How To Turn A Guy On Over Text – 4 Tips

Having trouble trying to figure out how to turn a guy on over text? The answer is even simpler than you think! You have the power to turn him on right here in the palm of your hand. Just follow these four easy steps to find out how to drive your man absolutely wild with desire at the push of (several) buttons.

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Texting is a great way to communicate how you’re feeling, whether it’s happy, sad, lonely, excited – or even horny. This article is here to help you with that last one. Read on for four tips on how to turn a guy on over text!

Tip 1: No Unsolicited Nudes!

I’m not going to talk about the number of nude photo leaks (ew) that have been in the news. I’m not going to tell you that you aren’t in high school. I’m not even going to talk about the problematic scenario of a guy opening a text with a nude photo in it while standing in line for coffee at Starbucks.

I’m just going to say this: unsolicited nude photos don’t excite him (at least in the long run).

First they confuse him. Then shock him. Then delight him.


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Then give him whiplash as he snaps his head back and forth checking to see that nobody else has seen it. Then give him something to do in the bathroom for 15 minutes.

And then you’re right back where you started.

What Now?

So, what’s the secret to how to turn a guy on over text, and keep him turned on long enough to benefit from it?

Building anticipation. Engaging his imagination.

And you just killed any chance of that with your XXX pic.

Nude photos are something that solid couples send each other. But it’s important to establish the fact that “this is for later” first.

So before you strip down, try this next tip instead. And guess what? It’s even easier than sending a nude photo.

Tip 2: Tell Him You’re Horny

Yes, it really is that simple. When you tell a guy you’re horny it engages the primal part of his brain that’s always geared towards sex. Because when you say I’m horny, he hears, I’m getting some later.”

This way you engage his imagination and get him thinking about your body without giving him a good way to assuage those feelings like a photo.

Why Does This Work?

Let me put it this way – no matter how horny he’s feeling, he’s not going to take care of himself when he knows you’re waiting for him. Texting is the perfect way to tease him and turn him on. Since he can’t satisfy his desire, he won’t be able to stop thinking about it.

That you aren’t wearing any underwear. That just thinking of him is making you wet.

Go wild! So long as you keep things focused on your own erotic feelings, you’ll be sure to drive him wild with desire.

And yes, in case you were wondering, texting something as simple as “I want you” will probably work too.

Tip 3: Engage His Imagination, But Keep Him Grounded In Reality

Once again, the key to how to turn a guy on over text (and keeping him turned on) is getting him aroused without getting to the point where you two are having phone sex. Delaying gratification.

The trick to doing that is just as simple as the last tip. Keep everything focused on what you are going to do, instead of what you are doing.

Example Of How To Do It

Text him, “I want you to do this thing to me later.” Or ask him, “What do you want to do to me tonight/over lunch/in the bathroom at your cousin’s rehearsal dinner?”

You’ll be amazed at where some of your suggestions will take the both of you. And don’t be surprised if you end up feeling a bit turned on yourself!

Tip 4: Play Up The Exhibitionist Angle

One of the hottest things about flirting via text is that you can do it from anywhere – and he could be anywhere too.

So play up the exhibitionist angle a bit. Text him about things you wouldn’t normally do. Play with your respective environments to think up some truly wicked scenarios.

Just remember, throughout everything, to keep building the anticipation without gratifying it.

Play I Wish

Text him that you wish he could pleasure you on the way to work. Or that you wish you could have sex with him on his desk, at his office. It’s insanely fun trying to think up wilder and wilder scenarios.

That’s part of the joy of learning how to turn a guy on over text – it’s doing sexy things in a public place with the added benefit of not getting arrested.

It’s its own reward. The consummation later is just the whipped cream bikini on top.

OK, I know that I only promised you four tips on how to turn a guy on over text, but I decided to surprise you with three more 🙂 So, here goes…

Tip 5: Role Play

Want to know how to turn a guy on over text? Role play role play role play!

Role play is perhaps your biggest weapon when it comes to knowing how to turn a guy on over text. It’s powerful because it gets himand you – to unlock your imaginations and write about your hottest fantasies.

