10 Flirty Texts For Long Distance Relationships

Long distance relationships are tough. Keeping the romance and attraction burning strong can be brutal. Help is officially to the rescue! By pressing just a few buttons (literally), you can turn that lonely separation into a passionate sensation! Text messages are a great way to close the gap, and open the floodgate of romance. However the trick lies in finding the perfect words to send your partner. We’re here to teach you what to say, and just as importantly, how to say it when you’re away from your lover.

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If you have been, or are in a long distance relationship, you know just how difficult it is to be apart from your significant other.

Instead of looking them deep in the eyes as you chat over morning coffee, phone calls, Skype, emails, instant messages (what’s app) and texts become your main form of communication. Scratching your head asking yourself how can you be flirty and/or romantic through these modern tools? Are you wondering what to say? Yes, long distance relationships can be tough!

Relax! We have some examples and ideas to fit almost all long distance relationships. So until you both meet again, sweeten the anticipation with only a few words…

Long Distance Relationships Example Texts

Romantic:
• A kiss for each day that we’re apart.
• Going to hold you so tight when I see you.
• You should be here, touching me.
• You’re my favorite daydream.

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Flirty:
• My pillow still smells like you.
• You should hear the smile in my voice when I think of you.
• Missing the way you move against me when you sleep.

Sexy:
• Just your voice is enough to turn me on.
• I just want you to be happy, here and naked.
• Been reading up on new ways to please you…

The DOs & DON’Ts

Long distance relationships have rules too:

1. It’s not only about you. Don’t forget to ask them how their day or week is going.

2. Don’t slip into the habit of becoming easily jealous and obsessive. Give them time to reply to your texts and try not to come across as needy. People can feel needy 1000 miles away – desperation comes through every time – even in long distance relationships.

3. Keep up regular communication – at least once a day! But remember not to go the other extreme by spamming them. Nothing screams psycho louder than a chain of 10 texts!

4. If you’re in different time zones, be considerate and don’t text them too early or late in case they are sleeping.

5. Keep them updated about your life and at least once in a while, let them know that you’re thinking about them and that you love them.

And That’s It!

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About Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.

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41 Responses to “10 Flirty Texts For Long Distance Relationships”

  1. “Hey Claudia” You’re the best and everything you got here change my life to a rock star. I love you “Claudia” gigantic kisses to your forehead.

  2. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a while , but he moved away and we tried making things work long distance. It worked for a while but the time zone thing is really hard , we can basically only speak to each other for one hour and then one of us need to sleep. Its mostly because his bad sleeping habits and I feel like I cant get his interest like before , How can I get the spark back ?

    • Hi Nicole,
      If you only have 1 hour per day then try to keep your messages positive and avoid complaining about problems at work or with your family (I know that can be hard to do, but if you feel the need to say something negative talk to your best friend or brother/sister). Also, mix up the tone of your messages – between sweet, funny and flirty. If you are always sweet or always funny than your messages will become boring. Here are a few examples:
      flirty: “Missing your warm body next to mine”
      sweet: “Sending you a text filled with 10’000 kisses”
      Talk about what you wish you could be doing together, to make him feel like he is still part of your life:
      “Wish you were here so we could go to our favorite spot in the park and get in rambling conversations”
      And the last thing…make sure that you make solid plans to meet up, then count down the days “T-20 days until I am going to smother you with kisses”
      Hope this helps!
      Bisous,
      Claudia

      • Thank you Claudia, but things are just not working out with him just a moment ago I told him we should take a break, perhaps after the break we could start over but one hour per day is just not enough for me, anyhow your tips were very good and if we do decide to get back together I will try to put that effort.

  3. Hey Claudia,thank you for the tips.Am in a distance relationship,we meet in working days but now we don’t.Hope your tips work.I love her but with this i think of cheating on her.Thank you

  4. so i have this guy am crushing on and i really want to get him to be interested in me real time and quick too. what do i do?

    • Hi Grace,
      Sorry for the mix up, I just saw your first message now. If you see him face to face, then ask him a few questions, make eye contact, smile and see how he reacts (does he smile back, tease you, ask you questions?…). If you mostly communicate with him either via text or SM, then like one of his posts, and or send him a question and then see what happens. Make sure that your profile photo is cute (guys are visual, so he will definitely take notice). Just make sure that you don’t bombard him with texts. Let him chase you a little…and in the meantime, stay playful and have fun!
      Bisous,
      Claudia

  5. We stay at two extreme parts of the country and we only talk over phn n texts . But sometimes when he is hurt we have no words to speak . He goes into depression and feel low . Wot do i do to make him feel complete happy and healthy.? I love him a lot and dont want our love to get fade away

    • Hello,
      I’m sorry to hear about your guy. I would suggest calling him or asking him to call you when you notice that he is hurt. Texts are never a good way to talk about problems, or deep emotional issues. I don’t think you should try to make him feel complete…he needs to feel complete himself. Instead, be thoughtful, sweet and specific. Send him messages regularly (mix up the timing – morning, noon and night), give him genuine compliments, ask questions, remember special occasions…and make sure that you meet up in the flesh from time to time.
      Bisous
      Claudia

