Resources

Believe it or not, it takes more than a computer and a smart phone to run this site. Teaching singles and couples around the world how to harness the power of texting takes effort – yep, even this blonde cartoon character needs a few other materials to survive! Here’s a peek at some of my favorite resources, hand-picked just for you.

Contents

Texting Advice You Shouldn’t Miss

As you have probably already noticed, no single texting situation is the same – thank goodness! So if you want to rock each and every message, you need a formidable texting arsenal. Here’s a jump start to your higher texting education:
Text tips for men that can build better relationships and increase intimacy? Yes please!
http://www.realmenrealstyle.com/texting-secrets/

Why she stopped texting you (and what to do about it!)
http://www.socialsageskills.com/why-she-stopped-texting-you-and-what-to-do-about-it/

25 simple texts to improve your relationship
https://digitalromanceinc.com/mens/25-text-messages-need-sending-your-partner/

5 great texting tips for long distance relationships
http://dailyurbanista.com/2014/07/11/long-distance-texting/

How to move to more than just texting
https://www.relationshipheadquarters.com/why-does-he-only-text-me/

Dating Sites

Texting and online dating go hand and hand, so no resource rundown would be complete without a choice selection of where you can find love online. Who knows, we might run into each other…

eHarmony – If you’re not having any luck finding someone yourself, you should definitely give this site a try. Data from more than 44 million people can’t be wrong, right? Let them do the matching and you can do the flirting!
http://www.eharmony.com/

Fitness-Singles – Finding the right partner has a lot to do with how you like to spend your time. I LOVE sports, so this was a no brainer.
www.fitness-singles.com

Dating Apps

Apps built solely for text flirting – now doesn’t that sound like perfect practice? Some of these are fairly region-specific (for now), while others have taken over the world!
Nattr – Looking for just the right words? Let collective wisdom help with this super cool crowd sourcing app! A team of comedians and fellow users coach you towards the best answers. Probably the next best thing after my advice!
http://nattr.com/

Textdater – If you’re in London, and you love to text, then you are going to LOVE TextDater, a blind date style app. Jon, the founder, is a friend of mine with a wicked sense of humor, a mean 140 characters and a great app.
http://textdater.mobi/

LINKD – Another popular London-based app that not only draws a cool crowd but also suggests great date spots, the majority being personally picked by the founder!
http://linkd.co/

HappyCouple – I love this French/American app that helps couples have fun and build a stronger relationship. It asks a series of questions and then lets you compare your answers. Perfect for any stage of a relationship.
http://www.happycoupleapp.com/

Dating Pictures

A fierce online dating photo will get you in the door… and your new texting skills will keep you there! One of the first steps when searching for your ‘happily ever after’ is to get this right. Here are some fab places to start:
Hey Saturday – Saskia is an amazing photographer, but don’t just take my word for it, she was featured in TIME! I did a shoot with her in London and use her photos to represent myself and my brand (when I’m not a cartoon, obviously…).
http://www.heysaturday.co/

Dating Profiles

I can text the pants off anyone (wrong expression…? nah!) but believe it or not, there are better people out there than me to write a dating profile. What I can do is recommend some true experts! It’s a special skill, combining copywriting, experience and an understanding of what triggers specific emotions in online daters.
Irresistible Dating – I have known these two ladies for years and they are model professionals when it comes to pimping your profile.
http://www.irresistibledating.co.uk/

Matchmakers

Having actually been a matchmaker and matched happy couples, I know it works. It is a great option for people who are too busy or frustrated with online dating and really want a serious relationship.
Mutual Attraction – The world’s number 1 matchmaker and a personal friend of mine. You know who to call!
http://www.mutualattraction.co.uk/

South Downs Introductions – Tara is a bright, funny and a fabulous matchmaker who I had the pleasure of getting to know while sharing a table at the UK Dating awards!
https://southdownsintroductions.co.uk/

Lisa Schmidt –She’s from my home state and you know we Michigan girls always tell it how it is! A fantastic matchmaker, Huff Post regular and post-divorce coach.
http://thelisaschmidt.com/

Dating & Relationship Coaches

Whether it’s rebuilding trust or getting over a divorce, these pros are full of sage advice for anything relationship-related.
Susan Winter – You’ve probably already heard or read her advice – she’s been on Oprah and is a regular contributor to Huffington Post and Good Men Project, among others! A good friend and a great love mentor. Be sure to check out her FB page as well, she shares a ton of amazing posts!
http://www.susanwinter.net/

Laura Yates – Heartbroken? It may sound like an odd job title but my good friend Laura Yates is an internationally-renowned breakup and relationship coach. If you want expert help rebuilding your confidence and getting back out there, she’s your gal!
http://www.laurayates.org/

