Social Media signs a guy likes you or LIKES you (big L baby).
Sound like a familiar story?
Every last female on the face of our magnificent planet has scratched her head and asked herself the age-old question of “what are the signs a guy likes you?” at least once (and Googled it at least 500 times). Confidence and having a life have nothing to do with it – we all question ourselves every now and then, especially when it comes to guys.
The beginning of a relationship can be tricky, especially attempting to decipher the signs a guy likes you. As much as they hate to admit it, guys play games too, and I’m not talking about Chess or Fantasy Football. Sometimes, dudes are confusing!
Well ladies, what can I say – thank your lucky little stars for Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. Without them, we’d be in the garden tearing out petals like our grandmas – “He loves me, he loves me not.”
Signs A Guy Likes You In The Digital Age
Learn how to master these modern day tools of romance, and you’ll be reading the 10 sure-fire signals that scream “let’s take it to the next level” in no time! (No petals involved!)
1. He Asks You Questions
When you send him a message, does he respond with a question? If so, this is a tantalizing clue that he’s done his personal development homework and knows that asking questions is a GREAT way to keep the conversation flowing and find out more about you. Whether he is asking you what you’re doing over the weekend, what your thoughts are about an important news story, or what’s on your play list, asking you SOMETHING shows a genuine interest. On a side note, if he asks you how to score a date with your best friend; send him packing. NEXT!
2. Â He Replies To Your Messages Promptly
In the era of WhatsApp, that whole ‘waiting three days to respond’ rigmarole is redundant. He knows that you can see that he has read your message, and if he likes you then he isn’t going to keep you waiting because he WANTS to write to you. No girls, he doesn’t have to reply immediately (hey, we’ve all got other stuff going on), but if he is into you, he will make it a habit to respond pretty darn fast. Obviously, everyone has busy lives and little annoying things called “work” or “school”, so don’t freak if once in a while he takes his sweet old time. Don’t let yourself go down the rabbit hole of wondering why a guy stopped texting me should I text him? If he seems engaged, wait.
3. Â He Follows You On Instagram
Now, it’s fine to be friends with everyone you have ever met on Facebook, but Instagram is a different story. Unless you’re a super star photographer and he’s admiring your landscapes, he’s following you on Instagram because he’s scrolling through all of your selfies and giving them a big ol’ heart. If your account is set up under an obscure name and he manages to find you, then it’s a pretty tell tale sign that he’s curious and hot to trot.
4. Â He Sends You Unnecessary Texts
Does he text you out of the blue, with a random message saying just thinking of you? One of the key signs a guy likes you is this kind of solid proof he’s got you on his mind when you aren’t around. A text to say a song came on the radio that reminded him of you, that he’s reading a book that he thinks you might like, or that he just remembered something you said and laughed out loud on the bus are all “green means go” signals. You might be thinking, “but I send those messages to people all the time!” Yes, but you’re a girl. Unlike you, guys don’t just “chat” with anyone. They chat with people they LIKE. In this case, you!
5. Â He Sends You Nonchalant Snapchats Throughout The Day
If he sends you private Snapchats of what he’s eating for lunch or a new pair of shoes that he just bought, then he is probably most likely, definitely interested in you. In fact, he’s already acting like a boyfriend by making you a part of his everyday life.
But be warned ladies, I’m not referring to vulgar or immature images (yes, we have all received some of those “gems”). Instead I’m talking about when he is motivated to share casual day-to-day elements of his life with you.
6. Â He Texts You Just To Say ‘Good Morning’
Do you ever wake up to find a text from simply saying ‘Good Morning’? Hmmmm this means that you are the first thing on his mind when he pulls back the covers. Yep, you guessed it, a great sign that he would prefer having you next to him under the sheets.
7. Â He Shares Something That Interests You On Facebook
One of the key signs a guy likes you is if you log onto your Facebook to see that he’s shared something on your wall that actually interests you. It might be something as mundane as the latest music video from your favorite band, but it’s actually a fantastic sign that he is invested in trying to get to know you and your interests – and he wants you to know it.
8. Â He Writes You Long Messages
Whether over a text, Facebook messenger, or WhatsApp, he doesn’t hold back when communicating with you. If he sends long and detailed messages, rather than just a simple response, you’re in like Flynn. On a side note, a stream of one-word replies should be an obvious sign that you need to cool it, you’re not getting anywhere baby.
9. He Likes Or Comments On Your Pictures
Does he like or comment on your photos on Facebook or Instagram? Go on, go a little psycho, you know you want to. Next time you’ve got a little time to kill, check out his level of activity on other female friends’ profiles (you never know, he might just be REALLY into this summers’ range of seafolly bikinis…) If you’re the only on getting the social loving, then take your little private-eye activity a step further. Analyze which images he likes; if they tend to be photographs of yourself rather than landscapes or group shots, then start smiling. Read his comments for further clarification, and obviously NEVER tell him about your little adventure in the crazy land!
10. He Contacts You During The Day
If a guy only ever contacts you late at night, especially on weekends, chances are that he is only after one thing. Don’t try to rationalize it, it’s seriously NOT the “only time he has free for texting”. If, however, he is regularly taking time out of his busy day-to-day life to send you messages between the hours of 9am and 5pm then, more often than not, you can consider it one of the signs a guy likes you. Of course, you should pay attention to the hours that he works. If he regularly works night shifts, an overnight text might not mean a booty call, but rather that he was thinking of you on his lunch break. (you beat his burger – WIN!)
11. He Adds Kisses At The End Of Messages
It may seem obvious, but does he add kisses or something cutesy to the end of his messages? The method of messaging is also important here; it’s much more common to add a kiss to the end of a text than it is in a Facebook message, Instagram comment or a WhatsApp conversation – however, if your text includes three kisses… well, that’s not common at all.
12. He Invites You To Events
When you log into your Facebook account, are you bombarded by event invitations all sent to you by the guy in question? If he is regularly inviting you to events, it is likely that he is doing so as he wants to bump into you there. Whether it is an invite to a party, gig, or concert where there will be lots of people, or an intimate dinner at a mutual friend’s house, he is requesting the presence of your company because he enjoys spending time with you.
Social Media Signs A Guy Likes You FAQ
I get asked a lot of questions about social media signs a guy likes you. To help you out even further, I decided to make a collection of some of the top questions I hear time and time again.
What are some of the main social media flirting signs to look out for?
First and foremost you should be keeping tabs on his level of engagement. Does he not only often like your stories, but does he also comment, ask questions and do his very best to keep the conversation going? If so, this is a pretty good sign he likes you and he wants to build a connection with you.
Why is he liking my posts but not texting me?
OK, so you noticed that a cute guy you have your eye on is liking your posts, but you are scratching your head wondering why is he liking my posts but not texting me? The first thing I ask the person is “are you engaging with him?” meaning have you also liked some of his posts, commented or given him some sort of signal that you are open to connecting with him? If you have made an effort and all he does is like random posts he is probably just playing the field and not looking for anything serious. – you know, he might be liking posts of cute girls left and right, putting his virtual net out there seeing who will respond. If you have been engaging with him and is still not texting you, he could be timid and doesn’t have the courage to leave a comment and is hoping that you will engage with him first. Or, he might just be trying to grab your attention so he can make his move when he sees you face to face.
If a guy likes you will he like your posts?
One of the top questions I get asked is if a guy likes you will he like your posts? Liking your posts is a good sign, however an even better sign is if he is actively trying to connect with you, by sending you DM’s, making meaningful comments and doing all of these things consistently.
What are some of the other signs a guy likes you?
As I have said before, probably the most tell tale sign is how much effort he is putting into communicating with you, basically is he sending you quality messages consistently? and second, is he trying to actually meet up with you in person?
Why he sends me reels on Instagram daily?
This might be his way of trying to snag your attention and entertain you. Or, he could also be a player, sending you generic reels that he sends out to a slew of girls. The important question to ask yourself is “are they personalized for you?” and “is he doing anything else to try and build a connection besides sharing reels?”.
If a guy likes you will he follow you on Instagram?
Following you on Instagram shows that he has some level of interest – enough to see your posts and stories. But keep in mind that not every guy that follows you on Instagram is interested in a romantic relationship with you. He might like the type of content you share, or think you are cute, which is a good start!
Why he only talks to me on Instagram?
The answer to this question is not black and white. First, how long have you been communicating with him? If it’s only been a few days, relax. If it has been several weeks or longer than maybe he’s just looking for an online flirt. Second, how deep has your communication been? Are you sending DM’s or has he just been liking your stories? If he is consistently chatty in the DM’s then the natural thing is to move to text or instant message and schedule a meet up. If he is only liking a few random posts, then don’t hold your breath about taking your relationship further. Third, how well do you know each other? Is he a friend of a friend? Or, is he a total stranger? If he is a friend of a friend, then there is some level of comfort, so he should be quicker to ask for your number. If he’s a total stranger, then maybe he’s taking his time…or maybe he’s already taken.
What does it mean when a guy likes your Instagram story?
Sorry ladies, but it could mean a lot of things. First, what is your story about? Is it you on the beach rocking a hot bikini? Or, beautiful landscapes? The more personal the story, the stronger his like becomes
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Hey Claudia
I like this guy right. We just became friends recently and when we’re alone he talks to me but when we’re with our friends he only says a few words. Also he followed me on instagram and I followed him back but he only likes photo’s that I post where I’m with my friends and never photos of myself.
I always catch him looking at me and we always have this weird eye connections all the time. He never texts me first bt always replies promptly to my messages.
I don’t know if he likes me or not but I always feel something when I’m around him.
Also before we became friends, he would come up to me and ask me random questions or make a comment.
I really like him but I don’t wana put myself out and get rejected, therefore what do you think I should do??
Hey Sonya,
It sounds like he likes you, but he is shy and scared of being rejected. I would casually bring up activities and places you will be during the weekend, or at night, and see if he shows up. Try and speak with him one on one as much as you can when you see him, look him in the eyes, smile and find a reason to touch his arm or shoulder (subtle flirting đ Then, be patient and wait for him to make his move. I still think it’s up to the guy to make the first move. You give him the signals, and then he needs to take it from there. And if he doesn’t? Find another cute guy who you enjoy chatting with and who is ready to sweep you off your feet đ
Bisous
Claudia
I felt like I was being annoying texting my crush, so I asked him if im being annoyingor if Im fine and he said Im fineâ€. Does that mean he likes me?
Hi Lexie đ
It’s definitely a good sign…now keep the momentum going by sending positive, fun text messages (don’t ask him again if you are annoying him, or he might start being annoyed).
Good luck!
Bisous x
Claudia
This guy I like has a girl friend, but he seems less interested in her and he randomly starts conversations with me and I catch him staring at me a lot in class. I texted him a question about school once and he responded in the minute, but the convo ran after a few joking texts. I don’t want to text and snapchat him all the time because he has a girlfriend and I’m scared she’ll find out, but just the other day he liked our DM chat on Instagram totally out of the blue! What does that even mean? Help!
Hi Emma,
From what you’ve said, he seems interested in you, BUT don’t forget that he DOES have a girlfriend. So I wouldn’t play with fire. You’re just going to get hurt. If he leaves his girlfriend for you, he might leave you for someone else. And if he just flirts with you, you’re going to get attached to him, and then he might never leave his girlfriend. Either way, you lose and get hurt. Are there any other single guys that you find cute?
Bisous,
Claudia
hey like 4 months ago i started to talk to this guy and we talked but just on snapchat and instagram. I knew he liked me and he was so sweet and funny. i started liking him even loving well than we talked and talked and i tried to ask him to meet me and he always said yes and than the next day he bailed and he had done 6 times . at this time i always needed to start conversations and then i stopped talking to him i knew he didnt like me anymore and he had changed he wasnt the sweet kind funny guy and started to be a fyqboi.well then his friend sent me hi and started talking to me at his time the other guy didnt like me and i cried and loved him so much,well his friend is so sweet now and cute and actually cares about me i think? well i always need to start conversation or not always just sometimes but owell he says iam sweet and funny and sends hearts. but i always starts conv so iam wondering should i talk to him or not? its also so hard because he is the other guys friend but he hates him just like i do but iam wondering does he really like me beacuse he is a fuqboi idk
Hi Bjork,
First of all, I would totally forget about the first guy. He sounds like he just wants to flirt, but he doesn’t want to take it any further (if he bailed 6 times). I would be super careful of the second guy if he is friends with the first guy. Maybe he is just telling you what you want to hear…but if he is friends with the first guy, then he probably doesn’t hate him. It is definitely not a good sign if you are always starting the conversation. Could it be because you are not giving him a chance to text you first (you are too quick)? I would not text him for awhile and see what happens. I know it’s hard, but I think it’s the right thing to do.
