Apology Text Messages: Three Strategies

What did you do this time? Leave the toilet seat up? Get lipstick on his favorite shirt? Maybe you were really hungry and ate all the leftover pizza your sweetie had been saving for a midnight snack. Hopefully you weren’t unfaithful . . . Whatever you might have done, remind your partner: to err is human, to forgive—divine. And what better way than with a thoughtful apology text message? No matter what the transgression, be sure your sincerity matches the severity of the crime. Read on for some helpful tips.

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Roof Roof Apology Text Messages That Count

Sending apology text messages requires strategy. The content and tone of the text depends on both what you did wrong, and whom you’re dealing with. Some people respond best to humor, while others are offended by anything that’s not heartfelt. Then there are the sassy, playful people who like to turn a sorry into something sexy…

Read on for tips for writing a winning apology text message no matter what your approach – sweet, funny, or sexy.

Operation Sweetness

The sweet approach is the most standard plan of attack and will work with just about anyone. What are the keys to pulling off a good apology? Show remorse. Break the iciness between you.

Apology Text Messages…A Few Examples:

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“I’m so sorry. You deserve to be treated better than that. I hope you can forgive me.”

“I feel terrible that I hurt you. Can we talk about it?”

“I’m sorry. You can’t stay mad at these puppy-dog eyes, can you?”

Make Them Laugh All The Way Back To Your Arms

Tread with care when sending humorous style messages. If you did something really horrible, making light of the situation will only increase the bad blood between you. However, if it was something banal (like forgetting to buy milk), or stress related (maybe your partner just “lost it” when they heard you laughing rather loudly in front of the TV), then humorous apology text messages might be just what the doctor ordered.

Examples:

“Yikes, sorry about that. It’s okay if you want to come over and glare at me for a while.”

“Savor these words because you will never see me write them again:My bad, I was in the wrong, I’m sorry.”

“I kind of owe you an apology, I guess. Maybe. Sort of.”

Sexy Little You

Admitting that you’re wrong and offering yourself up to the hurt party is one way to quickly be forgiven. Depending on your relationship, you can play with sexy apology text messages that turn a mistake into an opportunity for flirty fun.

Examples:

“Would some chocolate dipped strawberries and a warm oil massage help you to forgive me?”

“I’m so sorry. I totally deserve a spanking.”

“Sorry baby. Don’t worry. I’ll make it up to you tonight.”

Sending just the right apology text message can quickly erase any hard feelings brewing between you and your special someone. Always take a few minutes to think about the situation, then pick your flavor: sweet, funny, or sexy.

Texting is a great way to stay connected with your partner. Even if calling them during a busy day to apologize isn’t possible, finding a quiet moment to send something personal is almost always doable. Sign up now for my free 60 page report – The Master Texting Report and send your partner the type of text messages that they crave.

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About Claudia Cox

Claudia Cox is a modern communication expert who gives singles and couples alike the tools they need to improve their relationships. She is the creator of The Text Weapon Texting Club, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She loves the outdoors, baking tasty treats for friends, and of course, texting.

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25 Responses to “Apology Text Messages: Three Strategies”

  1. I am 11 years old and I messed up on a guy I like by swearing at the teacher and everyone was stearing at me I need help
    Right away. Plz.😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

    • Hi Grace,
      I’m sorry to hear what happened 🙁 While you can’t go back and change it, you can try to be your best every day. Make him notice you in a good way – do something kind for someone – or even your whole class by bringing in home made cookies or something special 🙂
      Bisous
      Claudia

  2. Hi, am Anthony and am 20yrs old. I need help me a girl I messed up with. I shouted at her cause I have issues with my anger management. Now she hates me so much and I have tried everything possible to apologize but she hates me even more. Can anyone help me.

    • Hi Anthony,
      If you have tried apologizing and she is even more upset, give her some time. Stop apologizing, leave her alone for a while and then when she has had a chance to forgive you, show her through your actions that you are kind. Rebuilding trust takes time.
      Bisous
      Claudia

  3. Heyy im 19 years old and i have a crush on a girl but these days wasnt going well with her… i was kinda not answering her much bcz of my rl probs any idea how to apologise for her?

    • Hey there,
      I would not apologize via text, instead I would invite her to do something fun in person. Make it a surprise, and tailor it to something she likes – such as going to her favorite coffee shop, etc.
      Bisous
      Claudia

  4. Hi, I put up an attitude and when my bf said something that annoyed me, I walked out on him.i apologised and he said he has forgiven me .only for him to break up with me 3days later. Saying he doesnt have feelings for me anymore. I’ve been begging him for 3days but he has been ignoring me. I really love him and i. Scared that I might lose him. Help please

    • Hi Bella,
      I think the best thing you can do is give it some time. You already apologized to him, so if you keep apologizing, you are just going to drive him away further. The next time you see him in person, be positive, polite and have a normal conversation with him (something not related to your fight) then see where it goes…
      Bisous
      Claudia