Hunt for Advice – You’re bound to find some useful tips from the hilarious Hunt Ethridge, dating coach and cofounder of International Dating Coaches Association. Plus, he’s fluent in French – it’s a ‘oui’ from me!
http://huntforadvice.com/

Natalie Moore – Natalie’s book “It’s A Match” is one of the best relationship books I have ever read. Her site is equally packed with tons of helpful advice.
https://nataliemooreexpert.com/

Datelicious – An amazing dating site down under run by my friend KP, who just happens to be hilarious, knowledgeable and well worth following.
http://datelicious.com.au/

Confessions of a Serial Dater in LA – Monique Kelly’s blog chronicles her years of dating in one of the world’s most vibrant scenes. Unsurprisingly, this girl knows what she’s talking about!
http://confessionsofaserialdaterinla.com/

Life Skills

If self-improvement is your thing, these are what you need. Make your wonderful self even more charming, cultured and well-rounded!
Bring Chivalry Back – It’s not dead, honest! This is a great site about how effective simple gestures can still be in the 21st century – recommended reading for all guys!
http://bringchivalryback.com/index.html

Social Sage – If you’ve ever struggled through an awkward conversation unable to think of what to say, check out this site. My buddy Nate can coax any introvert out of their shell to avoid awkward conversations, be more charming, and have more fun!
http://www.socialsageskills.com/

Elite Man Magazine – Justin Stenstrom is a life coach, podcaster and all around amazing guy. He’s transformed every aspect of his life and then gathered a bunch of experts to do the same for you. Love, love, love this site!
http://elitemanmagazine.com/

The Distilled Man – This collection of how-to guides for all things manly is run by my good friend Kyle Ingham. I don’t know many people who can whip up fantastic cocktails while grilling just about anything to perfection and making you laugh till you cry.
http://www.thedistilledman.com/

Mantellignece – More great life tips, articles and even an app. Manliness guaranteed. Love the site and its funky cartoon character!
http://www.mantelligence.com/

Primer Magazine – If you are a millennial male then you need to be following Andrew from Primer. He covers everything from style to spy skills to landing planes, all enclosed in maybe one of the most beautiful websites ever!
http://www.primermagazine.com/

Languages

Learning French has changed my life for the better. It has allowed me to connect with so many people from other cultures on a completely different level, and it’s been one heck of a fun ride along the way!
Rocket Languages – Want to get started fast? Then this website is for you – it has a huge offering and takes you from bonjour to being a fricking superstar!
https://www.rocketlanguages.com/

Internations – Not a language learning website but a really cool organization for expats who want to meet other expats (and have fun!). I‘ve gone to a ton of events, and have never been disappointed.
https://www.internations.org/

Style

If you want to text someone, you have to either get their phone number or virtually seduce them. And what’s one of the easiest, most effective ways to do this? Dress like a million bucks. Here are the moguls that I follow, am friends with and whose style I suggest you take notice of.
I Am Alpha M – Aaron is passionate, funny, and one cool guy. He isn’t afraid to tackle taboo topics, be it grooming, style or anything else. Sign up for his YouTube channel and you’ll see that his enthusiasm is contagious, and he’s as nice in person as he is on screen. Je suis une fan!
http://www.iamalpham.com/

Real Men Real Style – Antonio has years of experience in men’s fashion and it shows! His videos and articles are bursting with valuable information and beautifully done. He’s a class act that has helped me out tremendously. Don’t forget to subscribe to his YouTube channel.
http://www.realmenrealstyle.com/

Style By Rayne – After reading her book and following her blog for years I love Rayne’s fashion forward ideas & positive energy.
http://stylebyrayne.com/

Gentleman’s Gazette – Sven has created a gold mine of style and gentlemanly advice. Best of all? He walks the talk. I was blown away by his class and chivalry when we met at StyleCon in Atlanta. Don’t miss this site!
http://www.gentlemansgazette.com/

The Modest Man – You don’t have to be 6 feet tall to get the girl! Brock shares tailoring tips and will show you exactly how to dress for your height.
http://www.themodestman.com/

Really Cool Blogs

These are the best of the rest that fit nowhere (or everywhere!) but just had to be included. Featuring an appearance from yours truly as well!