Bisous,
Claudia
Just started to text with a guy and he wants to meet up for lunch and he is going to pay. He offered me to play a game at his house too? What does this mean?
He has not asked for any sexy pictures, like all of the guys I have talked to does.. Might he be intrested for once in me and not be a player who asks for nudes?
We have since we started texting texted all day, and sometimes he start texting first in the morning..
He also put a hearts at the end of the text, a lot of times.
Hi Diana,
If you enjoy chatting with him, and you think he is safe, have lunch with him. BUT, I would not play any games at his house…it sounds a little fishy. Stay in public places at all times, make sure someone knows where you are, keep your phone with you, and don’t feel like you owe him anything if he pays for lunch, because you don’t.
As for the hearts…you’ll have to see how he acts…
Bisous,
Claudia
Hey
So there’s this guy that I like and he likes me we hug everyday and flirt and one day he even tried to kiss me, but I want to get to know him better and get into a relationship before doing so. We like eachothers posts and he messaged me one day and I didn’t respond and he told me he messaged me and I messaged him back telling him to message me elsewhere but he just read it but we still flirt should I just give up ? Why would he message me then not respond?
Hi Pam,
I wouldn’t give up just because he didn’t respond once. Maybe he was distracted by something else, or maybe he is testing you by acting a little aloof to see how you respond (if you chase after him or stop responding too).
Keep doing what you are doing – respond to his messages when he texts you, get to know him slowly and take your time. If he is really interested in you he will be patient.
Bisous,
Claudia
Hey, so I like this guy in my youth group, and I think he might like me. He is always nice and trying to make me laugh, and tossing a vball back and forth.. he also makes eye contact, and used to like all my facebook posts. He did stop, but his attitude stayed the same.. he just messaged me actually, And he started by asking me a question.. And he even helped me with some chairs once.. we were at a youth cabin, and we and a couple others got in a pillow fight, and he always says nice serve and stuff like that when it comes to vball do you think he likes me? Theres a bunch of other nice things he did.. but. I cant quite remeber them all.. thanks
Hi Cheyanne,
It definitely sounds like he is interested in you (otherwise he wouldn’t do all of those things). Have you given him any signs that you are interested in him? For example, are you doing the same thing – eye contact, asking him questions and smiling? Guys are also scared of rejection, so unless he has a few signs from you, he is probably not going to make his move.
Good luck! Let me know how it goes đ
Bisous,
Claudia
hey, thanks, im pretty sure he knows I like him. I always smile around him, and I messaged him at least twice.. im always happy around him.i don’t know I think theres more, I cant really explain the signs that I give him, ut I most definitely sure he does know I think he’s cute.. lol and so far its going good. really good
I hope it continues to go well. Keep smiling! đ Sending tons of positive energy your way!
xo Claudia
okay, so Cheyanne isn’t my real. its just in case he were to see or whatever, but I was bored and messaged him, and he was all nice, and joking like, and sent stickers, and emoji’s. do you think he likes me,like on a scale of 1 to 10 ? he also relied right away.
Hey there, I’d give it an 8 đ
hey Claudia, quick question, this guy that I like literally hides behind a corner of a building , and tries to like look at me without him noticing, and its not weird or creepy to me, we are both in the teens age, what do you think that means ?
Hey Cheyanne,
If he is making an effort to see you (and it’s not creepy) then I would say that he probably likes you… đ
Bisous,
Claudia
thanks Claudia, I didn’t see that, and no its not creepy, maybe a little weird, but not creepy.
Hiya Claudia there’s this guy whom I’ve known to see and have a crush on him for a long time. I see him at rowing regattas in the summer and both him and I have a huge passion for rowing. I sent a girly post to him through instagram by a mistake and we started chatting afterwards. The next day he added me on Snapchat and we had a little chat on that too. We are 50/50 with who starts the conversation, which is usually a week/week and a half apart.We’ve chatted a good few times to eachother too so far. Its been nearly 3 weeks now and We haven’t spoken (nothing bad happened) and its his turn to text and Im afraid that he has lost interest:( According to my friends whom I’ve sent screenshots to of some of our convos, we get on like “a house on fire” Im not sure if he regards me as a friend or more… Tnx x
Hi MK,
It’s normal for text conversations to have highs and lows – especially if you haven’t seen each other since last summer. Is there any way you can meet up with him off season (now?). Is there a cool event coming up that you know he would like and you could invite him to? What is he up to on Instagram? Anything you could start chatting about? If not, try to get the conversation going by sending him a random text with something funny or interesting and tell him why it made you think of him. Whatever you do, don’t ask him why he hasn’t texted you in 3 weeks – just play it cool and have fun đ
I hope things work out for you!
xo
Claudia
Hey Claudia, I really like this guy. I met him on Tinder , and that then turned to snapchat and I have met him in person ( we get along great) He has not once sent me an inappropriate photo or asked for one either. But most all of our conversations are over snapchat. I’ll try to keep this brief. He used to say good morning everyday and we’d talk all day. We got to know each-other better and it seemed like he got more and more impressed as he found out things about me. He really seems interested. He likes not only my pretty selfies on insta , but my silly ones too and my quotes. He watches all of my snapchat stories as soon as he can but as we started to get closer and more flirtacious he started to pull away, we Still talk almost everyday, sometimes he takes a little while to reply but I know he does have quite a busy schedule. Even when I give him an out for a conversation he still keeps it going. I’m so confused because I feel like he likes me, he is definitely attracted to me but I feel like it’s more than that. he remembers little things and always makes time ( when he doesn’t have enough he apologizes) but he just seems to be held back by something. I feel it’s important to mention he’s slightly younger than me I’m 23 and he’s 20. I just don’t know what to do. I really like this guy and that doesn’t happen to me often.
Hi N,
I definitely think he likes you – but he sounds like he is either shy and scared to make a move, or emotionally unavailable. If you really like him, just be patient. Don’t let your conversations become mundane – keep them flirty and fun, and wait to see what happens…If you need anything, send me an email: [email protected]
Sending tons of positive energy your way.
xx Claudia
Hey,I like this guy from Social Media but we never meet before and I got see him in picture.He do tell me where he go by his own.And even ask me if I eat dinner already.And tell me what did he eat.We did say Goodmorning everyday but not sure he really like me.
Hi Amanda,
If you have been chatting with him for awhile on Social Media and you seem to get along (and you know that he is not a dangerous person -for example he is a friend of a friend), hint that you would like to meet up in person. Tell him where you will be this weekend and see if he jumps at the opportunity to hang out. Otherwise you could spend a longgggg time chatting with him on Social media without it ever going anywhere…
Good luck! Let me know if you need anything.
Bisous,
Claudia
Hi Claudia,I like this guy since October last year and our relationship is quite complicated I guess?? He once offered to pay for my amusement ride ticket which i rejected, that caused everyone in my youth group to start shipping us together and all that and I told them to back off. He would send these texts with the đđandđemojis and would often stare at me also. He once asked me stupid questions such as if I were wearing my school uniform when I was. I usually catch him staring and I would stare back at him in the eye. He actually continued to hold eye contact and I would eventually blush and look away. I was
pretty sure he liked me by then so I confessed to him really directly and just said ‘um hi i like you’ the first time i sent it he thought it was a dare so I played along and said it was my friend, but then he randomly said my friend called him ( she didnt ) to say i liked him but i brushed it off. However, the next day, I decided go tell him I actually DID like him and he responded with ‘ aww thanks đ, come to future outings ok ? ‘ and then of course i didnt go for future outings because i felt so scared because I actually wanted my crush on him to disappear and him to say he didnt like me. Btw he always replies me within 1-5 minutes. He also follows me on instagram ( doesnt mean a lot though because he follows other girls ) and liked and commented on one group picture. Fast forward some months later, people are STILL shipping us together, which he always ignores good naturedly. He recently sent me a snapchat saying good night and he watches porn which he claimed was what his friend sent to me and not him. I have no idea whether he even likes me back up til this day. And, oh, in between this period I rejected two other guys because I didnt like them as much as him.Thanks for reading this it’s so long ;;;
Hi Zo,
It’s really nice to hear from you! đ It does sound like a complicated story…would it be possible to spend some time with him in person? I think that if you keep sending snapchats and text messages and phone calls from friends and stuff like that it’s going to stay complicated. If you see him a few times in person then maybe you can see how he acts and if he wants to spend time just with you (or if you should move on and go for the guys that you rejected before…)
Bisous
Claudia
Thank you so much for the great advice !! đIf Im honestly speaking he became slightly fboi after I confessed and an even bigger flirt with me idk how that was even possible;; In actual fact I see him every week but with other people and parents around so we cant talk a lot. Sometimes though he would strike conversations if we go out together with other friends without parents. I tried not to start a conversation with him before on text and both times he mainly asked how I was and good morning. Should I just pretend nothing happened and try to ignore the people shipping us together although it is really irritaiting ? Or what else do you suggest I do ?
Hi Zo,
If you like him, don’t let other people get in your way (ignore them). Just enjoy getting to know him…and having a cute guy flirt with you đ
Bisous xo
Claudia
Hi
I really like him from the last two years but never had the courage to talk to him. We became friends on Facebook recently. He always texts me first.. Sometimes sends me a line with a deep meaning that may be a hint. (Like.. We have a common dream let ‘us’ make it into reality. Or Let us meet today without actually meeting each other) We have more than 10 things in common. He asks me things like what does my dad think about him. He sends me his pictures but he never asks for mine.. He also stares at me a lot in school (of course I do too!) And we make a weird eye contact then we both look the other way. But he is not much involved in girls saying he is better without them. I really want him but I m not sure does he like me or he is confused.. I could have asked him but I m afraid of rejection.. Wht should I do now? đ
Hi Ash,
It sounds like he likes you (but it also sounds like he is kind of shy). I wouldn’t ask him if he likes you or not. Instead, play it cool. Keep chatting with him (in person and via text). Drop hints about things you will be doing on the weekends (and after school) to see if he shows up. The more time you can spend with him in person, the better. It will give you some great topics to text about, plus you can amp up the flirting with eye contact, smiling and touching his arm/hand/etc. Just be patient, and don’t chase after him even if you really, really like him (I know it’s hard! đ
Bisous,
Claudia
Hey
So I like this guy! I’m only a teenager, we are the same age we go to school together. I’m not in any of his classes which sucks. I recently just started to like him, we haven’t really talked in person that much at school this year but sometimes he will tease me when he sees me in the halls, I just laugh it off I’m not offended or anything because I know he is just joking. We just started really talking on snapchat, it’s started we were just sending photos of our faces. Also I forgot to mention we are always insulting each other sometimes it’s harsh and sometimes it’s just all In good fun. Recently we had a long coversation maybe 2 hours or so, on Snapchat. It was really good, we talked about girls being really inappropriate at school, we were telling each other stories, it was good, we weren’t insulting each other, instead we were agreeing and laughing. When we broke off the conversation he had to sleep cuz he had basketball on the morning and it was getting late, he said he would talk to me tmr, I said okay goodnight, talk to u tmr. Good chat. He agreed that it was a good chat. After that conversation I have this amazing feeling in my stomach I feel so good. It was different and I think I really like him. Anyways, what do u think?
Hi Cecilia,
I think it sounds very promising! He seems genuinely interested in getting to know you, you both have the same value,s and you have a lot to talk about đ Keep getting to know him – both on snapchat and in person. Let me know if you need anything.
Bisous,
Claudia
Thx so much, I really appreciate your help. âșïž
Hi
So theres this one guy that i am starting to like but im confused by his behaviour. We went out on a date once and afterwards he said he had a good time but he hasn’t asked for a second date or to hang out (its been a week). We only talk on snapchat, which Im not sure if its problematic? The date went really well even though it was short. He still seems interested like he tells me hes been thinking of me and how i looked great on our first date. Ive been receptive towards this and have expressed i had fun, but he still hasn’t said anything… He also loves to flirt and sends sexy photos via snapchat? Will this not go further other than what it has? Do you have any advice?
Hi Chloe,
Hmmm, good question. You could either:
– tell him where you are going to be on a certain date/time and then see if he shows up. For example: “Lisa and I are going to check out the concert at xyz on Sat night. Heard it’s going to be amazing…”
– ask him if you are going to hang out (keep it light/teasing). For example “…you know the snapchat is great, but I’m pretty sure I still prefer seeing the real you…”
Then see what he does đ He should still have to man up and ask you out again.
