a total player – find out which one is on the other end of the line by asking the direct question. If he is a shy guy, you’ve just thrown him a total lifeline, and if he is ‘busy’, or never answers your direct question, then you should be too “busy” to text him. Ever again. Simple as that.

Note: I’ve added a little smiley to the end of each message in order to try and keep the messages as light and flirty as possible (some could find them a little passive aggressive – but all is fair in love and war, right?)

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If you’ve been texting for a significant amount of time, and there’s still no sign of an date on the horizon, then it’s time to move fast and get him to lock it in, or caste him away – there are plenty more fish in the sea, and who knows, those fish might be ready to put down their cell phones and spend time with you! After all, you’ve got better things to do than waste your precious time torturing yourself trying to figure out how to get him to ask you out over text, right?

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About Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.

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26 Responses to “How to Get Him To Ask You Out Over Text…NOW”

  1. I don’t know if my crush will ever love me

  2. How do I get him to like me fast

    • Hey Lily,
      Hmmm…in general, guys are very visual. If you are chatting on whats app or FB messenger try changing your profile photo (nothing provocative, but something pretty 🙂

  3. I’m scared to meet the guy in person I know I have to be myself but it’s hard
    I really like him

    • Hey there,
      It’s normal to be a little nervous, but just remember that he is probably nervous too. Do something you enjoy before you meet up – such as running, taking a bath or listening to music. And remember – make sure that you meet him in a safe, public place.

  4. There is this really sweet guy a year ahead of me, but moved away. He is always responding with a cute subtle comment, or something, and always taking forever to respond. I hardly even know what he sounds like. I really want to know if he likes me or not, but I don’t know what to do. Please help.

    • Hi Emma,
      I would suggest staying in contact with him (if you enjoy communicating with him), but then spend your time and energy going for someone closer to you…

  5. Hi,
    There is this guy I really like but he wants to know what I will say if he was to ask me out. He said it is just a question and that he isn’t asking me out…What shall I respond.

    • Hi there,
      It sounds like he is shy and maybe afraid of being turned down by a girl. So if you really like him, then tell him you would say yes – then wait for him to ask you out.

  6. Okay so I started talking to this guy and I like him. He’s going to the lake today with his friends and I wanna go but I haven’t met the guy yet. How do I get him to ask me if I wanna go or if he could pick me up

    • Hey Amy,
      I’m sorry for the delay, I hope you ended up at the lake with your guy! If you didn’t end up meeting him, and a similar situation comes up, just ask him directly (as long as you feel he is safe). You can make it light by asking him what he is doing and then when he answers you can write “that sounds pretty cool HINT HINT” and see what he says from there!

  7. Hi,
    There is a guy I like. We talk via FB messenger and we met at work 2 3 times. Now he left the job and stays 2 hrs away. He is busy at work right now and said that whenever he is coming close to my home, he will let me know so that we can go and have a cup of coffee or pizza. Please tell me what can i tell him before we go to a real date? And how to make him call me rather than texting?

    • Hi Tania,
      I would get the conversation going by asking him about his new job, and then I would keep the conversation light by bringing up pizza (as he promised to take you out). For example, you could tell him about a new pizza place in town, your favorite pizza place, or something else pizza related. Finish off by telling him that you have been craving pizza since he suggested it…and see what he replies 🙂

  8. I have been talking to him for weeks. He says he likes me but he won’t ask me out. I have asked him out 9 times. Its always a no. I am in love with this guy and need help.

    • Hi Katy,
      If you have asked him out 9 times and he has always said no, I would not ask him out anymore…spend your time and energy meeting other available guys. The more you go after this guy, the more you will push him away.
      Bisous x

  9. I like this guy, and he likes me (He sends me hearts and flirty texts) But he is dating someone else and says he WANTS to date me!!?! What do I do?!?

  10. hello , so I have been talk to this one guy recently, he has been really flirty and nice , he would call me every night but he would always mention a girl’s name that i think they might be dating but he insist that he is single , he would say he loves me but he can’t admit that he likes me , he asked me if we are dating or not , but then I asked him to repeat the question again but he said “never mind” . I don’t really know what to do , please help me

    • Hi Mary,
      If he is calling you every night then I would say that he is definitely interested in you. However he seems to be a little shady when it comes to his feelings, and the other girl. Do you also see him in person?
      I would casually bring up his question at a high point in the conversation (when you are laughing and having a good time). And repeat what he said “So, are we dating or what?” If he still acts strange, let it go and realize that he is probably just a flirt.

  11. so theres this guy i already dated before, but i was told he was being payed to date me. then all of his friends told me it was a lie, AFTER i broke up with him. we stopped talking for a few months then he added me on snapchat and we started talking again and we decided to hang out irl. he tried talking to me, but his friends that i dont personally know, seems to try to push him away from me? i really like him again, but i am afraid it will be awkward, like our first relationship. PLEASE help :/ PS- dont tell me there are other guys, i know that but i really like this guy.

    • Hi Ashlyn,
      If he really likes you (which he seems to) then he will not listen to his friends. It doesn’t need to be awkward this time around, just forget about the past and don’t bring it up. Instead, meet up with him, chat with him and have fun with him. Be positive, flirty and relaxed. If you think his friends are trying to push you apart, then don’t include them in your circle right now. Make plans that don’t include them. It’s your life and your guy, so don’t let these people ruin your potential relationship.
      Good luck!
      xx Claudia

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