  6. There’s this guy I really like and I think he’s playing me because of how he texts me. When I’m not online he doesn’t care to say hi. When I ask like 3 questions he only answers one and he never cares to be romantic with me. He gives excuses for everything and I don’t know if he’s playing me or not. I don’t know what to do. Help me please

    • Hi there,
      It’s hard to tell from what you have told me so far if he is playing you or not. Maybe he only answers 1 question because he is in a rush? I’m not sure how old you are, but sometimes younger guys have a hard time being romantic…if he is nice to you when you meet, he answers your messages and he finds a reason to talk to you “just because” there is a good chance he likes you. Guys are usually chatty, unless they like a girl. I would just stay playful and not bombard him with messages. Be positive and funny and let him chase you a little…
      Bisous
      Claudia

    • I find that most guys in general have a hard time answering more questions than 1 at a time. Try spacing out your questions instead of trying to pack a whole bunch into one question. Guys have a very low attention span.

    • can tell u that some people are like this. It took me two years to figure it out. It is not that they don’t care. Well maybe for some. Some people, like my girl, just have ADD and/or always (and i mean always!) in a rush. lol. I have learned to preface the important questions with a DQ (which means for us a direct question and very important that one takes precedence). It works for us and we have fun with it.

  7. Hi claudia,good day to you! I just want to share my experience now in long distance relationship..we meet online in a one of those thousands of dating sites in this technology…when I first saw his profile pic,I really like this men and suddenly I tried to send him a msgs..so he replied sooner and now we’re sending everyday a sweet msgs.sending pics of each other…my concern is I think I fall in love with this guy already,,what will I do? Is it possible?? Thanks and regards

    • Hey Vergie,
      I hope you are having a wonderful weekend, it’s great to hear from you! Even if the messages are sweet, you like his photos and he seems like a nice person, I would be very careful about falling in love with someone that you have never met. Does he live nearby? Would it be possible to meet him in the near future?
      Bisous,
      Claudia

  8. Hi Claudia.there is this girl we used to be classmates then she left the country to Egypt then to US so once she reached there, our relationship become more brighter then it was b4 but the only prob we face currently is she can’t come back to me now and I can’t go there bcz of circumstances how ever to reunite will take us time and we both promised to ve faith and confidence but sometimes I feel disappointed on distance between us,
    What is advice on a relationship like mine?

    • Hi Adde,
      If you are both ready and willing to work at it, then I think the relationship can work out. It’s important to share with her the important things that happen in your life as well as planning for the day that you will be together. Try and mix up your style of communication – Skype, photos, voice messages, phone call and of course text messages. Don’t let yourself get into the rut of venting about your day (annoying colleagues, long commutes, etc.) rather try to share with her all of the positive things (such as moments with your friends and family, doing something you love, etc.).
      Please send me an email if you would like some long distance texting ideas (claudia@textweapon.com)
      Good luck!
      Bisous,
      Claudia

  9. hey…. am in love with a man I fell inlove with through media and we’ve been dating for 5months now…. and we are meeting next month but we don’t talk like we used to… he seems busy but when I ask him he says he’s not and we get mixed up most times we argue mostly then he says sorry and assures he loves me
    my question is he really inlove with me as I much as I love him or does he just force it

    • Hi there,
      I think it’s great that you are meeting him in person. Social media can only go so far…If you are planning on meeting in 1 month, then just keep the conversation going without forcing it, and avoid fighting (arguing by text is horrible…it can get out of control so fast!). When you meet in person, watch to see how he acts. Do his action match his words and texts? I think you will feel very quickly whether he is in love with you or not.
      Good luck!
      Bisous,
      Claudia

  10. am in love with a girl but she told me she started dating a boy two weeks back but am not sure about this.
    tell me words,texts to send her pllz she left me speechless

    • Hi Sulli,
      Now that a little time has passed, I would send her a message such as “Just checking in on the girl with the beautiful smile – single yet? I’d love to take you out for (ice cream, coffee, a drink, etc.) :)”
      If she says that she is still with her boyfriend, I would reply “He’s one lucky guy…hopefully some day I’ll be in his place :)”
      Bisous,
      Claudia

  11. Dear Claudia,
    I am having a long distance online relationship and I really love the guy but don’t really know how to keep the spark. How can I keep him interested?