Bisous,
Claudia
He just did 2 of these , he tags a girl in his pics all the time , he never texted me , he did request to follow me on Instagram and he did like ALL of my pictures
Hey Mira,
It sounds like he might be interested. Have you liked/commented on any of his pictures? Try it and see what he does (hopefully texts you to see if you want to meet up! đ
Bisous x
Claudia
Claudia,
There is a cute guy I’ve had a crush on for a while. In the past couple of months he has liked 99% of my pictures. I tried DMing him and started a casual conversation. I tried doing a tbh post to see if he would liked, one of the few he hasn’t. Although he has continued to like my post and usually one of the first to like it. I have no idea if there is something there. What should I do?
Hey CJ,
If you started the last DM conversation with him, I would wait for him to start the next convo. As far as photos go, do you also like some of his photos? If not, do it (just a few đ Maybe he is shy and isn’t sure if you like him or not – so if he sees that you like a few of his photos, he might get up the courage to message you.
Bisous x
Claudia
Hi Claudia , I noticed that my husband has been liking nearly every post on this one girl’s FB page. Then sometimes he makes these deep comments about connections of souls and things like that.
I hadn’t paid that much attention to it until he posted up some article to robot sex partners in response to one of her comments, which I thought was over the top.
Then I was reading a funny thread on another friend’s timeline and there he was chatting with the same girl in some sub comments. Talking about where they grew up, favorite music etc.
I’m not even sure what to do about this if anything? Can you help?
Hi Gina đ
Hmmm, if it makes you feel uncomfortable, then I would talk to him about it. I think it’s important for every couple to have a clear understanding of what is considered normal communication, and what is considered flirting. Then I would not check his SM accounts anymore…it will just make you crazy đ
Sending tons of positive energy your way xx
Claudia
Hi! So I kinda like this guy and he’s pretty cute but I’m not sure if he likes me. He doesn’t have a girlfriend. He’s never been to a school dance before and I brought it up that I haven’t either and was probably not until next year because I don’t really think you should date if you can’t drive yourself ( I’m about to get drivers license in summer) therefore will rely on somebody else. He agreed that it was weird if you can’t drive. However, I always catch him looking at me if we’re in class. He usually will make facial expressions toward my direction usually responding to what our teacher has said (especially in second period where he sometimes moves across the room so he’s across from me) I’m also not sure if he’s looking at me or the girl in front of me. (Whom he also talks to) He’s a super sweet and kind guy so he lets just about any girl wear his jacket if they are cold. He always notices if I get my hair colored or cut and compliments me on it. But since he’s a nice guy I’m not sure if it’s with just me or with anyone. In all the classes I have with him he talks to me but not sure if that’s just cuz he’s sweet.
I’m super confused and not sure if it’s just a friendship thing or a more than friends thing.
Please help!
Hi there đ
It sounds like he’s a really cool guy đ It’s hard to say if he in interested in you as a girlfriend or as a girl who is his friend. I would just continue being yourself – chat, smile and have fun with him. If he starts asking you to spend time alone with him and is affectionate (hugs, holding your hand, etc.) then you can be pretty sure he is interested in you as his girlfriend. Like I said, for the time being, just have fun getting to know him.
Bisous
Claudia
Hey,
So there’s this guy I like… it all started at our schools skiing trip and I knew him through band but I only liked him after I spent the day with him and his friends. After that we started DM chatting in insta we both follow each other even in his dogs account we used to chat but then it sorta stopped idk why he stopped talking to me and we’re both shy of talking to each other … well at least I’m my part I don’t know what to do there’s a trip in Saskatoon we’re going on and I’m gonna hang out with him I’m going to be so embarrassed đ©
HELP
hey there,
I’m so sorry for the delay, for some reason your message was not showing up and I only saw it now. I hope that your ski trip went well and you started talking to him again đ If you ever want to restart a conversation with a guy after a long silence, ask him a question or ask him for his help (the best place to find tickets, help with homework, fixing something, etc.). People in general are programmed to answer questions, and guys are usually happy to help, so either option should get the conversation going.
Sending tons of positive energy your way.
xoxo
Claudia
Hey do it this guy I like at work we hit it off great and flirting and then he ask me to prom but when I ask him to make sure he said he already had a date and I think has a girlfriend and is talking to multiple girls and I know that if he doing that to other girls he will do it to me to but I stop talking to him and now it’s kinda awkward and he keeps asking asking where my boyfriend is and making side comments for me to get his his attention and I’m not a fool or string along so what should i do .
Hey Telisha,
You are so right, if he is doing that to other girls he will definitely do it to you. I would continue to avoid him, and if you do see him, just keep telling him that you already have a boyfriend. Be patient – there are tons of great guys out there! đ
Bisous,
Claudia
Hi Claudia! I am so confused with a guy whom I met online and been talking via whatsapp right immediately after the firat contact. We have been talking for over 4 months nonstop, we both iniciate the conversations and say good night every night. We haven’t met each other because we are from different countries so we are very far away from each other, but we have talked about meeting each other when we have enough money to travel. He is 5 years older than me we both are adults and work. The thing with this guy is that he confuses me! From the very beging I was very clear with him of what I was looking for which is to meet the right guy for me, I’m not interested in casual dating. So he told me that he was also looking for the same, he even told me about a dream he had of a son he will have and even told me that we could be living there were he lives as a couple and even told me about raising our kids there! That for me just sounded so crazy, we had just met a few weeks back when he said that. Then things calmed down a bit and kept texting and knowing each other, but suddenly he changed and started acting a bit weird, when I mentioned about us meeting he wouldn’t follow anymore and would just ignore me or if I shared whit him an idea or an opinion he would ignore my message and talk about something else, that made me think he wasn’t really into me anymore but was so confused because he kept talking to me daily even when he ignored some of the messages I sent him. I confronted him and told him that he knew from the very begining what I was looking for and that sometimes he sounded like he was trying to play with me, so I asked him what he really was looking for or if he just was talking to me because maybe he was feeling alone. I told him that it was so confusing that we were acting like a couple when we were not, and so I asked him what he was really looking for right now to know if we were in the same page. He told me that he liked me a lot and that he wasn’t getting any younger. And he also asked me to keep knowing each other by taking one day as it comes. I agreed on that and thouhgt it was a really reasonable answer. But he keeps ignoring some of my messages, he send me pics of his everyday, tell me about his day at work and about what he is planning for his job, but when I share something about me with him, he wouldn’t comment anything and just ignore even when I send a picture of myself or so, he would only comment unless I ask him to. So I’m confused because if he was really into me he would be interested in me, that way he knows more about me right? What do you think? I think maybe he could be emotionally unaviable and centering in his job right now… thank you for reading me and sorry for the long post hehe
Hi Susana,
I apologize for the delay, I had a technical glitch. There are a few things that concern me about your story:
1. He talks about having kids with you without ever meeting you (having kids is a big deal…)
2. He is hot then cold
3. He is more interested in talking about himself then getting to know you
Is it possible to meet him in person? If so, I would try to do that right away before spending any more time (and energy) getting to know him (and possibly getting hurt).
Bon courage!
Big hugs xo
Claudia
Hi claudia.
I most definitely need your advice. Back in November up until now I caught major feelings for my brothers girlfriends brother. When I first met him it seemed to me that he was interested in me. Some examples include: he would ask me questions about me as if he wants to get to know me “do you work out, do you play sports, what do you do for work” things like that. We all did a bonfire with my brother his girlfriend her older brother his wife another couple and me and the guy I like. So it was pretty much all couples except me and him. My brother made smores for him and he asked me to try it. I told him I didn’t like s’mores but he insisted I take a bite from his. He also kept telling me to put the hood of my sweater on because it was cold. We both smoke cigarettes and sometimes he would come back from the store and bring me cigarettes without even asking (this is when me and my brother visit them). Anyways in my eyes the signs were kind of there. So I decided to confront him and tell him how I felt and he replied nicely by saying I was a nice and smart girl but at the moment he was emotional unavailable only because he’s still in college waiting to finish his studies and he isn’t ready to be in a relationship because he wasn’t financially ready and also because he doesn’t like long distance relationships. Two days later we all go to a nightclub and the guys and girls bathroom had a sink where you can see each other washing your hands. So we are both washing outlets hands at the same time and he takes some water and splashes me a little with it as in playing around. In my eyes I kind of felt a little flirting moment. It’s just weird because just the other day he told me he didn’t want a relationship with anyone. We follow each other on Instagram but he only likes photos I post of nature as well as some of my car photos. We also share a Spotify account and I feel like every song he puts in his playlist is about love and stuff like that. We never message each other except when I told him merry Christmas to him and his family. Other than that we don’t talk. I really need your advice as to what you think. Thank you!
Hi Christine,
It’s sounds like he likes you as a person (and maybe a potential girlfriend) but if he says that he is not emotionally available at the moment, and doesn’t want to be in a long distance relationship then I would believe him. Stay in touch with him (but also go out with other guys) and who knows, maybe when he is done with his studies and he feels financially ready you will start dating đ
Bisous
Claudia
Hey claudia,
I’ve recently been texting this guy but I’ve known him for quite sometime. He lives far away but I will move over there in college not for him but for my dream school… I’ve always felt like there has been something between us every time him and his family come over but i don’t know weather it’s chemistry between us or him just being nice or shy. And how can I get his attention without being awkward.
Hi there,
I think the best way to get his attention is to ask him a question – or ask for his help. You have the perfect situation – you are going to move to where he is. After you have chatted via text for awhile, try and meet up in person.
Good luck!
Bisous,
Claudia
Hi Claudia,
I’m asian girl and I like a greek man when i visited Greece for holidays. He is my local tour guide for a day. When i’m back home, i have found him in facebook. We have chatted almost 2 weeks now. Daily chats but not every hours. Both of us are single but he did told me dont wait, find someone and get married on the first day of our chat. I always started the chat and he did replied whenever he is online even when he is working but there are some messages he just ignore but its okay for me as i dont hope he have to response me 24 hours. He sent me his selfie pictures total of 6 pictures but 2 pictures are requested from me. He didnt ask my pictures but i do sent him my pictures too. He said he lovely picture and he like it and said thank you for the picture. He like to sent me alots of smiley emoji. But i dont know whether he like me or not.
Hi there,
If he told you not to wait for him, and you are always starting the chats, then I would not invest too much time or energy in trying to build a relationship with him. He probably had a good time with you, and thinks you are a nice person, but it seems to me that he is not interested in taking it any further (probably due to the distance). I would spend my time looking for someone nearby.
Good luck!
Bisous,
Claudia
Hi Claudia,
I have recently met a guy online whilst gaming. He initiated contact, commented on my pic, says lovely things to me when we do chat online, always seems to be in a roleplay form though. Then he randomly sends me pics of his day, his cooking, his loved ones and his past. However, I see him in game in mornings, no hello in my inbox or anything..so to me he’s not into me or surely I would be on his mind ? But then I am getting mixed signals with photos he sends! He only seems to roleplay chat to me, the other gamers he has normal chit chat..so confused. Seems as though it is me who makes first contact daily. Please help decipher these signals đ
Lucy x
Hi Lucy,
It does sound like he is sending mixed signals, I understand why you would be confused. I would try a simple test – don’t initiate contact for 3-5 days and see if he reaches out to you. If he doesn’t, I wouldn’t spend too much energy pursuing him. If he does, see if you can meet up with him face to face before you take your virtual friendship too far.
Bisous,
Claudia
Hi claudia,
Me and this boy have been friends for ages, and recently we set up a private chat on instagram, ten minutes later we also were connected on imessages and snapchat. We have the little yellow heart symbol next to eachthers names and send eachother snaps every day trying to male eachother laugh. But does he like me? Or am i in the friendzone. Please be frank, because i dont want to get to far into this crush with a boy i might not have a chance with.. im also 13. Does these kind of things vary with age?
Hi Calliejojo,
It seems like he is making a lot of effort to communicate with you…so I would say that he might like you đ Have fun chatting with him and see where it goes from there…
Good luck!
Bisous,
Claudia
Hi Claudia,
So I received a Facebook request from a guy that I went to high school with. I accepted him and we private messeged on fb. He told me he didn’t recognize me but my name clicked and that I looked good with a wink face after it. He likes my stuff here and there. When I do send him a private message on fb he responds to it right away and it will be detailed messages. Is he interested or is he just being nice?
Hi Sassy,
It sounds like he is interested in you…if you are also interested in him then I would suggest meeting him face to face before you invest too much time and energy getting to know him (again) via Social Media. Otherwise you might never know if he is just looking for a virtual pen pal or a girlfriend…
Bisous
Claudia
Hi!
So I been chatting with this guy on Facebook for a while. I end up UN friend him because he got me mad. One day I saw that he add 10 girls at the same day and that is when I decided to unfriend him. I wanted to see what he would do once I done that. Unfortuanly he did not message me or add me backđ what does this means? When we gusto chatt he never likes to talk about him or his feelings. He always wanted to meet in person but we hadn’t a chance to do that. I would also like to know what dos this means when he add all my girl friends at his friend list after I unfriended him on Facebook.
