You Text Most of The Time, So Make It Count: 6 Ways To Up Your Texting Game

Have you ever finished a text conversation and thought, “Wow! That was an amazing conversation”? A skilled communicator can make you feel like this. They leave you wanting more and more…

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I remember the first time I came away from an inspiring and exciting text conversation. I was pleased as punch because I assumed that it was ME who was responsible for such a swashbuckling convo where the ebb and flow was as strong as the cosmos. But when I flicked through the conversation log the next day, I realized that it was actually MY PARTNER who had made it so thrilling. He was the one with texting game, not me.

So I began to learn from his methods.

I started to think about what makes a great texter. I mulled over the techniques and weapons that he used to engage me and sustain my interest so much that I was thinking about him and the conversation wayyyy after it was over.

I learned that it’s both an art and a science.

And I also learned that it isn’t easy!!!

It is, however, super important that all of us learn how to make our text conversations count if we’re to get exactly what we want.

Especially if you’re trying to impress a new person in your life, your texting game is your best weapon. You’ll certainly be texting them more than you’ll be speaking to them in real life (even if you live in the same town), so you need to dazzle them with your words and keep them wanting more. Your text conversation needs to leave them breathless. OK, maybe that’s a bit of a stretch, but it should at least be good enough to force them go back and re-read the conversation a few times (a few hundred times).

6 Ways To Up Your Texting Game

Let’s take a look at a few ways to up your texting game and make your texts count.

1. Get Them Talking About Themselves

I love to talk about myself. I admit it. It’s fun. I like to tell people anecdotes about my life and toot my own horn.

Why? The same reason we all like to talk about ourselves. Because it makes us feel good.

In fact, talking about ourselves makes us feel so good that it’s almost akin to the total pleasure we experience when we devour a delicious meal on an empty stomach.

Or even when we get paid at the end of the month.

So what this means is that if you love to talk about yourself?

It means that they do too! Which means you should get them to talk about themselves without turning it into a job interview or a police interrogation.

Asking them interesting and engaging questions will make them open up, be more responsive, and you will develop a certain level of intimacy (yes it’s possible to develop intimacy via text).

2. Make Them Feel Good

One thing I realized as I dissected the plethora of conversations that left me wanting more was that the other person had deliberately made me feel good. Moreover, they had left me feeling important, as though my opinions really mattered. Folks, that is GOOD texting game!

The result was that I exited the conversation with a big smile on my face and with serotonin flooding my brain. I was addicted to this conversation.
There are many ways you can make your partner feel good. You can use their name, remember specific things they have told you, surprise them with something you know they like (like a Romantic Bedtime Story) or just tell them that they are amazing.

3. Sincere Compliments

Which brings me to the next tip: You can also win them over by giving honest compliments. This immediately disarms them and makes them feel comfortable. It’s a classic ice-breaker that never fails. The key, of course, is to be honest. Don’t say anything that sounds ridiculous and unbelievable.

Can’t think of anything? Why are you texting them? ☺

4. Ask For Their Advice

Another winning piece of advice? Ask for THEIR advice. For example, maybe you’re got a personal dilemma you just can’t solve, or maybe you’re not sure about the opening paragraph of your MBA admissions essay. Sharing these problems with them gives them a massive sense of importance.

5. Emphasize What You Have In Common

They say that birds of a feather flock together, and this is true in both real life and in texting. So if you want to improve your texting game, you need to play off your commonalities.

You’re far more likely to retain their interest if you talk about things you have in common than if you wander far from the horizon and take them into uncharted territory where they feel as though they’re stranded on a remote island with a total stranger. Even if you can quilt like no other, explaining where to find the best fabric and all the latest knitting techniques to a 25 year old guy at 10:30 on a Wednesday night is not going to score you any points in the seduction department.

Build a connection by keeping the conversation focused on things you both know and love.

If you both like a particular type of music, talk about it.

If you both like to cook, talk about it.

But don’t keep asking questions about the subject. Add anecdotes, talk about your experiences and theirs.

6. Be Unpredictable

You don’t want to be so unpredictable that the other person ends up confused. I’m not saying that you should randomly jump from discussing veganism to talking about your family’s hereditary hair follicle issue (not sexy). Of course the chain of topics has to be logically linked.

But you can still be unpredictable.

What I mean by this is that you should try hard to not be boring. Show them that you’re someone who thinks outside the box and has unique and fascinating things to say.

Pepper your text with inspiring facts or thoughts.

Be funny.

Be random.

Tell them you’ve spontaneously headed off on a trip somewhere.

Don’t be conventional.

The more unpredictable you are, the more addicted to your conversations they will become, your texting game will thank you for it!

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About Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.

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