Want to know how to keep a guy interested? Many of us know what it’s like – he replies to our first few messages and we think we’ve got him hooked!
Then a whole episode of Orange is the New Black goes by and he hasn’t replied.
Before we know it, we’ve completed a whole season of our favorite series and there’s still no sign of Mr. “I Thought He Was the One”.
Look, it doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you. It just means that you haven’t yet learned how to make yourself a prize he wants to chase.
There are very specific things that a guy wants from a woman. While it’s a cliché to say that guys don’t want to commit, the truth is that they do.
But they first need to see that you’re worth their time, and they need to know that you’re a high-value prize worth chasing.
Let’s take a look at how to keep a guy interested via text.
Don’t Be So Available
Guys are often on the lookout for a long-term partner (for real), but they still want you to make this hard for them.
That’s right – a man doesn’t want you to make this easy.
This is pure Darwinian stuff. Since time immemorial, men have been hardwired to be the apex predator – the hunter who gives chase.
In the modern world, you might think that the concept of the alpha male is redundant, but you cannot erase what’s biological.
And from a purely biological standpoint, man as an animal wants to chase his woman.
If you instantly reply all the time, you’re giving the feeling that you are too available. This is not work, you are not being measured on your response rate. You should take your time to come up with a meaningful reply, not just something in a rush.
Remember, it’s the man’s role to work hard here. He’s the one courting you. So let him fulfill his role so that he feels satisfied. He wants to see you as someone with a lot of value and self-worth.
You don’t need to play games, but at the same time you don’t need to put your life on hold to be available for him every second of every day.
Don’t forget to show your tender side to him via text.
Why? Because a man wants to see your womanly qualities.
When a man is looking for a partner, he’s looking for very specific traits. And one of them is affection.
While it’s his role to tease you, it’s your role to show him some warmth.
Now and then, send him a text that lets him know you’re thinking about him. Show some tenderness, and tell him that you hope he’s having a fab day.
Send “digital hugs and kisses” when he’s not feeling too good.
More than anything, show him that you care about him.
How To Keep A Guy Interested? Show An Interest In Him
Earlier, I said that you mustn’t be too available. While this is true, when you communicate with him you need to make it count.
If a man is to invest time in you, he needs to see that you care about him and his life. If it’s him asking all the questions and you responding with one word answers about your own day and your own life, he will lose interest fast.
How do you do this? Simple. Ask him questions, remember what he tells you, and use it in future conversations (or even when you are planning a special activity with him).
Flirt With Him
Some people are natural flirts via text, while others need to learn the skills.
However, if he starts flirting with you, you need to flirt back – he wants to see if you’re game.
If you’re not a natural flirt and are dreading this one, just let him lead the way and follow him. Tease him gently from time to time, laugh at his jokes (this is the easiest way to flirt with him), tell him what you like about him and use emojis. The kissing emoji is a simple way to flirt, and it requires zero effort! Here are a few innocent, fun, flirty messages to get your creative juices flowing:
“I’m normally so shy, but around you…”
“I can’t wait to see you tonight…I might even have a surprise for you”
“I wish I was laying there next to you…”
“Just thinking about our last kiss…it was really hot. I want more”
Don’t Send A Follow-Up Text
Lastly, no matter what happens, resist sending the dreaded follow-up text. You know the one – “did you get my last message? why haven’t you answered yet?”. Once you’ve crossed that line, it can be hard to recover from it. From that point onward, you look too interested, you look a bit needy – and he might lose interest.
He might not, but women are sexier when they’re strong enough to resist sending a follow-up text. Remember, he needs to know that your time is valuable to you.
This is how to keep a guy interested via text. Got any tips and tricks of your own? Leave us a comment in the box below!
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