How To Keep A Text Conversation Going Like A Pro

Are you struggling with your text banter? Do you find yourself faced with brutal silence? Or maybe entering into a boring string of zero value added messages? Well, struggle no more, help is on the way! Read on to learn how to carry on a text conversation like a pro.

How to keep a text conversation going like a pro
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I have a confession to make: I’m absolutely fascinated by virtual attraction (but you probably already figured that out) Why? Because mastering how to keep a text conversation going strong makes you insanely more attractive! Along with text messaging, other modern communication gems like Face Time, Messenger, What’s App, Viber, and Skype all make it all the easier to stay connected, leverage your charm and to seduce from afar.

Let Your Fingers Do The Talking

Seriously, the world is your playing field! The possibilities for modern communication are endless, still a lot of people struggle with figuring out how to keep a text conversation going. For many, flirting at a distance simply doesn’t come as naturally as communicating face to face. If this sounds like you, don’t worry, because with a few tips you can be well on your way to mastering this fine art.

1. Kill It With Details

Much like snappy dressing, professional presentations and gourmet cooking, the devil is in the details. So before you start pressing random buttons on your phone, make sure that what you’ve written makes sense. One of my favorite tricks is reading my text messages out loud. Could they be easily misinterpreted as cold or aggressive? Is the punctuation correct? Are there tons of spelling errors? Random capitals?

Spend the extra 20 seconds to make sure that they look aesthetically pleasing and that the content doesn’t leave any room for doubt.

2. Show Interest In Your Partner

It may seem like a no-brainer, but it’s uber important. Before you go on and on about your long commute, or your crazy job, stop and turn the conversation toward the person at the other end. It’s surprising how many people practice one-way text conversations…yawn.

Ask questions that will encourage your partner to say more than a few words and make them feel special, not like they are being interviewed for a new job.

What To Text:
Beautiful day, beautiful girl…how did your race go?
Dinner was amazing. I’m curious—where’d you learn how to cook like that?
Would you even miss the Game of Thrones just to be with me? 😉

3. Be Patient

Even though modern communication is often fast-paced, you may still find yourself occasionally waiting for a response. Take a chill pill! A pause between replies doesn’t necessarily mean that a conversation is over. Remember, the goal is to have fun, and often the more aloof you are, the more attractive you become to your partner. If you really want to be sexy, be the person to pull the plug first. The ultimate key to seduction is leaving your partner wanting more. Key take away: mastering how to keep a text conversation going means being patient.

What To Text:
Too bad you’re busy…I was going to send you something special 😉
You making a snow man or something over there?

4. Focus On Fun

Looking back at my romantic escapades, I have always fallen hardest for the “fun guys”. You know, the guys with tons of witty and interesting things to say, who have a way of not taking every conversation too seriously. So, even if you are trying to be romantic, don’t stick to sonnets and love quotes from the Internet. Send something playful, friendly, or even a little sexy. After all, making someone laugh and smile creates a sexual tension, and keeps the conversation from stalling.

What To Text:
Just wondering – are you as turned on as me right now? ☺
Was just doing the math – still 62 kama sutra positions left to go.

How To Keep A Text Conversation Going & Going

Learning how to keep a text conversation going takes some effort, but once you enjoy a little flirtatious virtual communication, you’ll be up for the challenge! Next time you find yourself in a boring text conversation, or just don’t know what to say, pause, put the phone down, and do something else. Use a few of these tips for how to keep a text conversation going next time to give your conversation a mega boost. If you would like even more creative ideas, and over 300 text message examples, sign up for our free 30 day texting club. Have fun getting your text flirt on!

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About Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.

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34 Responses to “How To Keep A Text Conversation Going Like A Pro”

  1. I like a girl but she left me on read on snapchat

    • Hi Adam,
      I know it’s frustrating, but I wouldn’t worry about one snapchat….maybe she was just busy with friends and then she forgot? Do you already see her frequently in person? If not, can you set something up?

    • Hey Adam. Sorry to tell you, that means she probably doesn’t like you. As a girl, if I liked a guy and he sent me a snapchat, I would be quick to reply. Of course you want to be in communication with the person you like. She’s probably not the right one but there’ll be others!!!