But the best thing? It involves the two of you in sexy scenarios. If a hot story about you two getting caught in a storm doesn’t turn him on, he may as well cut it off and mail it in.

Role play via text is really easy to do, too. All you need to get started is a scenario. Then, you can just run with it.

Example Role Play

For example, you could text this to him:

“Lol imagine we were out in this rain at the moment. We’re walking down a deserted country lane, literally soaked to the skin. And then we see shelter in the form of a barn, hurrah! What do we do?”

It’s then up to him to take the baton. If he’s turned on – and he will be – he’ll take you down a very sexy path.

Sexy Scenarios

There are lots of wild scenarios you can create. How about this one:

“I hate elevators. Always scared I’ll get stuck in one. Course, I wouldn’t mind getting stuck for a few hours with you. Imagine if we were heading out to a bar and club and I was all dressed up in my sexy, tight red dress and heels. We take the elevator down – but it gets stuck! OMG. What would happen next?”

It’s the details combined with the setting and scenario that will drive him crazy.

Tip 6: Tell Him Where You Are

Want to know how to turn a guy on over text? Tell him where you are.

Let’s say you’re in the lingerie section of a clothing store. It’s arguably the sexiest place you can visit during the day. But don’t just visit – text him to tell him you’re in there.

Show Him

In fact, don’t just tell him – show him. Send him a photo of the underwear you’ve just tried on and are about to buy. It will drive him wild with desire. Here are some ways you can caption it:

“Can you guess where I am?”

“Oops! Look what I just bought.”

“I should never be trusted with a credit card.”

He’ll know the lingerie isn’t for you – it’s really for him. And this will turn him on so much that he’ll start to boil over!

Voila! How To Turn A Guy On Over Text

On the other hand, maybe you’re naked in bed. If so, let him know. This is exactly how to turn a guy on over text:

“All my clothes are in the wash, so all I can do is lie here naked all day. Shame no one is coming over to keep me warm.”

If you’re feeling up to it, send him a suggestive pic of some flesh, too. Just keep in mind that it’s easy to share photos, so “flesh with care” and remember the advice in tip 1.

Whenever you go somewhere intimate or sexy, definitely consider sending him a text to let him know. He’ll go into overdrive.

Tip 7: Text Him About Your Dream

Knowing how to turn a guy on over text is all about knowing exactly what he wants to hear from you.

And if he finds out that he’s been in your dream, it’s the absolute icing on the cake for him.

It’s not even about the supposed male ego. It’s more about the fact that you’ve been getting intimate with him in your dreams tells him you’ve been thinking about him, desiring him – and simply can’t get enough of him.

So What’s Next?

Now that you’ve dreamt about him, the stage is set for the next sexy step in real life.

It’s key that you don’t be too graphic with what happened in your dream. Instead, dangle the proverbial carrot in front of his eyes, mention your dream and play on the power of suggestion. Here is an example:

“You were in my dream last night. I’m not sure that I should tell you what happened, as it was kinda naughty. But let’s just say it was pretty hot. Are you that wild in real life? 😉 ”

He’ll literally be screaming “MORE MORE MORE!” at his phone – once he’s pulled himself together, of course.

How To Turn A Guy On Over Text Final Thoughts

For many people venturing down this playful and flirty road is new territory. Therefore, just like a new fitness routine, I would suggest easing into it. The last thing you want to do is shock your partner.

Start Out Slow

If you are normally sending “Hi baby, have a nice day”. You can gradually spice it up by starting with “Hey sexy/tasty, have a nice day” and then maybe move into “Hey handsome/beautiful, want to know a secret?” and then tell them something a little bit naughty such as “I love it when you bite my shoulder…mmmm”

And finally, what’s the most important part of learning how to turn a guy on over text? Make sure that it’s always fun! Happy texting! Sign up for our Free 30 day Texting Club trial and you’ll receive over 300 messages!

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About Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.