Hi Sandra,
If he isn’t making an effort to communicate with you (or meet up with you) then I wouldn’t spend my time thinking about him adding your friends or not on Facebook…you are just going to waste your time and end up getting hurt. Are there any other guys that interest you? I would just ignore this guy and move on.
Bisous x
Claudia
Hi claudia
There is a guy who tells me he loves me a lot and i like him but the problem is he’s younger than me. I don’t know if he is serious or not. Please help me
Hi Anaya,
The quickest way to find out is to look at his actions. Does he keep his promises? Does he make an effort to communicate with you and see you? Does he introduce you to his friends when you see them together? Trust your gut, and don’t be afraid to date a guy who’s younger just because of his age.
Good luck! đ
xx Claudia
I met him about 6 months ago.Then i sent him friend request 3 weeks ago beacacuse i have a huge crush on him.
He accepted instantly and started to chat.We talked about our college,studies,tv series etc.But we didn’t talk
much about our personal life.He asked me few questions about me.But i didn’t ask much about him coz i was scared if he
doubts that i like him.I also don’t know if he has a girlfriend or not.Wanted to ask him but couldn’t manage to do it.
For this reason i didn’t respond to his last message.I wanted to see if he sends me message or not.But 6days have been passed
but he didn’t send me any message.What should i do? I want to talk with him but i’m scared of losing him.
Hi Enchanteur,
If you would like to restart the conversation, ask him a question (something he can help you with – for example where to find something, which brand of something to buy, etc.) We are all programmed to answer questions, so there is a good chance that he’ll write back…then it’s up to you to see where you would like the relationship to go (meet up again face to face or just keep chatting…)?
Bisous
Claudia
Ok we do talk with each other again.But the fact is now i know he has a girlfriend.Don’t know what should i do now ! I can’t just remove him.I don’t want to talk with him but still i do this.I hate it.I want to forget him but how ?
Hi Enchanteur,
If he has a girlfriend then I would RUN. Just imagine how you would feel if you were his girlfriend and he was chatting with other girls…
Do whatever you need to do to forget him – like being busy, going out and meeting other guys and getting rid of past messages (delete or email them to yourself and then delete).
Good luck!
Bisous,
Claudia
Hi claudia,
There is this guy at my work that I like and I don’t know if he likes me or not. I always catch him staring at me and at some points he tries to talk to me. Whenever I’m around him I get nervous and shake and I feel like he notices it, he recently added me on Instagram when we were snap chatting eachother in class (p.s we go to different schools). He was the first one to text me saying “what are you doing?” And we started having a small conversation. Today I decided to snapchat him asking if he was working on the weekend and he replied saying yes and giving me the days he was working, I replied saying cool I’m working Saturday and Sunday and then he sent me a picture of him with this girl saying cool boi. After that convo I’ve felt like I’ve been annoying him and now I’m too scared to go to work because I feel like it will be awkward. Also one of my friends at work likes him too but she doesn’t know that I like him until recently she texted me asking who I liked and I said that I didn’t want to tell her because the guy is friends with her and she asked me if I liked “him” and I left her on read and I feel like she knows. What should I do?
Hi Happy,
Just act normal when you see him at work. If you pretend like everything is cool, it won’t be awkward. If you feel like your messages are annoying him, then stop writing him and see what he does (maybe he was super busy, or maybe he’s just shy, or maybe he has a girlfriend). As for your friend, I would not go into details with her…instead I would blow it off and respond to her last message by changing the subject completely – like ask her where she bought something, her opinion on something, etc. If she presses for details about your crush, tell her you don’t like anyone at the moment…but if she has some cute friends that she could introduce you to, you would be interested đ
Bisous
Claudia
Hi Claudia,
I recently reconnected with someone I used to be friends with a couple of years back after not having spoken for a while. We met up for drinks then had dinner, he dropped hints about how I am more attractive now, messaged me straight away after we went our separate ways, we spoke for ages that night etc. He kept giving me hints and boasting about himself. I’m not great at texting and didn’t really respond to his hints. We have spoken occasionally since then/he said he cares about my feelings/we have tried to organise another meet up but he keeps bailing/he keeps liking my pictures on Instagram/FB and no one elses but never ever texts me first. Should I just give up even trying to be his friend?
Hi Confused,
It might sound trite, but it’s his actions, not his likes that show his true feelings. If he keeps bailing on meeting up, he’s probably not sure about what he wants (a Penpal or a real life relationship). I wouldn’t chase after him via text – let him initiate the conversation, and see where it goes from there.
Bisous
Claudia
Hi Claudia!
I have become good friends with a guy over the last year, and have started to develop more romantic feelings for him recently. I just got out of a long term relationship in May and he and I have been spending time together in small groups. We text or message each other every day, usually multiple times throughout the day. Things are complicated by the fact that he has social anxiety and he has only ever had one girlfriend in college. He has told me before he has no experience with relationships. We are both in our 30s. I really like him, but I honestly can’t tell if he just likes me as a friend or if there is the potential for something more. Any advice would be appreciated!
We see each other regularly in person throughout the week as well at our local gym or through our bicycling club. I know he likes me and wants to spend time with me. He has really been pushing outside of his comfort zone to do these group social outings. His birthday is this week and I sent him a message telling him to let me know when I could buy him lunch or dinner for his birthday. He responded immediately with a, âWill do!â followed by saying maybe our Friday cycling group (made up of 2-3 other people) would be interested in dinner after our weekly ride. The fact that heâs doesnât seem to want to spend time with me one-on-one when given the opportunity makes me think he just likes me as a friend. What do you think in this situation?
Hi Jill,
From everything you have written, it sounds like he just might be shy, and the reason he suggested meeting up as a group is due to his social anxiety, and not you. I would agree to going out to dinner with him and the small group, and then after dinner suggest having a birthday drink just the two of you (maybe you can tell him that you have a birthday surprise for him and you want to give it to him after dinner – you could get him something small related to biking, such as a book with the best bike tours in your area, a new water bottle, etc.). If you like him, give it time and hopefully he will open up and start asking YOU out đ
Bisous
Claudia
Hi Claudia, Right so there is this guy at school who I have only known for a couple of months (Im a new girl at the school, year 11) and he is in my form and several other of my classes. I really like him but I don’t think he will ever like me as he is popular and I am very quiet and shy. Basically, when we are in form I sometimes find him turning around and looking at me every so often during registration in a morning (i sit at the back and he is at the front). Often say if we walk in the same direction to different classes after form-I find that if were walking side by side- he quickly looks at me and glances away- and this is the same with when were in assembly and he sees me or in lessons i often find that he’s looking at me but only quick glances and looks away when i look back at him. The other day in class- we did an activity where we all had to write something on a piece of paper and throw it across the class room, but his piece of paper landed in front of me even though we were sitting at the same side and close to each other.Finally, when I’m waiting for the bus home from school and he walks past with his friends on the other side of the road-sometimes he looks at me and I’ve even seen him look behind a couple of times. I don’t know if this is anything but i really like him and we’ve never spoken đ i added him on Facebook and he accepted and wished me a happy birthday on Facebook on my wall a couple of weeks ago but that’s the only communication we’ve had-please help, could this be something or nothing-thank you! Lily
Hi Lily,
It sounds like he’s checking you out đ Since you have a class together, try and figure out some way to ask him a question about something in class (just to break the ice and get the conversation going…then let him take over from there).
Good luck!
Bisous x
Claudia
Hi Claudia,
I matched with this cute guy on tinder about a month ago and we hit it off really fast! I asked for his number but he said he’d prefer communicating over snapchat. At the time I didn’t see anything weird with that cuz I use snapchat a lot. A few weeks later we go on our first date. Again we hit it off. We laughed, talked about our shared interests, etc. We even had a little makeout session back in my residence. After the date I asked for his # again. He gave it to me, but still he was hesitant! He was like “I’m faster on snapchat” and he didn’t even ask for my #. When I said I’d give him my # he said “alright you can do it” in a non enthusiastic voice. While he does message me on snapchat and sends me pictures (usually I’m the first one to send one), he has not once tried to reply back to my initial text to his #.
So i guess i’m confused. We’ve been on 3 dates already, when we hold hands he rubs my hand with his thumb, and on our last date we even made out for almost an hour, yet it seems like he doesn’t even want my # on his phone. Also when we talk, I’ve noticed he hardly asks questions about me, I’m always the one asking him questions. Do you think he’s actually interested in me?
Hi Confused,
It sounds a little shady that he doesn’t want to exchange numbers, and he doesn’t ask you questions…I would be careful and not let yourself get too attached too quickly. Since you enjoy hanging out with him, try to meet up again with him in person, and if he doesn’t change in the next few dates (asking about you, and being less secretive) I would move on. It’s probably a sign that he either already has a girlfriend or is just looking for a little fun with no strings attached.
Good luck!
Bisous x
Claudia
Hi Claudia
I’ve met this guy on Facebook we’ve been long time ago but we didn’t know that we grew up from the same town until one day I posted that (I’ve never been So bored)then he started commenting asking what’s wrong so I told him I really missed my home and mentioned it by name then he was so surprised saying he also grew up there and the rest of his family lives there…emmediately he started chatting on messanger asking which section do I live from home and blah blah…we had 3 weeks now chatting to me at 1st he would respond to my messages very fast and show misses on the end of his messages..he has a girlfriend and said the problem is they living different lives so that’s what turns him off.he was asking me that we pray to God to bless this heavenly bond we having..this guy has only phoned me once and most of the time he chat on fcbk chat…he have gave me his no but I’m also scared to call as he don’t call me…and sometimes when I i send him messages he just ignores them…and I’m the one who start the chat and his answers are too short and sometimes I feel like he don’t like me but fooling me and sometimes he will say nice words and tells me how much he loves me but I no longer trust him…i do love him and don’t wana loose him…please help
Hi Confused,
I see one major red flag – he’s already in a relationship. If he already has a girlfriend I would definitely not get too attached to him…there are tons of single guys out there waiting for you. Just imagine if he did the same thing to you one day – started messaging another girl, telling her that he loves her, misses her and wants to be with her. You would be heart broken.
If I was you, I would move on and stop starting conversations with him. With time it will get easier and you will meet someone new.
Stay strong!
Bisous
Claudia
Hey!!!
So I started chatting with this guy and we’ve been chatting for like 15 months but like for 8 months we didn’t chat, because of this other reason I don’t know. But I was the last one to end the conversation and always first one to start . He likes to flirt a lot, and he doesn’t like it when I ask him deep question because he always change topic . We haven’t met yet in real life because of long distance. Most of the time he tells me how much he loves me and how sexy I am n how my eyes are so beautiful it’s amazing but it can get pretty boring sometimes. He have voice called me and talked about meeting me and about marriage but I feel like I push him so say or do such things . Once he sended me my picture that I don’t know where he got out of the blue so for now I just don’t know what to expect or do so plz help.
Hi Kari,
It sounds like you are having fun chatting with him and getting to know him đ However I definitely would not talk about marriage with a guy I haven’t met yet…even if you have great chemistry via text. So, try and meet up soon and/or at least start Skyping or talking on the phone. 15 months is a long time. Don’t spend another 15 months chatting with the wrong person
Bisous
Claudia
Hey!
Youâve helped me before and good news! It worked! Weâve been dating for almost a month! ( it will be on Oct 16). So I had a question. He has a friend whoâs a girl and I wouldnât mind it at all especially since I have a few guy friends…. However…. she is always hanging over him, texting him at two in the morning, and follows us around all the time! He canât even walk me down the hall without her being there in between us….. I used to be really close friends with her a few years ago…. Last school year my boyfriend had told her he was thinking about asking out her then best friend (not me) and she vented to me about it because she knew Iâm not the type to go behind peoples back and tell everyone. She still had a crush on him. Itâs obvious to everybody and there were rumors that theyâve had sex. The rumors died a while back but now are starting back up again since weâve been officially dating and Iâm starting to wonder if there is something going on. What do I do? The girl and I are okay friends. Do I tell him or just let it go? I donât want to get hurt but I do think I need some answers because Everytime sheâs around thatâs all I can think.
Hey there!
I’m so glad to hear that you guys got together! đ I don’t think it’s a bad idea to bring up the subject with your boyfriend – it’s strange that she’s texting him at 2am and always around. I would just be careful in how you bring it up – don’t accuse him of anything, or talk about it when you’re tired or angry. Just state the facts (like you told me) and ask his opinion (does he think it’s normal that she’s texting him at 2am?). Then see where it goes from there!
Good luck!