  5. Hi i was rude to this one girl that i call on the phone at a unaporopiate time like 12:37am. This girl is a crush but she have no feelings towards me. I kept calling and asking her can i call her bae and she repeatedly said no and i ignore her and saying stuff like she gonna be bae anyways and she hung up. Right then there i shouldve call back and apologize but i didnt she texted me that morning to tell me i was very rude towards her and she thought i would call back and apologize. I honestly didnt mean anyharm. Whem i see her face to face i never call her bae,boo or any of those words. Afterwards i texted her i truly deeply sorry i was but she didnt respond. I texted her the next day to ask for her forgiveness and to accept my apology but she didnt respond. What should i do? I regret that she had to tell me i was rude instead of calling her right back to apologize

    • Hi Cordell,
      I would let it go for awhile…next time you see her just try and be polite. Give it some time and hopefully she will forget about it.
      Bisous,
      Claudia

  6. hi am Nathaniel i need a serious help…my best friend came to spend the night with me and we had sex now she is bad at me…don’t no what to do and i dont what to miss owr friendship please help me

    • Hi Nathaniel,
      First, you need to decide if you want her to be your girlfriend or your friend. If you think what happened was a mistake, and you just want to be friends, then you should speak to her in person (never by text). Tell her exactly what you wrote me – that you care about her as a friend and that you don’t want to mess up your friendship. Then, give it some time (maybe she secretly likes you). If you decide that you would like her to be your girlfriend then you should also talk to her in person. She is probably just confused at the moment and is waiting to see how you will react.
      Good luck!
      Bisous
      Claudia

  7. Hi am fela I asked a nurse taking care of my dad out during his sickness, and now he’s mad at and we’ve been friends before asking her out. Pls help me

    • Hey there,
      I would just explain to your dad that you knew her before – that she is not only his nurse, she is your friend, a really good person and someone you are interested in dating…being honest is the best way to go. If he is still upset, ask him why and then talk it out.
      Bisous
      Claudia

  8. Am 20years old i have a problem with my girlfriend which will lead to separation an i have gave her all apology but she keep on saying dat she can’t come back again an she didn’t want me to call her again what will i do pls help me

    • Hi Samson,
      Sometimes the best thing is time – if she is really upset, then let her cool off. Now that 10 days has gone by, reach out to her and ask her if she would meet you for something neutral in the middle of the day – like a coffee, tea or ice cream. Don’t try to fix the problem via text, or even via phone – meeting face to face is the best option. When you meet, tell her again why you are sorry, then try to move on to something positive after you have discussed it (don’t beat a dead horse)
      Good luck!
      Bisous
      Claudia

  9. I hung up on my boyfriend because he said he had to go and it got quiet on the other end so I just thought hang up. I feel terrible because I feel like I hurt him and that hurts me. He isn’t responding to my texts and I didn’t even here from him. This isn’t the first time I have hung up on him but I always call back or he does but this time I didn’t call back because he started texting me! I don’t know what to do I really need help. I don’t want to lose him!

    • Hi Deja,
      If he isn’t responding to your text messages or answering your calls, it possible to see him in person and talk to him face to face? If not you could leave a note on his car, or send him a note in the mail. Tell him that you miss him and you’re sorry for the misunderstanding and that you want to speak in order to clear things up.
      Good luck!
      Bisous,
      Claudia

  10. I got a girls number and then we sat there awkwardly for about 2 minutes looking at the ground before she walked away. that was 3 weeks ago and we text a lot but she doesn’t want to see me and i think its because of that, i was wondering if i should just move on or if it is salvageable (were in highschool)

    • I was struggling with some stuff at the time so I wasn’t quite myself but she doesnt know that

      • Hi Caleb,
        I doubt it was because of that, because she still wants to chat with you (so she definitely finds you interesting). Maybe she has some stuff going on in her life right now and isn’t ready for a relationship. If you enjoy texting with her, continue, but don’t be disappointed if she just remains a pen pal. I would also try to meet other girls…
        Bisous
        Claudia

  11. I left my ex too many times in the past because of trust issues. We were in a LDR and after coming back home after seeing her one time. I caught her talking and giving attention to other men on FB and Skype. I have had a hard time of not getting her attention as much so I would react. There’s the back thought. Any how fast forward 2 years, we got back together but a week later I would see her go on and off in FB around 2-3am. I tried to confront her about working on our communication but all she said was were fine and we don’t have to talk every second. In my eyes if a woman is really into you. You both would make time for each other. I broke up with her and she got all upset and called me selfish. She never considered why I was upset. I tried to apologize but all she said was I broke her heart too much. Is there anyway I could tell her how sorry I am? I really love this woman and I feel like I lost control of just wanting to talk to her and just snapped. She told me she is moving on. I told her I hope to see her happy one day. Just so stressed right now.

    • Hi Chris,
      It sounds like it has been a very emotional period of time for both of you – between the break ups and getting back together. I would try to see her face to face, tell her exactly how you feel – why you were upset about the late night Skype/FB conversations with other people, what type of relationship you would like to have, how you would like to communicate, etc. and then give it some time (let her think things over). After a few weeks, text her something upbeat and interesting and start a new conversation. Don’t text/talk about the past and try to build something new.
      Good luck!
      Bisous x
      Claudia

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