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43 Responses to “How To Turn A Guy On Over Text – 4 Tips”

  1. Yeah i love this!

  2. I’m in a new relationship and things a getting very serious but want to keep the spark alive,how do I do it

    • Hi there,
      Thanks for reaching out, it is really nice to hear from you! Here are a few texting tips for keeping the spark alive:
      – send him random thinking of you messages (be specific and genuine)
      – compliment him (guys don’t normally admit it, but they crave compliments too…)
      – tease him with photos of a new dress, a new pair of sexy shoes…make him imagine how beautiful you will look when wearing them.
      – be playful – if you only have something boring to text, don’t text. The same with rants or anything else negative.
      Voila! A few tips!

      • I am in a new long distance relationship and I want to turn my love on, we are teens BTW. And I just don’t know how! Helppp

        • Hi Lindsey,
          Hmmm When you say “turn your love on”, do you mean make him want to keep dating you regardless of the distance? The best way to do this is to send him little reminders such as photos, something specific you miss about him, jokes, and of course plans for when you will finally be back together 🙂

  3. How to turn un a girl with texting?

    • Hi Al,
      It’s great to hear from you! The key is to make her feel attractive and appreciated. Be playful, positive and don’t overdo a good thing. From there, a lot depends on the girl and your relationship. For example, how well do you know her? What does she like, etc.

  4. Hi I have this guy friend and he’s my best friend but lately I’m been feeling like he should be more than a friend but I want him to feel the same way….. How do I make him feel like he wants to be with me?

    • Hi Lexi,
      Going from best friends to more than friends can be tricky…I would start off slowly. Be a little bit more flirty – for example hold eye contact with him a little longer than usual, touch his forearm or shoulder when you are talking, compliment him and don’t talk about other guys around him. Teasing is also a great way to flirt. Challenge him in a playful way instead of just agreeing with him all the time. Little things add up, and can spark a romance between friends. Good luck!

    • Just make shure he dose not have a girl friend first then pull the strings but one at a time

  5. Hi I have a guy friend and we have been texting each other very often. But lately, some unhappiness incident occur and we text not as often as before. However, daily he would text me good morning, afternoon and good nite..that’s all. This morning, he text me “have a great day ahead dear” and Ive not replied him. How do I know if he wants to be with me? or should I disappear for a few days?

    • Hi Summer,
      What do you mean by “some unhappiness incident”? Did you have a fight? Guys are usually pretty good at letting girls know if they want to be with them or not…I wouldn’t play any games. Reply if you feel like it, and if you have something interesting to say. Otherwise, let him text you and see where it goes. Have fun! 🙂

  6. I met R once and we have been dating but he does not call me we only chat on watsapp he says honey I am still enjoying chatting with you we are coming to that but he does not invite me out but on chat he makes me feel heaven on earth i love gim just want to know if its right

    • Hi Dorine,
      I would take it slow…especially if you haven’t met him in person yet. Don’t get too attached to someone that you don’t know. Does he live in the same town as you? Tell him about your weekend plans and then see if he suggests meeting up. Maybe he is someone who is only looking for an online flirt.

    • If you waiting to go out with him it not happen . He wants only chat , he play a game , don’t waste your time . He will break your heart and leave you as soon he can get all of you. Just interesting is his name Roberto? I had the same situation , we never go out , only text and never speak on the phone ,he was playing a game . Awake , you deserve better .

      • Hi Tona,
        You are totally right…sometimes people just want someone to chat with via text because they are emotionally unavailable or just lonely. I hope that you find a wonderful guy soon!

        • Thank you Claudia, I hope I’ll find right person, just waste my time with one man who wanted chat or meet only for sex, we always want to love and be loved but to real situation different , don’t attract to man who is wrong for you.

  7. Made me realise how easy we (men) are very easy to conquer lol

  8. Hey am in love with this guy for two years now and he want a baby so bad while I have twins already in my past relationship and it didn’t work , I ended up raising kids by my own so am afraid if this matter can repeat it self so what can I do?

    • Hi Didi,
      I think you need to take a careful look at his actions. Is he a man of his word? Does he follow through? Do you trust him? Do you have the right environment to raise more kids in? If you love him, you love having children, and you believe that he would be a good partner (and father) don’t let the past decide your future.