Bisous,
Claudia
Hi! I have recently friend with this guy from my univ. He is very friendly, seems so. He always chatted with me on insta, replied to my instastory and asked me for hang out.. So we went out tgt for thr first time ever – he asked me to watch sunset with him but we didn’t as it was raining. Thus, we just went for dinner instead. I realized that he deleted or unsend some of the previous messages that we’d chatted on instagram.. Why would he do that? And he doesn’t like my pics too when I’m uploading but he’s quite often to DM me. Btw, he has a gf and he even told me he doesn’t really trust her as she had once cheated on him. But, i don’t have any other intention to him. Anyone can advise? What’s wronged with him actually lol i really don’t understand
Hi Seera,
As he has a girlfriend, I wouldn’t get too caught up over thinking about him…you are just setting yourself up for heartache. He probably deleted the messages because he was afraid that his girlfriend might see them. Keep chatting with him if you want, but remember that he is taken. Don’t limit yourself, try and meet some other single guys and have fun! đ
Bisous
Claudia
It has been a year since we were close friends with the guy I like. We chat everyday, anytime, but more than chatting he use to give me nicknames and teases me a lot to annoy me. He also uses emojis in each message. Sometimes we share about our daily activities with each other but he never told me that he likes to chat with me or misses me. While teasing, he tell me that he knows about me everything but when asked, tells me that I’ll come to know about this in time. He has an another good friend, a girl like me and I doubt if he likes her. One day, I asked his crush’s name. He didn’t tell me her name and said I’ll come to know about his crush soon when he succeeds in confessing his love. We never miss day chatting with each other, no matter what. So please tell me do this guy really likes me or he likes someone else?
*Sorry Claudia for the previous message. It was typed wrong and I gave you my wrong email address!
Hi Alin,
From everything you wrote, it sounds like he likes you đ I would just continue chatting with him and meeting him in person and see where it goes…
Good luck!
xx Claudia
I really love my cousin. It is a little weird but no one can control his feelings. He catched my hand one day night but after that he begin to let me feel that he is ignoring me. I try to chat with him but he is not making any step. I am sooo confused whether he loves me or not.
Hi there,
As he is your cousin I wouldn’t pursue it any further…there are lots of amazing guys out there that are not part of your family. So even if it’s hard, I would move on.
Stay strong.
Bisous x
Claudia
Hey Claudia! So I met this guy at a seminar we were both guest speakers at. Iâve been wanting to meet him for a while because he went to my workplace last year when I wasnât around and I was really impressed by what he did. So back to the day of the seminar, I introduced myself and we had mini chats which didnât last long with nothing personal. He added me on instagram days later and sent a msg about how he was impressed and admired how I passed my message across at the seminar which I replied to and I tried to keep the conversation going but at the moment, what we talked about is kinda over and I donât know if I should initiate another conversation or just wait for him to say something else. Eventhough I like him, I donât want to come across as overly interested cos I donât know whatâs going on in his head. Thanks
Hi Tasha,
It’s really nice to hear from you! đ I would go ahead and initiate another conversation with him about something he presented – ask him a specific question. You could also ask him about any upcoming events he plans on speaking at (and throw in something about how you’re looking forward to continuing your chat). I don’t think this comes across as overly interested. You are just opening up the door, then let him take it from there. Let him invite you out for a drink or coffee or even ask for your phone number.
Good luck!
Bisous xx
Claudia
Thanks Claudia đ
He’s from my university. We were in same class for last 5 years. Now our graduation day will be coming in Jan 2018.Though it 5 years but we talked very little only
for class purposes. But for the last couple of 2 months we were together in a project. So i get to know him better . We have become good friends now. We talked in fb
but not very much as our class is closed now for exam. I feel like i’m in heaven when he’s around me. I dont know how to tell him that i really really like him !
As we get to know each other better only for 2 months. I don’t know how he will react,if he hears this !But i’m really scared if our varsity days are over
then i’ll lose him forever. What should i do? Should i tell him that i like him or not?
Hi Mavish,
It’s nice to hear from you! I wouldn’t tell him that you like him right now as he is probably stressed out with exams, etc. Instead, as you said that you are good friends, and are connected on FB, stay in touch with him that way. Write him a message about something you both like – end your message with a question and you are almost sure to have a reply. Also, as the end of the year approaches, ask him about the end of the year events he is going to (like parties and get togethers) and try to meet up with him there. Love takes time…and as you have already developed a friendship with him, and are connected, you are on the right path. Just be patient and keep communicating with him.
Good luck!
Bisous x
Claudia
Hello, I need some advice. (: I am 23 btw. In high school, i had this guy friend that l thought was cute and i didnt think much cause you know its just a crush. I had a crush but didnt make any moves but he was always shy and nice around me. 2 years ago he tried to talk to me and i kinda blew him off because i was so shy.
Anyways like 3 months ago he was tagged in a pic with someone i and him are mutual friends with. I found out he deleted me as a friend and I honestly was like WHY DID HE DELETE ME, WHAT DID I DO?? I was offended tbh.
Anyways i let it go and wanted to forget about it and then he popped up on my feed again, so i was like ya know im gonna add him back. he accepted. I put my snap on my fb so that he could add me but he didn’t so I was like whatever. I posted a new profile pic and he liked it… hes never liked any of my pics and hes a shy guy. I feel like I know him enough to say that if he liked it, he was low key trying to get at me. So my inital reaction was like OMG HE THINKS IM CUTE.
Hes the only guy that liked it lol. Basically idk lol hes not the type of guy to like a lot of girls pics. so my strategy is to like one of his pics once he posts something new so he sees that im interested in talking. What do you think? Its crazy that 4 years after high school im seeing him in a different light. BTW hes a marine. What are the chances of him messaging me? ugh i feel like i missed my chance.
Hey there,
I definitely don’t think that you missed your chance. I think that you should go ahead with your strategy and like one of his photos, then send him a message and ask him what he has been up to since high school…give him a wide open door (to talk about himself) and then take it from there! Have fun, stay positive and see where it goes…
Bisous x
Claudia
Hey, so I really like this guy but we only snapchat. We mostly talk about random stuff but we are snapping non stop ever since he got my snap. We both don’t send filters and I feel like I can talk to him about anything. WE stay up till like 1:00am talking every night but I don’t know if he likes me or not.
Hi Alicia,
If he is spending so much time chatting with you I would say it’s a good sign that he’s interested…Give it some more time to see if he wants to meet up in person. You can help him out by telling him about your weekend plans (hopefully he’ll take the hint and show up đ
Bisous x
Claudia
Hi claudia,this is going to be a long story but plsss readd, So I met this guy on my instadm and he sent me a msg first,i replied his msg and *bamm* we got along very perfectly, noticed we had a lot of things in common and we couldn’t go a day without chatting with each other, after our plenty chats on instadm we moved and started chatting on WhatsApp and I can say he spends most of his time chatting with me, he goes to work 9-5 but makes sure he texts me every morning before going to work and message me in between working hours,he cant go a day without talking to me, but what I don’t understand is he refers to me as his best friend, and I normally say stuffs like I don’t need a boyfriend and all to him, guessing I probably scared him away with that and he even told me one time he if he wanted to ask me out, he would have and promised he won’t, this guy involves me in everything that has to do with him,he trusts and tell me things about him that he has never told anyone before(not even his mum)he plans his future with me and even asks me for opinions based on his next move and he follows what i tell him,we talk about our goals together,he also tells me we’ll travel round the world together and if he has a girlfriend who doesn’t like me as his best friend, he’s gonna dump her for me and stuff, but truth is I likeeee or rather love this guy and our chemistry is so strong that he calls me the female version of him, we haven’t met each other physically tho because of his job and all but we intend meeting soon, plus I’m always scared he might not likee when we see physically cuz I’m plussized so i normally give excuses not to see him when he speaks about it too although he has seen few of my full pics on IG tho and liked it buh I feel I may appear bigger in real life.I’ve spoken once to his sister on the phone too so guessing he’s told his sister about me. So my question is do you think he likes me and would eventually ask me out or should I make a move being that I scared him away at first by saying I don’t need a boyfriend initially and do you think he might actually have someone Cuz he makes funny comments on some other girls pictures too. Thanks and your reply will be very much appreciated. Xoxoxo.
Hi Kim,
It’s really nice to hear from you! I have been in a similar situation (texting a guy I never met in person all the time) so I know how exciting and fun it can be…but if you want to find out if this guy could be the guy for you, you need to meet him in person. There are so many things that go into feeling attracted to someone or not – for example the smell of his skin, his body language, etc. I would suggest meeting him face to face and then seeing what happens from there.
Good luck!
Bisous,
Claudia
Hi Claudia,I am just puzzled with a guy.We know each other from high school and I noticed that whenever he passed by me he tends to be exaggerating either in his action or tone.He used to tease me and call me some nicknames that only both of us know about it.He even called me big sister.But then he told me that he liked my friend..Although my bestie taught that we looked more like couple loll He even asked about my opinion about the presents heâd give to my friend.that time I think itâs annoying but just pretend to treat him as normal friend and give my opinion as a friend.Sooner I heard heâs rejected by my friend but he didnât tell me.After some time he moved to other state with his family,he always tries to keep in touch with me and goes deep into my personal life we chat about our dreams jokes and daily activities He looks all my ig stories instantly and react or leave a reply to some of them.He always be the one who start a conversation although I ignore them sometimes. I know heâs trying to get more about me but I just frazzled if heâs totally letting go my friend.When I asked him if he still thinks of my friend he said nope and claimed that he already let go everything after he moved to other state.We have been chatting continuously in this two years And I find myself chatting so comfortably with him.he even shared me his private photos and asked my opinion about his photos besides he also asked for my photos or make a video chat with me but I tend to reject as I was a bit afraid moreover he will support me whenever I have contests However I am quite mad when he only liked my group photos but like frequently like other peopleâs photos especially my friends.I know he saw them as he will asked about my photos âactivities.I wonder is he doing like these on other girls too or just on me.Am I thinking too much and what should I do?
Sorry for the long story > <
Hi Eunice,
It sounds like you have a long history with this guy, and that you really enjoy chatting with him. From what you have said it seems that his relationship with your friend is definitely over, so if you like him, then get on a video call with him and see how it goes – is he flirty? does he want to meet up?
If you think he’s the one for you, then go for it!
Bisous
Claudia
I got to know a China guy in a cookery short demonstration in my previous in 2011 and had lunch with him and few other in the canteen. After that we lost touch until in 2013 we kept in touch and I invited him to a house warming party. We lost touch until 2015 but usually it seems like I am the one initiating the conversation and he either answers watsapp with one word answer or never replies and then I think he block me as I cannot seems to have my watsapp sent through. I get connected to him again via wewchat recently but I think most of the time I initiated the conversation and he either answers one word or don’t reply. Do you think I ought to forget about trying to maintain contact with this guy. He seems to be quite friendly, easy going and talkative in person but electronically very aloof and seldom replies or give one word response.
Hi Almy,
If he is rarely replying to your messages, or only giving you one word answers then I definitely don’t think he is worth your time. You shouldn’t have to do all the work, a conversation is two ways. I would use your time and energy getting to know someone else, there are tons of amazing guys out there!
Bisous,
Claudia
I also have another ex colleague whom I got to know briefly for a month in 2013 but he left his job after that. He asked me out on his last day and told me a lot of strange things like willing to shell prawns for me, can feed me if I like it and ask me about what songs I like and I brushed him a side thinking he is joking. To date I don’t know what he really thinks. I never contacted him for a year until early 2015 but usually I am the one who initiates the conversation though he will sent me cute greetings, pictures and videos most days to date. He also tends to give me 1 word answer or don’t reply at all and is always tired. Do you think I ought not contact him as he give me the impression that I am asking questions without any replies like not worth my time to even watsapp him since like speaking to a wall? Thanks Claudia.
Hi Almy,
Just like the other guy, I don’t think this guy is worth spending your time on. Maybe he was interested in starting a relationship with you in 2013, but everything you have written shows that he is not interested today (never starting a conversation, rarely replying and sending one word responses). I would stop communicating with these guys, start fresh and try to meet someone new.
Good luck!
Bisous
Claudia
Hi Claudia, this guy is my First love i meet him through facebook. Everyday i’m in love with him every time he didn’t messages me i get hurt and cry. Every time I message him he immediately answering sometimes he doesn’t greeted me i don’t know if he is busy with his work or family. I’m always asking him If he love me and he said GOD is in control. I’m just wondering if he love me back.
Please i need your advice đ
Dear Ghen,
It sounds like he cares about you, but it’s hard for me to say if he loves you or not based on the very little I know about your relationship. I would focus on being the best version of you by doing what makes you happy! When you are happy you give off a certain attractive vibe that should pull him in closer. If it doesn’t, then maybe he’s not the right person for you…but you will still be happy and that happiness will help you find your perfect match.