  2. I’m just a shy guy, and i choke on what to say to girls when talking. Any tips?

    • Hi Jim,
      I hope you are having a nice weekend 🙂 First, make sure that you have open body language (don’t cross your arms and point your chest towards her) then look her in the eyes, smile and say hello. This will make her feel safe and comfortable. After that it really depends on the situation and the person. If you are at a bar, and she has a cocktail, ask her what it is, and if she has any suggestions on what you should order. If there is a band playing, comment on the band and ask her if she likes it and if she knows any other cool bars with live music. Basically, start with something you have in common, ask her advice if you can, and then go from there.
      Let me know if I can be of any more help.

    • Hey Jim,
      I used to be the same way, my heart would race and I would have a tremble in my voice. So I started looking at what she was wearing and complimented her on that or said just as I was passin by would say ” hey, you look great today” and leave it open for conversation

  3. hello maam,I just wonder if you can help me or give some advice to about a french guy, he is for London, uk.. The thing is he doesn’t speak English, so I always COPY AND PASTE to GOOGLE TRANSLATOR the things that i want to say to him.Its hard for me to keep up with the good conversation because i don’t know how to speak french but still im studying french now. Maam? How can i make good conversation with this french guy??

    • Hi Michelle,
      I’m happy to hear that you met someone special. Does he know that you don’t speak French yet, but you are learning? He should be pretty understanding if you aren’t very fast and you make mistakes. Actually I think he should be flattered that you are learning his language in order to communicate with him (what a compliment!). Do you have any plans to meet him in person? I would suggest that you at least schedule a short Skype call with him as soon as you have a basic level of French. On a side note, I don’t understand the fact he is in London but doesn’t speak English? He must speak some English. Maybe he’s just shy. See if you can chat with him even before you have a basic level of French.
      Good luck!

  4. Hey I need your help I’m a rookie when it comes to relationships only had one before and it didn’t end well. Fast forward I got a date on Tuesday and this texting thing aint going well. I’m running out of things to say I throw in a meme or two here and there a few questions. But it feels stale I feel like I’m the only one leading a half dead conversation. I dont know how to flirt through text and the convo has became so dead we dont text for hours then I have to try again. What do I do I’m really stressed out ?

    • Hi Derek,
      It’s nice to hear from you! The key to flirting is to not overdo it, or to try and flirt when you aren’t in the mood. If the conversation is stale, then don’t keep sending messages. You don’t (and shouldn’t) over text in the beginning of a relationship. It’s easier to flirt when you know the person better and have some shared history (multiple dates). In the beginning of a relationship, you can:
      – add an emoticon to an otherwise dry message (women like emoticons 🙂
      – come up with a cute name for her based on something she likes or you did together during your date
      – compliment her on something genuine and specific
      – bring up something from your date and create an inside joke “next time…”
      Send me an email if you would like more ideas. Good luck!

  5. Hi claudia ,
    i found someone from chat and he is from Tajikistan , we had good conversation,he is a good looking guy, he is very sweet and funny to talk.. he speak english but not so much, he says that my english is more good than him. We talked like we have know each other so long when in fact, we just meet in chat for at least 30 minutes. He already says a lot of stuff like he like me. a part of me felt flattered so i told him that i like him too..he calls me “my love”and he says im his girlfriend and then for 5 hours that we communicate the sweetness is still there until now.. can you advice me something about this maam??Is he serious about this?? Do you have an idea about the culture of a Tajikistan guy?? what are the signs that they have fall in love to a girl?


    • Hi Ann,
      It’s nice to hear from you! 🙂 It sounds like he really enjoys chatting with you…BUT if you have never met in person, and have only chatted a few times, I wouldn’t fall for him just yet (nor think of myself as his girlfriend). Do you live far away from him? Is there any possibility that you could eventually meet up? If not, I would think of him as more of a friend and try to meet other guys that you can speak to face to face.

  6. Hi Claudia,
    I’m wondering if you can help me out. My boyfriend and I are going through a rough patch, we’ve barely texted. And when we do, it’s very brief and not very assuring. He doesn’t compliment me anymore either, how do I make the conversation cute and loving again? I’m not the best at conversation starters..


    • Hi Sashi,
      I’m sorry to hear that you have hit a rough patch with your boyfriend. Try sending him a cute message just letting him know that you are thinking about him such as, “I can’t wait to be cozy in your arms again” or “just thinking of you…nothing new here :)” and then see what he replies. If he starts warming up, compliment him on something specific and genuine. For example, is he a gym rat? Let him know that you noticed his newly ripped bod. “Keep hitting the gym like that and you’re going to need to buy new clothes…looking pretty tasty :)” Once again, see what he replies. Hopefully changing the tone of the conversation from negative and mundane to fun and flirty will get him back on track too. If you see that he is still brief and not invested, talk to him in person. Texting is never a good choice for talking about serious stuff.

