How to Get Him To Ask You Out Over Text…NOW

If you’ve been texting for days and days (or maybe even weeks) and there’s still no sign of an actual “staring into each other’s eyes) date on the horizon, you need to act. Some guys are hopeless over text, and have no idea when it’s the opportune time to ask a girl out. He might be super shy, or he might just be a player, stringing you along for the ride. If you want this guy, read on to discover how to get him to ask you out over text in no time flat!

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So, you met a guy at a friends party, or at the bar last week, and you hit it off. You’ve been texting all week – and not polite, “Good morning sunshine” texts either, but full on flirty exchanges that you would only say to his face when you’re three wines down. But he hasn’t asked you out yet!

He’s happy to tell you you’re gorgeous, and what he’s going to do to you when he sees you again – but he’s pretty slow on actually working out that “seeing you again” part, and every time you make the suggestion of a date, he’s evasive.

How To Get Him To Ask You Out Over Text: 6 Examples

We’ve all been there: he is so into you over text, but when it comes to a real rendezvous he just can’t quite commit. This is such a frustrating situation, I feel like I could write at least three books on it (but I won’t, at least not today). Instead, I’ve written this article on how to get him to ask you out over text with 6 texts that will make him pop the question – or show his true colors.

1. “So, what are your plans this weekend ☺ ?”


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It seems simple, but he may not have even been thinking that far ahead, and was just enjoying the moment texting with you – put the thought of weekend plans into his head, and see how quickly he finds himself a spare night to spend with you.

2. “My girlfriends wanted me to hang out with them Friday night, but I said I might be busy…? ☺”

If he is still being elusive about his weekend plans, let him know that you are expecting something to be happening and are waiting for him to make his move. If he replies with, “oh yeah, what are you plans?”, and he clearly isn’t just flirting, ditch him quick smart, he has no intention of making the move.

3. “When you take me out this weekend, please note that I prefer Tulips over Roses ☺ ”

If he hasn’t asked yet, be direct and sassy – in a humorous way. He may be wondering whether you’re into him or not, and be too nervous to ask you out in case you reject him. This says you’re ready and willing, all in a fun way, which will put him totally at ease when he “pops the question”.

4. ‘”You’re all talk and no walk – love the texts, but still waiting to see the real deal. Hint, hint ;)”

Goad him into asking you out by pointing out that you’re onto him. You have his number, and if he doesn’t rise to the challenge of planning the best date ever now, all his texting will be in vain.

5. “Seeing you aren’t going to ask me out this weekend, guess I’ll buy some ice-cream, watch Seinfeld reruns and cry myself to sleep ☺”

Tease him into asking you out, by pretending to be super upset in his lack of commitment in a way that he knows you’re joking. This allows him to play the gallant “knight in shining amour” who saves you from a weekend alone.

6. “Do you want to hang out this weekend ☺ ?”

If all else fails, you’ve either got yourself a super shy guy, or a total player – find out which one is on the other end of the line by asking the direct question. If he is a shy guy, you’ve just thrown him a total lifeline, and if he is ‘busy’, or never answers your direct question, then you should be too “busy” to text him. Ever again. Simple as that.

Note: I’ve added a little smiley to the end of each message in order to try and keep the messages as light and flirty as possible (some could find them a little passive aggressive – but all is fair in love and war, right?)

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If you’ve been texting for a significant amount of time, and there’s still no sign of an date on the horizon, then it’s time to move fast and get him to lock it in, or caste him away – there are plenty more fish in the sea, and who knows, those fish might be ready to put down their cell phones and spend time with you! After all, you’ve got better things to do than waste your precious time torturing yourself trying to figure out how to get him to ask you out over text, right?

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About Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.

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4 Responses to “How to Get Him To Ask You Out Over Text…NOW”

  1. I don’t know if my crush will ever love me

  2. How do I get him to like me fast

    • Hey Lily,
      Hmmm…in general, guys are very visual. If you are chatting on whats app or FB messenger try changing your profile photo (nothing provocative, but something pretty 🙂

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