Stay strong. Sending tons of positive energy your way
xo
Claudia
There’s this guy at my school that emails me during the day. We’ll go through 100 messages easily in 2 days. He’ll even email me during the weekend too. And sometimes it’s the most random things like, “im so tired today” or “i saw this and it reminded me of that one school trip” He’s also said stuff like, you have a great smile! or that I’m really smart. and another he said im the best and nicest. He’ll also come to me on email with all his personal problems and we get really deep but then in person he’ll just pretend all the deep convos didn’t happen.
What does that mean? And do you think he likes me or I’m wasting my time?
Hi Maggie,
From what you have written it seems that he likes you (or he wouldn’t spend that much time communicating with you and let you inside his head). Maybe he is just shy in person and feels more comfortable writing to you. Do you see him alone? Or is it always in a group of people? If you can, try and spend some time with him one on one, he may feel more comfortable opening up if it’s just the two of you. When you’re together, give him the subtle signs that you are interested – eye contact, smile, touch his arm. If that doesn’t work, make a comment at a high point in a conversation (when it’s positive) that you really enjoy communicating with him via email, and that you would love to have the same type of connection in person…
Good luck!
Bisous
Claudia
It’s actually a mix of both, but it’s almost as if he’s two different people. When we’re alone or with a small group of close friends he’ll flirt with me and be close to me. But when we’re with a lot of people he’ll barely treat me different from anyone else. The most he’ll do is pat me on the back or something like that.
Thank you
Hi Maggie,
Since he flirts with you when you are alone or in a small group, it sounds like he’s afraid to flirt with you in big groups because he fears the other guys will tease him. Don’t take it personally, just expect it, and if you want to spend some quality time with him then try and plan things in small groups.
I really hope everything works out for you!
Bisous x
Claudia
Actually we’re decided to be in a relationship. I fall for Him but I am not really sure if he love me back. Every time as ask Him if He Loves me He says “It will happen over time”. Don’t know what’s the meaning of that i’m just curious and hurts.I don’t know who am I with him. And so, I decided to have a Space from now on because of what i feel right now. So he did agreed and it’s hurts me more. There are times he get jealous without a proof. huhuuuuhuuuu
Thank You Claudia
Hi Ghen,
I think that what you did is right. If he is not sure of his feelings, and you are feeling sad and confused all the time then asking for some space is definitely the right thing to do. Like I said, focus on yourself and try to meet other guys. You have made it clear how you feel about him…now it is up to him to make the next move.
xoxo
Claudia
Hi Claudia Cox,
Previously, I’ve written here and you gave me some advice about the man I like. I still haven’t told him that i like him. I have been talking with him last 2 months but only taking help from him . And he also knocks me but very rare. I can’t take it anymore as I want to tell him about my feelings, because everyday, night i’m thinking about him all the times. It really hampers my daily works as I have to prepare for job preparations nowadays. I can’t concentrate on anything , because I wanna talk with him but everyday i cant find new topic to start conversation with him . And also i don’t wanna disturb him as he is also busy in taking preparations for jobs. I want to tell him but i’m afraid if this will give shock to him , as I’m not sure about his feeling and he is really a tough guy to understand .Sometimes i think he is a robot đ . But I want peace in my life and also if he rejects me i don’t know , i can still be his friend or not
Hi Mavish,
I’m sorry to hear that you are going through a rough patch right now. If you have strong feelings for this guy, then set up a face to face meeting with him. Make it an activity type of date, and when the energy is high (you are both laughing and having fun) go for a little subtle physical flirting – make eye contact, smile, touch his arm. Then, tell him that you really enjoy spending time with him (add something specific you really like about him), that you understand he is stressed out and busy right now, but you hope that when things settle down you can see more of each other. Wait for his reaction and then go from there. I definitely wouldn’t have this conversation via text, but I would definitely talk to him. If you don’t you will continue being upset and not know how he feels about you. Please email me if I can help.
Bisous x
Claudia
Hi Claudia
There is this guy on a sports team that goes to the same school as me who I think is flirting with me and I want to know if he likes me for real and wants something more or is just being a nice playboy. We met when he had to pick me and a friend up from a game and immediately after he requested to follow me on Instagram. Later he asked to follow me on Snapchat and later he told my friend that he found me very attractive and when she said Iâll help you out he just said I just wanted to know if she talked which makes no sense later he started snapping me more and sending â€ïžGoodnight and asked for my number but hasnât messaged me first in a while but every time I text he responds right away. What do you think?
Hi Jamie,
Form everything you have written it definitely sounds like he is interested in you! đ Send him a question (something you know that he’s interested in or you talked about) to get the conversation going again, and then try to meet up with him in person to accelerate things.
I hope it works out for you đ
Bisous
Claudia
Hi Claudia
It’s me again đ I just wanna know if my man love me back.I told Him I Love Him so much and I don’t know why He didn’t say it back for me and I’m so sad, cried and hurts because i want him to do it for me too but he wouldn’t instead he change our topic or doesn’t reply me to say I love you too. I asked him if he love me back and he said “I sent messages every time for you it wasn’t enough?”
And sometimes he is flirting with me.
Every time he doesn’t sent a messages I’m freaked and told him we’re break up but he ignored my message and reply other topic instead. And given me an advice just like being a Positive in Life and everything.
Hi Ghen,
I’m so sorry to hear that you are still struggling with this guy…from his messages it doesn’t sound like he is ready for a serious relationship. Now you need to decide if what you have with him right now is enough, or if you want more…
I’m always here if you need some help.
Bisous xo
Claudia
Hi Claudia,
3 days ago, I confessed to him. I think he was too shocked, that’s why he just asked me “Since when did I start to like him ! ” And there comes the awkward silence. He broke the ice by telling to grab something to eat. Then we talked again but about another topics like how our life is going. He didn’t give me any answer to my confession and I also couldn’t ask him. I think he don’t like me as a partner that’s why he couldn’t say it to my face. And we didn’t talked from that day. No text, no phone calls. I don’t know what should I do now ! I really want a answer from him no matter what it is !
Hi Mavish,
If he changed the subject and didn’t want to talk about it, I wouldn’t push it…I think his silence is enough of an answer. If you keep asking him you will probably make matters worse and end up getting even more hurt. Try and focus on other things for the moment – doing stuff you like, being with friends and giving yourself some time to move on.
xoxo
Claudia
Hey Claudia,This guy has a girlfriend, and i like him, but idk how to tell him nor any topic about it. I can’t leave him because my body has this feeling i wouldn’t live without it. Please, help!
Xoxo
Chika
Hi Chika,
If he has a girlfriend then I would not pursue anything with him…it’s a lose-lose situation. If he leaves her for you then you will always be left wondering if he will do the same to you. If he doesn’t then you might feel rejected and sad. I would suggest trying to find someone else who is single…
I hope everything works out for you. Let me know if I can help.
Bisous xo
Claudia
Hi Claudia,
I understand your words. But I don’t think , I can move on easily without knowing his actual answer. That’s why I want to ask him again, ‘Has he given any thought about this matter or not !’ Will this be okay?
Hi Mavish,
If you need to do it to find peace, then go for it! I hope everything works out OK for you.
Sending tons of positive energy your way!
xo Claudia
Hi…there this guy I met at a class.we were just acquaintance.but with time we Text everyday and every time about all random stuffs…its been a year now so far only just once I didn’t get a message from him for nearly five days and I got a message saying his phone broke so he couldn’t…recently he started ringing me late nights and after so many tries I answered his call n we spoke for hours sometime though he calls me most of the time I don’t answer everyday…and once he asked for a pik of mine cos he took a video call I answered but I turned off the camera so he wanted to see me.when ever I ask him about his gf he say it’s you …recently he said I’m his wife we married decades ago too ….once late Night he called me and asked me to do a rehearsal of how will I propose a guy…he just needed to hear the three words but I refused with a funny comment and at the end he said it was all kidding.we live in different cities so once when I went to his city town I informed him but he was free yet didn’t come to meet me.I’m confused wthr he likes me or not?
Hi Shazi,
It seems that his texts don’t match his actions…if you were finally in the same town as him, and he was free, yet he didn’t want to meet you, I would say that he is either emotionally unavailable (not ready for a relationship), already in a relationship or happy with having the penpal type of relationship you have. I once found myself in the same situation as you are. We texted morning, noon and night, and he would call me up randomly and we would talk for hours. Finally, I was in the same town as him and I suggested that we meet up. We met, but he only stayed 1 hour and then said he had to go. I was crushed (funny enough he kept texting me even after he left). It took me a long time to understand that he was not looking for anything more than a text buddy. It was the most he could offer. So, don’t take it personally, and don’t think you are alone…
Sending tons of positive energy your way
xo Claudia
hello! i met this guy on the event but he lives in different country we talk everynight until 4am in instagram and after 2 weeks i told him that i like him and he just answered just emoji and i know from that moment that he doesnt like me so i want to move on immediately so i ddnt ask him anymore after his emoji reply and the nxt day he sent 9gag that reminds him of me and i didnt initiate a conversation but he keeps on sending me something and replying to my instagram stories idk if he likes me because i want to stop talking to him and dont want to get hurt anymore do you think he’s worth the risk?
Hi Nancy,
There are risks in every relationship. So, if you enjoy talking to him, and can keep yourself from totally falling for him, then continue…but don’t stop meeting and chatting with other guys.
Bisous x
Claudia
Hey Claudia,
Long story short I meet this guy 1st semester of high school and he became one of my best friends. We have been close friends since. I told him a long time ago that I was beginning to have feelings for him but he told me that he was still getting over his ex. Even though we hugged all the time and were all over each other. I understood completely and thought it was just a momentary lap. It’s now Summer and we decided to hang out just the two of us. We were at the mall and it turned out to be more of a date then just hanging out. He became this crazy gentleman and so many signs that he was into me, and things felt like it did 1st semester. I am into him but I am confused because over text we don’t really talk much and when I try to make conversation it’s very short. I’d like your opinion on the situation.
-Thanks
Hi Kate,
If he showing a lot of signs that he likes you when you spend time together in person, then I would ignore his texting (maybe he is just one of those people who doesn’t like to chat via text). Try and spend as much time with him as you can face to face, and for the moment only use texting to check in and make plans.
I hope everything works out for you! Let me know if I can help!
Bisous
Claudia
Thank you so much <3
Hello Claudia,
You have helped me before and I have a little situation. The last time I was on here I talked about a boy I was trying to date. Well good news I ended up dating him and we have been dating for a while. But, there’s a complicated situation I am very worried about. His mom says she likes me which is good but we both (me and my boyfriend) know she loves his ex. His ex is her best friend’s daughter. So basically like another daughter to her. I am not upset she’s in his life I get that completely. But, I am worried about how I can “get to her level” you could say. Any advice?
-Kate
Hi Kate,
I’m so happy to hear that things worked out with him đ As far as becoming close to his mom, I would just give it time. Be yourself around her, while showing interest in her by asking questions and remembering things she shared with you. Try to help her out when you can (setting the table, making the salad, etc.) without going overboard. If you make her son happy (which is sounds like you do) then I am sure she is going to want to get to know you better and she will probably end up loving you just as much as his ex! đ
Send me an email if I can help more.
Bisous
Claudia
Hey Claudia,
I’ve only been talking to my crush on Instagram or snapchat for two weeks now is it bad that he hasn’t asked for my number yet even though we just met on Instagram two weeks ago? Also, I was the last one to say something to him and he read the message and has not responded in three days should I message him again or leave it alone? I asked him if me being a virgin would be a problem for him and he said, no being a virgin is a good thing and he was not one. I said, lol you sound like a parent and I’m glad you think that then. It’s been three days since he read my message on snapchat. Is it possible he took what I said the wrong way for him to suddenly not respond to my message for three days when he read it? Do I message him again or wait for him to message me back since he was the one that read my message and hasn’t responded in three days?
Hi Nicole,
I would definitely wait for him to message you. If you keep messaging him you might come off as desperate. You didn’t do anything wrong with your texting…not it is up to him to respond.
I hope everything works out for you!
xo Claudia
I forgot to add that he texts me during the day and he has sent me selfies. Has he changed his mind about me?
Hi Dakota,
I wouldn’t stress out, as you just met him, you don’t really know his current situation. For example, maybe his texts are a little on the dry side because he is super busy at the moment. If you like him (which it sounds like you do) I’d give him the benefit of the doubt. Give him a few days, then try starting a new, fun conversation. Tag him on something you know he’s interested in, invite him to an event you know he’d like. If he still acts cold, then move on.
Let me know if I can help!