  7. hi claudia,
    can u help me on wht to text to a girl tht i like i have been texting her but now i am running out of idea n i am week on this kind of thing cuz i am really bad on starting a conversation to a girl

    • Hi Bryan,
      It is really nice to hear from you! 🙂 Depending on how well you know her, I would either ask her a specific question about something that is happening in her life, or send her a sweet/funny text message such as “get back to work/studying and stop thinking about me :)”. If you tell me a bit more about her and your relationship I can give you some more ideas.

  8. hi I’ve been talking to a girl for a month now and kissed her but she left for vacation, im not at the point where I’m comfortable so we snap and we Facebook message,here’s my problem I send her messages while she’s active but she doesn’t open them but I see her active for a while then goes away and comes back she doesn’t reply for hrs and when she does it’s a simple text I feel like she’s losing interest since she left and she way return for 15 more days. same goes with snap her points keep going up but she doesn’t open it for a while she knows it’s there what’s going on its driving me crazy and I don’t want to push her away by asking,but I can’t sit here and think I’m being played.

    • Hi John,
      Definitely don’t ask her if she is playing with you or not. That would be a huge mistake. Have you gone back and looked at some of the messages you exchanged with her in the beginning of your relationship (when she was responding quickly and you were having fun flirting)? How have your messages evolved? Have your messages become mundane or negative? If you notice that the vibe has changed, send her a compliment, or tease her. If she still seems to ignore you, then ignore her too. Go out and meet new people (including new girls) and then ask to meet up with her in person when she gets back from vacation.


    • Hi Ayodeji,
      It is nice to hear from you! If you want to make her fall in love with you, then be a good listener. Be genuinely interested in what she tells you. Ask questions. Remember specifics and make her feel special and adored…Don’t wait too long to meet her in person. You never know if you will truly like someone until you can see them, touch them and smell them (odor plays a huge role in attraction)

  10. I like this girl cause at first she was texting back to back and wanted to video chat and all and then the next day I played the game and did not pay her attention on the video chat and she does not text me quick or even video chat with me no more help what to do

    • Hi Taekwon,
      Have you apologized to her yet for ignoring her? If not, I would call her, leave a voice message, or send her a text and tell her that you are sorry for being so distracted the last time you video chatted. Then, I would set up a new time to chat with her…and this time be 100% present.
      Good luck!

  11. Ok so we have been texting and talking and she makes post of it and told me before she still has feelings for her ex so I feel like before we even get into a real deep relationship she might want him back I don’t know how to fix it

    • Unfortunately you can’t “fix” her having feelings for her ex. Have you recently spoken to her about it? If not, then definitely ask her before getting too involved. If she says “yes” then believe her and invest yourself in another relationship…

  12. Hi I’m speaking to a girl I like, and have been speaking to her for a week and the convosations are getting dry, I’m running out of stuff to talk about please help ASAP

    • Hi Sam,
      Have you sent her some funny photos? Complimented her on something specific? Teased her? Have you played any texting games? You could try one of my favorite texting games, Quick Fire. Send her a message with “the rules” – I’m going to send 5 questions and you have to pick one answer from each question. The questions could be anything, such as “heels or flats”, “bath or shower”, “eyes open or closed”.
      Let me know if you need any more ideas.

  13. I need some advice on keeping a conversation going between dates. Me and this girl went on a date and it was great, she wants to go again. I am having a tough time keeping the interest going in between and don’t want to get over attached. Me and her talk regularly but she always takes a few hours to respond. Can I e-mail our conversation for help or any pointers or conversation topics?


  14. Hello Claudia,
    I need a few advice from you. Because i have a friend on Fb, but not totally close, I just chat her, but she is so very moody girl! (Take note: we have not met yet in person). So, what is your exactly and good advice for me? And to get her attention on me in the chat?… Thanks

    • Hi Mr. Charlee,
      It’s nice to hear from you! 🙂 I would do a few things – first of all, I would ask her a few positive (nothing negative), open ended questions about something that you know she is interested in (music, sports, travel, etc.) These questions shouldn’t be too difficult for her to answer (something that wouldn’t require her to write 2000 words). Then, I would playfully ask her to meet up. “Ready to meet, or are you still Googling me? :)” followed by a place and activity that you think she would like.

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