    • Hi AllAmerican,
      Keep things interesting my mixing up your messages (types of messages – video, photos, voice, text) and also the topics (being sweet and appreciative of him one time, and flirty and funny the next time). Try texting him at different times during the day, and do little things to create intimacy such as sending him photos of places you like to go together (or even his side of the bed) and letting him know that he’s missed. Keep the mundane, such as my colleague is so annoying, etc. type of complaints out of your daily conversations and you will be on the right path to keeping the spark alive.
      Bisous
      Claudia

  12. Hey Claudia, I’ve been dating this guy over a year. It’s long distance and at first it was really good. He always texted, called . Sent me I’m thinking of u text. I love u text. Recently he just slowed all of that up. We still talk . Still see each other. He has a different job so it’s harder. Which I understand. I tell him just like use to miss him. Can’t wait to see him. But now he just says let things happen. He used to say my girl and my baby. Not the last month or so. Any suggestions to get that in love feeling from him

    • Hi Rhonda,
      I would suggest speaking to him about it next time you see him in person. Tell him that his sweet messages really mean a lot to you, and that you miss receiving them. If he says he doesn’t understand what you are saying, show him a few of his latest cold messages. Maybe he doesn’t realize that he is pulling away. If he still says “lets just let things happen”, ask him where he sees the relationship going…one year is already a big investment. If you are 100% in, and he’s not, maybe it is a good idea to think about dating other people. You deserve to be happy and feel loved.
      Good luck!
      Bisous x
      Claudia

  13. Hi claudia, I’m in a long distance relationship for a while now. Recently i find my self not kniw What to say to him. Communication was great between But now it seems as if he is not interested, Probably this is Why I find my self not knowing What to say to him. I don’t want to seem to needy or naggy. Any suggestion How to get things back on track with him?

    • Hi Roma,
      It’s easy to get into a rut when you’re in a long distance relationship. So, to start with, I would suggest mixing up your communication – if you always text, send him a voice message, photo or FaceTime him. I think another one of easiest habits to get into when you’re in a long distance relationship is venting about daily stuff. So, try and avoid sending him a ton of negative messages. Instead, text about future plans together, or bring up fun things that you did in the past and let him know that you can’t wait to do it again. Let him know why you fell in love with him in the first place, and why you still want to be with him even though you are miles apart.
      Please email me if I can help.
      Bisous
      Claudia

  14. Hi Claudia, my boyfriend is workaholic and love his job .. always busy and sometimes he does not reply my text but after a few days later he explains everything. I’m also jealous, because he’s so handsome and yes , my friends also like him. I need some advice from you to stay positive and trust him no matter what happen

    • Hi Erlina,
      I’m sorry that you are feeling sad:( If you are going to stay with him in the long run then you need to learn to trust him.
      The fact that your friends like him shows that he has some attractive qualities. So, instead of feeling jealous, work on making yourself happy (follow your dreams, work hard at what you love, take care of yourself and be kind to others) and at the same time watch his actions – does he always keep his word? Does he flirt with other girls in front of you? Does he listen when you are speaking? Does he remember little things? These are the important things to look out for…
      So, in a nutshell, decide for yourself if he is trustworthy or not, and keep focusing on what makes you happy…it will help you stay positive!
      Sending tons of positive energy your way
      xo Claudia

  15. Hai dear IAM attracted to a person who is considering me as just one of his fan .How can I conquer his mind.In fact I don’t want to use his influence popularity or anything.I just want his love and attention.How to convey this decently.

    • Hi Nikki,
      That’s a tough situation as he probably has a lot of people after his fame. I’m not sure what type of relationship you have with him (have you met him in person? is he someone you have only been following from afar?). In either case, show interest in things that he isn’t famous for, but he is passionate about. For example, if he shares some photos he took, or talks about a favorite book then build on that. Be patient and try to develop a connection with him based on things you both like (not just praising his talent). I hope that helps!
      Bisous
      Claudia

  16. really need ways to spice up my long distaste relationship, dating for 3 years but sense hes seeing someone else, guess hes tired of our boring conversation. i need urgent help cause i love and dont want to lose him

    • Hi Bim,
      In addition to changing up when and what you send (sometimes send good morning texts, sometimes good night, sometimes a random thinking of you because text in the middle of the day) I would bring up shared flirty memories such as “remember that time we…can’t wait to do it again :)” Or let him know that you have sexy plans for him next time you see him “when you get off that plane you are all mine…” Don’t be shy to tell him specifically what you like (and miss) about him. Stay away from negative, mundane chatter (keep that for your friends and family). Spend some time focusing on what brought you together in the first place, and the good times that you have shared.
      Email me if I can help more! 🙂
      xo
      Claudia

  17. Hello Claudia, I am in a LDR with a girl and sometimes she acts as careless and sometimes she acts as if she is deeply in love with me, it is like she already calculated to play with my feeling.. I saw her having a hard time saying, just ‘I love you’ or ‘I miss you’. she take long time to reply . I feel like she is having a competition with me for no reason… I need help.

    • Hi Phil,
      If she is playing games, or acting strange then I definitely would talk to her face to face next time you see her. LDR are tough enough without the added drama. You need to know if she is in, or out. I wouldn’t have this type of conversation over text, it’s too difficult and it’s likely to end with misunderstandings and hurt feelings.
      Email me if I can help.
      Bisous xo
      Claudia

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