Bisous
Claudia
It has been 6 months I did propose a guy friend, that time he rejected me, saying he only sees me as a friend . I got hurt but accepted the fact. We stayed friend but not talking as like before. I was always afraid to talk coz I still like him and maybe I was living in a dream that someday heâll change his mind. But I never told him about this after getting rejected . But itâs been a week since, he suddenly wanted to meet me , and we met but before meeting he said he wants it to be our date . I was confused but I went just to know whatâs going on his mind actually! And that night he also told me about his previous relationship what was unknown to me. I was really happy that time as he couldâve have just hide that but he didnât. On our meeting day, unfortunately we didnât talk about our relationship , we talked about other things like our friends, works etc. But after our meeting he accompanied me for dropping home. In the car, he suddenly hold my hand and keep holding me until I got home . He also kissed on my cheek. That time I said you rejected me once then he said that day I shocked him. I couldnât ask him any question that day coz I was too shocked. Then at night I texted him do he like me! He answered me that he guessed that he likes me but this kind of thing takes time for him. And he is kind of a workaholic person, always busy and I knew it from the beginning but I still fell for him. But the point is from that day we havenât talked much yet not even texting. I know he is busy with his work but he can just give me message at night as we still donât know each other a lot . And I didnât give him message coz I feel like what if Iâm disturbing him . People can be busy I know but if they canât give you enough time then Iâm really confused do he even care for me ! I donât know Should i tell him all this and say that I canât this take anymore because everyday I feel like Iâm dying inside for his attention. I really donât understand if he likes me or not ! Or should I wait for more days to tell him about this? But I feel like at the initial stage of a relationship people should give more attention to their partners to know each other more . What should I do?
Hi Arya,
It sounds like a difficult situation, and some really bad timing. If you like him then I would suggest not telling him that you are dying for his attention. Instead, I would just check in on him to see how everything is going with his work. Tell him that you had a great time on your date and you would really like to see him again. Then the ball is in his court. It seems that he is interested in you…I hope he has the courage to make the next move!
Let me know if I can help.
Bisous
Claudia
I became friends with a guy whom i got introduced to by my bestfriend….We’ve had chats for the past 3-4 months now,he’s told me he likes me..I told him have not dated before so we should take things slowly which he agreed.Often times he always wants to meet up,And its either am stucked with work or something else, & sometimes when am less busy i try to make up but he bails out on me ….we stopped communicating for awhile,He messaged me sometime ago wanting to make up again…which never happened because we stopped chatting eachother as usual…he always checks my post but doesn’t chat me..and all his posts are always about having lead him on and i acted like nothing happened between us….Sometimes i feel the need to explain myself,but i just ignore,knowing that he wouldn’t reply my texts…What do i do now.
Hi Jessica,
What you do now depends on how you feel about him. Are you interested in him? If you are, maybe you can ask your best friend to set something up and invite him (then you can pull him aside when the time is right and talk to him face to face). In any case, I wouldn’t keep trying to contact him via text as he keeps ignoring you. I hope everything works out for you!
Bisous
Claudia
Hi, Claudia
First of, I have already asked my crush out and it was during the holiday (I liked him for two years) I thought heâd feel the same since we did started talking and he also added me to a group chat, my friends also thought iâll have a chance. But after I told him, I was so wrong, although I wasnât sad because he wrote a long paragraph to why he couldnât date me which is something Iâm grateful for because he dealt with it in the most nicest and friendly way.
The reasons was because he was busy with things and was having issues but he also said he wasnât rejecting me. After that, I told him that I would wait for him and I asked if I had a chance in the future, he responds with a âmaybeâ and âweâll seeâ.
School starts and we didnât have much interaction which is normal because we didnât have any to begin with. Just a few âhiâ and âbyeâ. Until I decided to text him, this time I asked if we could talk about things and he said âsureâ everything was going all well (this is embarrassing but I screenshot our conversation and sent back at him when it was suppose to be for my friend, he didnât mind though)
Here comes the weekend and I texted him again, this time he took a while to reply so I said â any longerâ … I think this affected everything because he gave me a paragraph on how he was busy and didnât have time whatsoever. All because I wanted to joke around.
He stopped talking to me, he also seemed to have blocked me and I was right.
Fast forward to now, recently his friends have been saying hi to me. There was this one time while walking home because school had ended, his friend said â….. said hiâ my crush was there as well but I just looked at them and continued walking. At school, one of our classmate/his friend came up to me to ask for a pencil, he told me that my other classmate had it but also jokingly said my crush had it. I looked at my friends and they looked at me, weâre all raising our eyebrows in surprise and then went back to walk. A few days ago, whilst sitting on benches with my friends I saw him walking with three other friends. These three friends all said hi to me â just me but my crush was on the far end and didnât say anything. I think he told his friendship that I had confess but at the same time it seemed really mutual because this was constant.
I am confused because now Iâm creating scenarios about him liking me and that he friends are encouring him. But at the same time, he also blocked me on social media.
Did I mention that my friend also has mixed feelings for him, it was actually when my friends were talking about him in sport and how he allegedly liked her before. I took this chance to question him after school and I told that same very friend if it was okay, she didnât mind much because weâll always be friends and shouldnât fight over a guy.
Btw I have two groups of friends one in class and one outside class. My friends outside of class all know that I like him whilst the one in class, only two know. The other in class friends donât know and theyâre the ones who are encouring my friend.
Anyways, my outside of class friends told me that he isnât worth it … now. When i first told them, they were saying stuff like âwhy him out of everyoneâ but still supported me. In fact, they actually teasingly shipped me with him last year but I had already liked him since 2016 but I denied that I did.
I should stop having feelings for him but I canât, I felt bad for annoying him when we texted just for my own good. I still want to be with though, I know itâs selfish of me. I could easily become detached from him but I donât want to because I feel like something might actually happen. What should I do?
Hi Nadia,
I can tell from your message that you really like him a lot, and I know that it’s hard. As you have already told him that you like him, I wouldn’t do anything else. I would wait for him to make the next move. I definitely would not talk to him about other girls liking him, etc. I would just play it cool. If you see him, smile, joke with him, and don’t bring up the past. Concentrate on stuff that makes you happy instead of focusing on him. Don’t keep talking about him with your friends, it’s just going to make you crazy (as everyone will have a different opinion). Doing all of this doesn’t mean that you are giving up on him, it only means that you are setting the stage to hopefully being with him in the future, when the time is right.
Bisous
Claudia
I have this one guy , & we both havenât talk for a month now & he stopped talking to this new girl because he wanted to try something new & suddenly the girl told me that they stopped talking & for some reason he starting to come back liking my pictures but idk why he would still like my picture & still viewing my stories & not open my chat for 4 weeks now Iâm so confused does he like me ? Or is he thinking about me ? or has feelings? Cause we havenât work out things together for awhile & im trying to make a sign on instagram by liking his pics.
Hi Michelle,
It sounds like a complicated situation. Even if he’s still viewing your stories or liking your photos I wouldn’t get my hopes up. If he is into you (and not a player) then he should be opening up your chats and asking you to meet up. I would not focus on him. Instead, do things that you enjoy and look for someone new and less complicated.
Bisous
Claudia
Hi Claudia
I was hoping you could give me some honest advice. I met this guy a few weeks ago and we got on so well straight away and were sending flirty texts for ages, and one night we kissed. The situation was difficult at first because I met him while he was with his friend and his friend also liked me, however the situation was resolved pretty quickly. I really like him and he told me he really likes me. He was messaging me all the time telling how great and hot I am, and sending kisses all the time. He told me that he was telling me things that he never told anyone and felt a real connection. But I haven’t heard from him in 4 days now. It is usually me who starts conversations so I wanted to see if he would message me first but he hasn’t. He keeps liking all of my Instagram and Facebook posts, but isn’t ever messaging me first.We come from different towns and I actually was travelling to his town for work (its nearby) and I deliberately posted it on facebook hoping he would message and ask to meet up. He liked the post but didn’t message me. If I message him, he responds pretty quickly and sometimes is flirty, sometimes not at all. I don’t know what I should do.
Hi Louise,
It sounds like you really like him, so I wouldn’t give up just yet. I would message him to try and understand the situation better. He’s either super busy (in which case he will probably apologize for his silence and maybe suggest a later meeting), or trying to be a player (he’ll ignore your message or answer after you have been to town – either because he has a girlfriend or he’s talking to a lot of girls). You can send him something light that opens the path for him to suggests meeting you “Hey Nate, still living the dream? Guess what? I’ll be in Boston on Wednesday for work :)”
I hope everything works out! I’m always here if you need anything.
Bisous
Claudia
Hi Claudia,
I was hoping you can give me some advice. So a week ago a got a message from this guy who I added him on facebook few weeks ago. After accepting my friend request he decided to message me couple weeks later and invite me to community event that he is organizing. When I opened the message I noticed there was a previous message he send me back in August 2015 after seeing me at youth event and decided to message me saying that he liked me and was interested to get to know me in person. However I never replied because I never got that message at all because my facebook is set on private so I can only receive messages from people I am friends with not strangers but he didn’t add me on facebook. So he keep sending that message 3 days back to back but no reply from me because I didn’t see them but probably thought I was not interested. Forward to last week, he decided to message me again but this time inviting to the event since we now Facebook friends. I was surprise to see the previous messages as Facebook showed me his 2015 messages he sent since I never knew he sent me a message then. Anyways, so I accept his invitation to the event and replied that I would attend since it sounds interesting event and ask if it was just one day event. He replied quickly and said to call him on facebook app so he can explain in details. So I called and we spoke 20 min and he told me he is selling tickets to the event so I should meet him the weekend to grab the tickets from him. I said sure since we have a lot of common friends and decided to meet him in public place. We met for 30 min and gave me the tickets but didn’t have enough so he suggest he will drop for me since he ran out of tickets another day. The event is next week. We got to know each little but about each other and find he is single and he asked if I had kids and I said no and not married.So anyways I am little confuse because when we spoke or met in person he never brought up the previous message he sent me back in 2015 when he saw me at the event and I never brought it up during our meeting. I am not sure if he likes me or not. If he doesn’t like me why did he message me and ask me to meet me so I can get the tickets from him? His messages are straight to the point about the event and tickets and didn’t seem to want to get to know me more. He never message me during the day or show interest to ge to know me since he has my number now. Is been three days since we met and still didn’t hear from him. Do you think he is doing all this because he is shy and afraid to express his interest since I never replied to his first message back 2015 summer or he is just only cares about selling the tickets to his event and just another girl? I’m confused. Please help me I really like him and not sure what to do and whether I should bring it about that first text or not or play cool. Thanks you!
Hi Amelia,
Honestly, from what you have written it sounds like he is trying to sell tickets to his events. I would just play it cool and see what happens next. I don’t think it has anything to do with what happened in 2015, and nothing to do with you being fun, cute or attractive. I think he just might have his own agenda.
Let me know if I can help.
Good luck!
Claudia
HI, CLAUDIA….can you please give me some advice?
there’s this guy in my school, so we met on Instagram, he started talking to me, we became pretty good friends and he used to greet me anytime we met. I started liking him, he heard the rumour, we don’t talk much now either on Instagram or personally which we used to do a lot before that rumour thingy, but he stares at me a lot across halls, what does this mean?
also, I really related to the first paragraph of the article…
Hi Sanvi,
I’m really sorry to hear about what happened. Maybe he is shy, and he doesn’t know how to make the first move. If you catch him staring at you a lot, then I would say he is interested in you…to get the conversation started again I would send him something you know he is interested in or that you know he would find funny and then ask him a question. See how he responds. When you see him in person, make eye contact, smile and say hi. Try to act as natural as possible and forget about the rumors.
I hope everything works out for you! Good luck đ
Claudia
Hello Claudia!
Hello Claudia! I seriously need your help.
I met this guy who is a full time guitarist at a gig last year in February. We followed each other on IG and started to talk on IG like almost everyday. Ever since then, i started to attend all his shows which is like every 2-3 months and there were times where i caught him staring at me from the stage and he will look away or smile. Sometimes our eyes will lock for about a minute long till one of us had to look somewhere else.
Apart from the gigs, he would text me in between his guitar practices/studio sessions and it will last till 3-4am in the morning.
The things he does till now :
1. Caught him staring at me from the stage.
2. Invited me to all his gigs and made sure i attend.
3. Talk to me after his band perform and say goodnight before we depart and he will dm me on IG saying thank you for coming.
4. Update me about the bandâs progression / latest news / tour dates.
5. Always reply my IG stories first and weâll talk till late.
6. Replies dm messages really fast unless he is super busy with his band.
7. Remember small and big details and love to ask questions.
8. Compliment me whenever i do something to my hair / post selfies/ wear something nice to his gigs.
9. Always gets mad whenever something bad happens to me (fall sick mostly) and he will make sure that i am okay everyday.