  9. I’m in a relationship for a while now,the spark has gone,we haven’t been talking to each other for a while now. I’m worried
    what should I do

    • Hi Nono,
      I think that a lot of times the spark disappears when partners don’t feel appreciated anymore. Appreciation is more than just saying thank you. It’s also showing that you are grateful to have someone in your life by making communicating with them a priority in your busy day. You you could start out slowly by sending some random “thinking of you” text messages. For example, send your husband a text message in the middle of the afternoon telling him that you just saw something that made you think of him (be specific). You could also send him a simple, yet sweet message in the morning. “missing your lips on mine”.

  10. I love this and i hope it gonna help me in my new relationship
    Thank you!

  11. Hey Claudia Cox, I’m in a LDR and he’s really easy going and so kind. And he’s a little dirty around his friends. And I’m really shy, I get nervous to call him something simple like handsome, but it seems like to little just to say “I love you baby” and I really want to learn how to turn him on without being dirty and not too weak. Thanks for the help,


    • Hi Katie,
      You can turn him on without being dirty…the key is to give him something he can visualize, be specific (something you did together) and mix it up (sweet, sexy and funny messages). For example, you could text “Missing your smell on my pillow” or “Just got out of the bath tub…it felt too lonely without you”.
      And most importantly…have fun! 🙂

  12. hi i need your help i met this wonderful guy he is everything anyone could ask for but the problem is that he is from overseas my question is can there be really something serious between us please help me i’m desperate…

    • Hi Emma,
      It’s nice to hear from you! Yes, it’s possible to build up a relationship with someone who is far away…try and communicate with him on a daily basis (text, Skype, email, etc.). Include him in your daily life (send him photos, share accomplishments, etc.). Just don’t vent and tell him all the negative things that happen, even if it’s tempting. Take your time and build something special…
      Good luck!

  13. So, I’m talking to this guy and he asked if I was a virgin. What does that mean?

    • Hi Stef,
      In my opinion that’s a red flag…asking someone if they are a virgin is a very intimate question. I think it’s something you should only ask someone when you know them well, and in person. I would run…

  14. I met this guy through an online dating site, his profile (LDR).This is the first time in a long time. I feel butterflies when we talk, and when I think about him. Is it too soon to express my feelings? Do I wait until we meet to tell him?

    • Hi Kre,
      I’m so happy that you met someone special 🙂 Yes, I would wait until you meet him in person to tell him how you feel. For the moment just enjoy getting to know him.
      Sending you tons of positive energy xo

  15. I just got into a relationship and the guy I’m with gets horny easily but I don’t like sending pictures and its what he wants. He doesn’t screenshot them or anything but I still don’t feel comfortable sending pictures. What should I do or tell him?

    • Hi Lia,
      There are a lot of people like you (me included) who don’t like sending naked pics. I would tell him face to face that you are not comfortable doing this, and try sending suggestive pics instead. For example, a photo of your sexy lingerie with a note “waiting for you…” or just visually sexy text messages describing what you are wearing (or not wearing).
      Bisous xo

  16. I knew this guy before I got married but discovered lately that the spark is up again. What should I do?

    • Hey Julie,
      Even if there is a spark I wouldn’t act on it…it is just going to cause a huge mess in your marriage. Instead, focus on trying to put the romance back in your marriage. Plan a special evening for you and your husband – candles, wine and FUN.

  17. I have been in a relationship for like 7 months with this guy now and we’re pretty serious about each other. But whenever we get intimidate, it’s always me who makes the first move and plays the major part as well. I want him to intiate too, what should I do?

    • Dear Dimple,
      I would talk to him about it face to face, but you need to pick the right time. If you don’t want to be too direct, then ask him something like “what are your biggest turn on’s?” And when he asks you, tell him that you would love it if he would come in the door and kiss you without saying a word as he undresses you and carries you to the bed (or something along those lines, illustrating that you want him to make the first move). If he still doesn’t get it after the indirect approach, I would tell him straight out “I would love it if you would make the first move sometime and take the lead in bed”.
      Good luck!

      • I did approach him indirectly before, but now he’s starting to make the first moves all out of sudden which is working GREAT for me! Thanks alot Claudia✌🏻️💕

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