The Art of Fitness and Life – Everyone wants to be that bit healthier and fitter, right? THIS is the site that can help you make the change – it’s super relatable and motivational.
http://theartoffitnessandlife.com

The Black Brand – Jan Black’s book “Better Boundaries: Owning and Treasuring Your Life” changed my life, it’s as simple as that. She is amazing, and a good friend. Her way with words can be an asset to almost anyone.
http://www.theblackbrand.com/

Daily Urbanista – If you’re looking for sassy, fun and ferocious information about Chicago, dating, going out, travel and much more, look no further. Founded by uber cool chicks – did I mention I’m a regular contributor?
http://dailyurbanista.com/

Blogging Resources

Text Weapon has been a crazy cool adventure and learning experience. It made me realize that it’s one thing to have a message, and it’s another thing entirely to get your message out to the masses! These resources have been integral on my journey.
Aweber – This is how I build my email list and stay in contact with all of my lovely subscribers. Of all the platforms I’ve tried, this is the easiest to use, the most versatile and the best value for money.
https://www.aweber.com/landing.htm

AWProtools – This basically supercharges Aweber making it much more powerful and personalized. Get them both – you won’t regret it.
https://awprotools.com/

SEMrush – You don’t need to know how it works to see that it does! SEMrush is a search engine optimization (SEO) tool that tells you all about your keywords and competition, including organic and pay-per-click marketing.
https://www.semrush.com/

Screenflow – My favorite screencast capture software. It’s easy to use and works like a charm on my Mac.
https://www.telestream.net/screenflow/overview.htm

Prezi – I looked at a lot of different options before creating my online course, and guess what? Prezi won. It’s modern, fun and gives you an incredible finished product.
https://prezi.com

Hootsuite – When I dove into social media it was sink or swim and I didn’t rate my chances on my own! Luckily I found Hootsuite, and have been addicted to it ever since. It allows you to make lists, schedule tweets and get down and dirty with your SM self.
https://hootsuite.com/

PopUp Domination – I have used this to collect a ton of emails. Quite simply, it works. It’s a great tool for building your list.
http://www.popupdomination.com/

Wishlist – This is a fantastic membership plugin that I use for my WordPress website, which makes membership-only content quick and easy!
http://member.wishlistproducts.com/

Blogmastermind – I did Yaro’s course when I first started blogging and it has been invaluable in turning views into sales.
https://www.ejinsider.com/

Book Club

You can call it sharpening your saw, continued education…whatever tickles your fancy. I read A LOT of books and these are the ones that really stood out from the pack.

  • How To Make Anyone Fall in Love With You – Leil Lowndes is probably my favorite communication expert. She is the real deal. Read this book and you’ll understand (and communicate like a pro!).
  • The Flirting Bible – Basic flirting is easy right? Just smile and lock eyes. Taking it to the next level is a little trickier. I absolutely love this book with its simple explanations and illustrations.
  • How To Make People Like You in 90 Seconds – I reread this book before every in person event. It’s that powerful, and that good.
  • The Definitive Book Of Body Language – Body language is a HUGE part of daily communication – studies show it makes up 55% of our message, and the words we use are only 7%!. This book helped me realize what I was doing wrong, and how to improve it.
  • The Sales Bible – Jeffrey Gitomer is the king of sales, and whether you sell vacuum cleaners or are a dental hygienist, the principles in this book are priceless. I have probably listened to the audio 30 times.
  • The Brain Audit – Sean is an amazing copywriter. I read the Brain Audit when first starting Text Weapon and still implement a lot of its principles today. Headlines rule!
  • First Things First – This book had a fundamental influence on the course of my life. It not only made me more efficient, it made me happier…now I understand and respect what is truly important to me as a person and a professional.
  • Swim With The Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive – Harvey is a chip off the Jeffrey Gitomer block. He drives home the importance of giving before asking, and teaches you how perform and network better and smarter.
  • Secrets Of Power Negotiation – I never thought I needed to negotiate until I listened to this audio book. It opened my eyes to the importance of negotiation, and just how powerful it is in almost everything we do. As a bonus, Roger is one charming, funny guy. Move over Seinfeld, this audio is addictive!

Conferences

What better way to discover new ideas, sell yourself and expand your network than meeting a bunch of experts and enthusiasts? Here are a few of my top picks.

Elite Man Conference – 40 experts in business, lifestyle and self-development all nestled in one place for 3 days this August in Plymouth, Massachusetts. I am so excited to be speaking at this life changing event – hope to meet you there!
http://elitemanconference.com/

StyleCon – This year’s StyleCon was an amazing 3 day conference in Atlanta, Georgia, jam packed with all the top men’s style and lifestyle influencers. It was not only amazing fun, it super charged my batteries and boosted my network. Highly recommended. Can’t wait to return!
http://www.realmenrealstyle.com/stylecon-2016/

And that’s it – only a few then!
If you have any recommendations for resources that have helped you out personally or professionally, I’d love to know about them, so get in touch!