There was a time when i dmed him and he said âi was thinking about you while practicing just nowâ. That was only once.
It has been a year and a half and we have been talking on IG but he havenât asked me out.
I really like this guy and iâm not sure how he feels about me because itâs confusing. Does he likes me?
Thank you so much Claudia. xoxo
Hi Liyana,
It is so nice to hear from you! And yes, I think he likes you. I’m not sure why he hasn’t asked you out yet. Does he think you have a bf? Do you live in the same town? Or is he traveling a lot with the band? If he is in the same town then you could suggest meeting up for some sort of activity that you know he likes and see how he reacts…maybe he is just shy and is waiting for you to make the first move. If you are nervous, make it a low key invitation so if he declines it won’t be awkward.
I hope it works out for you. I’m always here if you need help!
Bisous
Claudia
Hello Claudia! Itâs great to talk to you too!
I remembered clearly he mentioned about his ex-girlfriend once last year and i opened up the topic to talk about our past relationships then we donât mentioned it anymore. I think (hopefully) he knows that i am single.
He stays in the same town as me, just that we are probably 1 hour away. I asked him out last year but he was busy with the band that he said heâll find time to hangout with me. So right now the only way for me to see him is to attend his gigs.
At the moment, he is working with 4 different bands so he travels a lot with these bands because the studios are in different locations as well. He is really busy and it took me a year to really understand his lifestyle.
I forgot to add one more detail. Hahaha.
When we first met, he didnât go directly to me and talk to me. His bandmate was the one who pulled me into a corner and asked me like âWhat do you think of him? He is tall, handsome and plays the guitar. I think you should talk to himâ and because i was too damn shy as well..his bandmate pulled us both and thatâs how we introduced ourselves.
I think you are right, he may be shy and waiting for me to make the first move but i am scared and shy as well. Both of us are like stuck and iâm not sure what we are. There is no label at the moment.
Thank you again Claudia.
Hi Liyana đ
4 bands? It sounds like he is on the move (and shy by the sound of your story). You can either stay patient and keep chatting with him as you are now, or you can do like I said before and invite him to some fun daytime activity that you know he would (and that would fit in his busy schedule).
Sending tons of positive energy your way!
Claudia
There is this guy that I’m friend’s with on facebook and he is also part of a whatsapp group from my master’s class. For the past 6 months he has been posting on his wall things that I like (which he knows either from my previous pictures on fb or things that I say to the group on whatsapp) The thing is that everytime I ask the group on whatsapp if anyone wants to go somewhere or do anything he never says anything. What is going on here?
Hi Melissa,
It sounds like he is interested in you, but shy. If you like him stay patient and keep asking đ
Bisous
Claudia
Hey Claudia,
Is it normal to feel safe from a stranger’s hug? Cause I sometimes do feel awkward when someone hugs me but this particular guy’s hug made me feel safe and secured.
Another thing, I caught him staring at me and he wouldn’t look away. What does that also mean?
Hey Ray,
Sometimes you feel a certain click with someone. It seems that it’s still very early in the relationship, so take your time getting to know him before you place all your trust in him. Watch is actions and see where it goes…
Good luck!
Bisous
Claudia
Hey Claudia l met a guy on dating sites .we click so well we ended up talking about our goals and how we want our marriage life to be we haven’t met ..we live in different countries.but we have been planning to meet in the next few months.he seems to busy during work days and normal chats with me at night ..he texts long massage and all his chats end up with l love you,you my wife,my queen etc..one day l tryed to be open to him and asked him for an advice about a family issue ..how l should deal with it .he seemed busy and replyed”at work now babes ,will think this through then will get back to you at night after work, okay luv.that night he didn’t replied ..later found out he blocked me.what does that mean
Hi Pia,
I am so sorry to hear about what happened. From what you have told me it sounds like he is not serious about the relationship. Words are cheap, he can say he loves you and wants to marry you, but you should look closely at his actions. The fact that he blocked you after you opened up to him is a HUGE red flag. As hard as it may be, I would move on.
Sending tons of positive energy your way
Bisous
Claudia
So I had a crush on this guy back in 7th grade. But back then I was like super insecure and never really had the guts to talk to him at all. Until years later I moved schools he started texting me. He gives me quick replies and he likes almost all of my messages on ig. Does this mean anything at all? o.O
Hi Mia,
From what you said, I think he is interested in you. He made the effort to get in contact with you when you changed schools and he still makes an effort to keep communicating with you. Do you ever see him IRL? Do you know if he has a girlfriend or not? If you still like him, drop hints about what you’ll be doing during the weekend and who you will be with and see if he pops up đ
Bisous
Claudia
Hi Claudia
There is the I guy am crushing on Instagram, I’ve never see him.
I did always reply to his Instagram story but he wouldn’t see my message.
But one day,I replied to his instag story and he liked my message.
Not only that, he had start replying to my messages whenever I message him and like it at the same time..Does that mean he likes me back or have feelings for me..or
What did you think I can do to make him love me
Hi Ewaola,
It’s nice to hear from you đ It sounds like he is curious (which is good, but it’s still early). I think until you have a chance to speak to him (more than just replies on Instagram) it’s hard to say if he likes you or not (and if you really like him or not). If you are feeling confident, try to slide into his DM’s and get a conversation started. Or, just be patient and wait for him to approach you directly. It’s really up to you and what you feel most comfortable with.
Bisous
Claudia
Hi Claudia,
I have a huge crush on my bestfriend’s friend who is giving me mixed signals. He added me on social media and since then we had some sort of interaction. He likes my posts, comments from time to time, doesn’t skip any single story and sometimes reply on it. It’s never a short convo, we chatted half a day a few times. We have many things in common, so there’s no problem to find interesting topics, and he definitely asks much more questions than me. On the other hand, I’m not sure if he’s interested or just nice. He always mentions to my bestfriend when we chat, like he needs some kind of her approval. My bestfriend told me that he has many girl friends, so he could really just be nice to me. Three of us went out a few times before we started chatting, but I can’t say that I noticed something flirty, except choosing a seat next to mine at a restaurant, and offering to walk me home. He doesn’t have a girlfriend right now, but unfortunately he had some toxic relationship in the past year with a girl who still has a boyfriend. I desperately need opinion about this. Thank you.
Hi Jasmina,
It is nice to hear from you! It sounds like he enjoys talking to you and spending time with you. As he has a rocky relationship history and is best friends with your friend, I wouldn’t force anything. You will feel it if he is giving off non-friend vibes, and he will ask you to spend time alone together. Keep communicating with him and getting to know him better while watching his body language and being your amazing, interesting self!
Bisous
Claudia
Hey Claudia
This boy on facebook, I have a crush on him and he doesn’t know that, he ignores me and he talks to a lot of girls on facebook and a bunch of people has been saying that he probably likes me and he is probably nervous to admit it. He ignores my text messages and he liked one of my post I sent to him and I didn’t say anything mean to him at all.
I really need help! He has been ignoring me since Jan 21st and I don’t think he likes me, but other people saying he probably does. Can you please help me out? Thanks!
Hi there,
There are some people who have a hard time acting naturally around their crush, because they are afraid that the person will figure out they like them and maybe reject them…so being aloof is a way of protecting themselves. He could fall into this category. If you like him, be patient (don’t bombard his inbox) and try to get to know him. Just continue being your natural, fabulous self and if he is shy and worried about being rejected hopefully over time his worries will fade.
Good luck!
Bisous
Claudia
Hi,
I’m a teenager and I had this crush on a guy in school (He’s almost 3 years older than me), he would always look at me and find some way to be around me. Since I’m home because of the virus we connected over social media (Instagram). He likes and comments on some of my pics and even responds to my stories. But when I text him its very lighthearted and nothing more. He also takes sometimes an hour to respond. But it’s usually 50/50 on who texts first. Also he stopped sharing his celebrity crush’s photos after I followed him. He’s never said I was cute or anything, but he’s used words like I’m a cool person to be around. I really like him (for a year and a half now). And I love talking to him, but I don’t want to annoy him or say something dumb. And I really don’t know if he just sees me as a friend, or something more, or if he just like me but is deciding to not peruse it. I’m trying to give him signals that I do like him, but I don’t know if I’m doing it right.
Hi there,
It is really nice to hear from you! It sounds like you are on the right track – you are not bombarding him with messages, you are keeping it lighthearted and just trying to get to know him under these very unusual circumstances. I wouldn’t change anything, just be patient and hopefully when you are able to see him again in person things will progress.
Bisous
Claudia
Hi Claudia,
Thank you for the feedback it really helps, But I just have another question. So I learned that, he transferred to another school but he still lives really close to me, his new school is close to my house as well. So it is still possible I can see him if we decided to meet up, but just not as much. As in conversation even though we are 50/50 we talk a little bit every few months. It’s been about three months since our last conversation. I want to talk to him, but I don’t know how to initiate conversation and keep it going, I don’t want to come off as awkward and I don’t know if he wants to continue talking to me or if he is just nervous like me.
Also because of the age difference if he didn’t want to talk to me, he wouldn’t.
Hey Jayda,
If you want to start a conversation with him (without looking awkward), send him a photo or a link to something he is interested in. Make a comment about it and ask him how he’s doing. You should get a feel from his response if he wants to continue talking to you. Good luck! I hope it goes well and you are able to meet up with him soon đ
Claudia
Hey Claudia
So here’s this guy I have a crush on since many years and the thing he knows it so i get nervous every time he is around. Recently i found him on Instagram..so i followed him and he followed me back too….after some days he unfollowed me and the post he liked ..also did not show his like on it then again after a few days he followed me again…and unfollowed..what could be the matter?
Hi Peace,
It’s hard to know what’s going through his mind. It could be one of many things. He may be trying to get your attention, hoping that you will send him a DM. Or, maybe he is back with an ex…or thinks that you are already taken. Or maybe, it was a mistake and he was clicking very clumsily. Before you make yourself crazy thinking of different scenarios, is it possible to see him face to face to get a temperature read? If not, wait for him to post something cool, like it and see if he follows you back again.
Bisous
Claudia
Hi Claudia,
A guy who shared a class with me last semester but we didnât really start getting to be acquaintances until 2nd semester (now). He has dropped a couple of compliments about my earrings, outfits, and shoes so I thought he might be interested in getting to know me, especially after he asked for my Instagram and started a conversation with a âHeyyy *Lydia*â??. We chatted for a bit (he specifically mentioned that he was surprised I hadnât posted any kind of selfies because he thought I was pretty and would have more??) and he was answering quickly so I thought it was going fine for a week or so. There was even a curious moment where he asked if I was going to an event since he apparently wasnât sure if he wanted to go and then I saw him at said event and he approached me for a conversation. He didnât have much to say but he might have just been nervous because one of my friends was right next to me. After that, he kind of walked away and we made eye contact over the crowd seemingly intentionally on his part a multitude of occasions?? After the dance ended and people had gone home, he texted me and asked if I had taken a picture of myself and to send it to him since I didnât have any in my camera roll when he asked in our previous conversation. I didnât send one, but I kept the conversation going (he said we should have danced together and when I mentioned Iâm not good at it he made a comment along the lines of âitâs about the hipsâ and he could teach me?? And that I loved good/my curves were pretty?) and he seemed engaged. I thought things were progressing fine to maybe something more, but lately he hasnât responded even when I started conversations. Fast forward to when we had a couple days off from school and ran into each other when we got back. I saw him glance up at me but then walk away? But then later he popped by and asked how my break was and such. He hadnât talked much since then, and hasnât really made any conversation starters in person or via IG dms. Today he made a little joke and nudged me with his arm (our desks face away from each other) and kept making eye contact during class though?? I donât know if I should just give it more time to see whatâs up or if heâs just not interested in anything other than a platonic relationship. Was I seeing flirting when it wasnât there? Or was I right but itâs faded on his part? I feel like itâs too early to ask him. Any advice?
Hi Lydia,
I am so sorry for the late reply, we have been working on the website (it’s new đ and for some reason I’m just seeing this now. It sounds like he was being flirty with you before, at and after the dance. So no, I don’t think you were seeing flirting when it wasn’t there. And by the way, you did the right thing by not sending him a selfie if it made you feel uncomfortable – you should only send photos when you are feeling it. Do you know what some of his interests are? Maybe you can start a casual conversation with him after class and if it seems to be going well, mention someplace you will be after school or over the weekend with your friends. Tell him it’s going to be a lot of fun, and he should come. I would try that approach and see if he shows up. Maybe he is shy and looking for a way to spend time with you without taking the risk of asking you out (the risk of you saying no). And finally, I wouldn’t ask him directly how he feels about you. Try the other approach and worst case you have a fun time with your friends. Good luck! Bisous, Claudia